i've seen a lot of questions from women about abusive bf and husbands. i'm not trying to be a smart***, i just don't understand. why do you stay with men that treat you bad? my answer to these women is that if your man is calling you names or hurting you, or is mean when he drinks, or is disrespectful then he doesn't really love you, no matter what he says the next day. and if he does than who wants that kind of love. i don't get it? they ask why does he do this- well its because he is an @$$hole. give me some insight why do they stay?
2007-12-12 13:15:25 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
hi pete,i stay because he has reduced me to less than a human being and made me broke.i am in a no win situation .
i stay because i need a home for my two tweenage children,boy 13,girl12.
2007-12-13 10:37:34 · answer #1 · answered by CHER 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well in most cases, the women all ready have self esteem issues prior to getting into these types of relationships or have been in a series of these kinds of relationships so that is all they know. It's really sad. I wonder all the time why this happens. They don't see the proverbial light at the end of the tunnel and not because they have black eyes. Other factors are they believe they don't have anywhere to go, but that isn't true. They feel they can never get away from the man so why try to leave which is even crazier. This may sound cruel, but I believe that some women feel they just can't get a good night sleep without a getting a good beating. Why else would you continue to put yourself through all of that. The ones I just can't stand are the ones that get away and 6 months later go back and end up dead. Brain damage. I almost have no sympathy for someone like that.
2007-12-12 21:24:48 · answer #2 · answered by Solomon Grundy 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
At the time I was with my ex I was not working because he did not want me to, which I look back at now and can't believe I ever let myself be in that situation but I had 2 kids no family no money and no where to go, told if I left him or told anyone what he was doing to me he would kill me, a lot of the time it was easier to do what he said to keep the peace then to well in his words disobey. That was 10 years ago I'm better now but sometimes women don't have a choice or any help or anywhere to go it's a bad situation , If you know someone like this help them. Merry Christmas
2007-12-12 21:26:13 · answer #3 · answered by firebird 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you, but as a young women who was once in an abusive relationship it is very difficult to get out because even though you know that the man doesn't love you like he should, you still, for some odd reason, love him. Abusve men have a way of degrading a woman so she feels that she deserves what she is recieving and that is why it is so challenging for a woman to escape the situation.
2007-12-12 21:19:31 · answer #4 · answered by Lilly M 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Some woman stay for the sake that it would be too hard to chang to another man, possibly home, and what if there's kids involved?!? Also some are afraid. Not to mention some that stay because they feel bad for some guys that "spill there guts out" even after they've done wrong. Personally I think woman need more self respect and need to stop letting **** like that go on in their lives.
2007-12-12 21:20:32 · answer #5 · answered by lgizzle 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
bestfriend you know the answer; or in part.
Most are scared of the unknown and they settle for what they have. Some know that they would be hurt or even worse if they left. Some have lived that type of life their entire life and don't know it can be better.
Those who discover life can be different will live the abusive situation, those who refuse to accept will continue.
Again, it's a matter of one wanting to change and taking the steps to change.
2007-12-13 10:20:06 · answer #6 · answered by TEXAS LADY 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have no idea. I would not stay with an abusive man. I'd drop him like a hot cake. Some feel that they're in love with him, so they want to stay...my friend is going through that..:(
2007-12-12 21:18:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm with you on that one- but I know some people are stronger than others. I don't know how someone could stay in that, but I wish more women would stand up for themselves and get out of those situations!
2007-12-12 21:20:01 · answer #8 · answered by crankyissues 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Low self esteem. Some women, feel that they can change this man. Some women, don't want to be alone, so they take a man no one what he does or does not do. It is really sad.
2007-12-12 21:19:07 · answer #9 · answered by That one 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
some women try to keep their family together, no matter what.....and that is sad. Their boys will grow up thinking it's okay to be that way, because mom lived with it for all those years, and didn't get away from it.
2007-12-12 21:21:39 · answer #10 · answered by Scorpius59 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋