I am married w/2kids. i have caught my husband many times thru emails and text messges but he kept on denying. i'm thinking of giving up the marriage, but stay for the kids....
2007-12-12 13:24:39 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Some husbands can have an occasional fling and still be good husbands. It takes someone with a real rational brain to separate the two.
2007-12-12 13:44:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
With some it becomes a habit, is it OK NO!!!!!!!!!!! If you are unhapppy and he continues to deny it then you have a couple of choices.
Have you seriously sat him down and talked with him about how you feel with the situation. Communication is the best way to keep a marriage together. Sometimes our partner is unaware that things are bothering us, because we don't communicate those feelings well out of fear of hurting the other or for whatever reason. But you need to lay it on the line and give him the ultimatum, either he quits and puts the effort he expends on these activities toward you or you are taking the kids and walking. If that doesn't wake him up then nothing will.
If he is unwilling to admit his flaw then you really should not stay just because of the kids. They are sensitive and will pick up on your unhappiness. Things will be much better for them and you if you sit them down and explain that you are not happy in your marriage, you needn't tell them the reasons, and you want them to be happy so you are getting a divorce. It would be best if both you and your husband could do this together, but he would have to be willing to do so.
Believe me you are strong and tuff and can make it on your own. Perhaps you can find another guy who would be willing to give you his love and attention the way you deserve to be loved. There are still a few of us guys out here who will treat a lady/wife the way they should be treated.
But either way your happiness and that of your kids should be utmost in your decision and trust me the kids will be better off by your not staying.
2007-12-12 13:38:16 · answer #2 · answered by Cliff R 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No it's not alright wish they had a law so we could throw his sorry *** in jail it's still cheating if you were single maybe okay but then theirs the children to think about you need to confront him about this issue and talk to a marr.counselor to keep the family together but if I was running this country he would'nt be going to jail so he could sit around all day and make jokes with the other inmates because that wont teach anyone anything I'd give him 20 lashes and every time he repeats the unwanted behavior another 10 lashes he would'nt do it more than twice same goes for other crimes as well if it wasn't for the bleeding hearts out there we would have a way better society agree
2007-12-12 13:38:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm going through the same thing with my hub of 5 yrs. We're expecting our second child soon and have decided to work it out after a year of seperation. We are signed up with counseling and have been more open with each other. A marriage is a journey but if your partner is not willing to help you become happier then you need to find some one who will.
2007-12-12 14:44:53 · answer #4 · answered by Stephanie B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, its not ok for husbands, but pretty much Im in the same boat as you. I stay cause we have three kids together, and I love being a stay at home mom. If I left Id have to go to work all day and would loose so much of my time I get to spend with my kids. Whose to say if its right or wrong...its just life. Im not happy with my husband and he knows it, obviously hes not happy either or why the other girls, but he probably just stays not to have to pay support. whatever it is its sad, pathetic, and the life I choose to live.
2007-12-12 13:30:44 · answer #5 · answered by crzyldy3 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey never stay married for the children. Nobody wins in this situation. Your self esteem and your happiness are ruined. The kids know that you are not happy no matter how hard you try to hide it. He will not stop since he has continued to do this. You deserve to be happy and to have someone that respects you. You also want your children to respect you and staying with a man and letting him do this to you is not the way to achieve that. Do you want them to think that this unhappiness and stress is normal? I would get out if it were me.
2007-12-12 13:36:14 · answer #6 · answered by kim h 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i have been cheated on by hubby and he said he only did it once. ok fine i believed him. a few days later i find emails and actually ran into the chick he slept with and found out it was more than once. i confronted him and finally got the truth out. at the time my pride got the best of me and didnt want every1 to know they where right and i was wrong about jumping into marriage so i stuck around and once everything was out on the table our marriage has been great. he pretty much stopped everything he used to pull but we're also in marriage counceling no kids just 2 dogs.
2007-12-12 13:30:26 · answer #7 · answered by ~::JAEL::~ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's Never okay, and you should stop giving him permission. Staying with him "for the kids" is weakness. You are truly doing them a disservice because they WILL find out what he is doing (it may take 20 years, but they will find out-- TRUST ME), and they will realize you condoned it. That, in turn, has now taught them that behavior is normal, and acceptable! LEAVE HIM!
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