I am not sure if I should let my 13-yr old son start dating. He is fully developed for his age, 5'11", 200lbs, and has facial hair, he just doesn't look like a 13yr old and I'm concerned he'll want to have sex. Girls his age call him and I found out that he's been "going out" with somebody at school, but hasn't taken her out anywhere. I really don't know what that means at this age. I figure he's probably kissed a girl. I know he's a good boy but I'm not sure me giving the go-ahead may send the wrong signal. Any answers?
2007-12-12 12:08:08 · 17 answers · asked by mrsL 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
well, im 13 and my mom doesnt really care. she knows im not having sex. just dont let him go anywhere alone with a girl & teach him not to say anything about any girls body parts-boys at my school do that to me about my chest so just teach him that.
2007-12-13 04:48:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my stepdaughter is 16 now. we didn't let her start dating until she was 16. when i was younger, my dad didn't let me start dating until i was 16. when you do consider letting him date, you may want to consider the many factors such as, MATURITY--emotional and social that is, RESPONSIBILITY, AGE. those are the ones i can think of off the top of my head. maybe it's different for a boy, but it just seems that 13 is a little young to be "dating"...and unless things have dramatically changing, i don't think the girls' parents at this age will allow them to date anyway. BY THE WAY.... "going out" with someone, as kids call it is like a kid's way of having a girlfriend/boyfriend, they call it going out, because they probably meet in the halls and walk to class together and kiss...but that's usually it-- unless the girl is a FLUZY. no offense, but any girl that is allowed to actually go on a date at this age, her parents are way off...because think about this....
at age 13, does a kid know the REAL consequences of pregnancy, rape, sex things like that? do they really know the difference from a responsible prospective to need and want. kids are just people learning how to do things. they spend so much of their time trying to dress a certain way, or act a certain way, or be popular. i don't think 13 is a good age to allow your son to date. if he does it behing your back, at least he will know he is doing something wrong and he will have a choice to make..which will not always turn out to be what it should, but that's raising a kid for you!!
ultimately, you can only do what you think is right, read some answers and choose what you agree with and discard what you don't, and also consider what your parents/guardians did with you...take your own experience and decide if you want to go the same route, or a similar route, or completey different new route. you have the answer with in yourself!
:D
tara
p.s.- the birds and the bees talk as suggested by that other guy is a good idea too! :D
2007-12-12 20:29:16 · answer #2 · answered by t3family 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Uh, too late for the birds and the bees speech. The early he starts dating the more heartbreak he is going to encounter. "Dating" at this age is always a disaster. Just tell him to enjoy going out and having fun. Save all the serious stuff for when he is more equipped to handle it. Trust me size and facial hair does not prepare him emotionally for what he will encounter. Really can a 13 year old have a serious relationship, shouldn't you at least be able to drive? Good luck telling him all this though! Keep talking to him, that's important.
2007-12-12 20:16:27 · answer #3 · answered by Jelly B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so, i'm not a parent of a 13 year old. but i'm 15, so i kinda still know what it's like at 13. at 13, yeah, guys are gonna think about sex. but i really don't believe that they'll be wanting to have sex. and usually at that age, a relationship doesn't go anywhere but school. they see each other there, and never just hang out outside of school. if they want to hang out outside of school, make it known that there's going to be parental supervision and no closed doors. and then tell him that the real deal dating will not start until high school. but at 13, dating's really not that big of a deal.
2007-12-12 20:21:42 · answer #4 · answered by Cara Lynn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I too have a 13 year old son. he has a girlfriend but only at school. he talks to her on the phone and online but they don't go anywhere. your still the parent and it's up too you. he will have to get over it. just keep telling him the rights and wrongs and what you did when you was his age. he will figure out the rest.
2007-12-12 20:16:00 · answer #5 · answered by Richard R 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Letting him have a girlfriend does not mean you are giving him the go ahead for sex. Make sure that you have talked to him and the knows what you expect of him. Also make sure that he knows about safe sex and birth control. Education and communication are very important. My daughter (13) goes to the movies with her boyfriend but it is always a group of them.
2007-12-13 01:01:13 · answer #6 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well i have 2 girls and they are going through the same thing . the kids are gonna kiss and stuff at this age and maybe have sex ... the only thing you can do is talk to them about it and hope that they listen and not try to hold them down cause they will turn on you ... just tell them whats gonna happen if they do have sex and they will!!! and just hope that you,ve talked to them enough that it sinks into thier head!!! good luck!!! and dont forget aids is back up in the us amongst teens so tell,m to keep it covered
2007-12-12 20:16:16 · answer #7 · answered by da8man2004 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my son is 15 but he asked the same thing, at 13 he already 6' and weighed about 240 lbs. puberty hit him early! but my problem was the older girls calling. i allowed him to date on the condition that both sets of parents would be there. they did not ask again. he is 15 now and i let him date only now he takes grandma with them.
2007-12-12 23:46:59 · answer #8 · answered by wikkedmomma33 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
weve all heard the horror stories about children that age having babies. while true, most kids that age are not sexually active. at 13 dating is just a status symbol. i would start talking to him about sex and stuff if you havent already because sadly its not that far off. but at his age i dont think i would worry. i dont worry about my 13 year old daughter dating. but you know him, so nobody can really answer that question but you.
2007-12-12 20:26:46 · answer #9 · answered by wendy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
holey smokes! 5'11 and 200 lbs!
get him into football... he's built for it! this way he'll be so into sports that he'll forget about girls for most of the time.
don't let him go out (on a date) with just a girl.
have him go to get togethers where the parents are supervising and there are lots of other kids.
2007-12-12 20:14:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋