We both know that we are divorcing, yet she yells at me to not go out with my friends until the divorce finalize. She demands respect, which i understand, but she doesn't give it back; especially when she damaged my plasma t.v., and keeps on hitting me.
2007-12-12 11:43:31 · 19 answers · asked by Randy E 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Call the police and press charges.
2007-12-12 11:53:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The answer to your question "Can anyone help me?" is very simple. You can help yourself.
You can help yourself by saying enough is enough. You can help yourself by walking out the door. Before one of you gets hurt even more than you already are.
Of course she demands respect. Just as you demand respect. But, you can't give respect to someone who doesn't respect you.
What she is doing is against the law. I don't know what part you have played in this. But, I am certain you're not just an innocent bystander. Since you have both opted to end the marriage with a divorce, and will not pursue counseling to try to fix what is broken, then you both need to make a decision to end the marriage once and for all. That means in seperate households. It is only going to get worse.
No one can help you, but you.
2007-12-12 11:54:48 · answer #2 · answered by sarlha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Randy ,Why are you still there ? Take Your things and leave before things escalate.You say before the divorce is finalized,Has it actually been filed?Do not take anything that is not yours.You are not allowed to have her income tax returns ,just an example,get your papers together ,get out.
If you can get some mental health counselling ,or even just phone the local crisis line,You will be glad you did.All the Best.
2007-12-12 12:04:41 · answer #3 · answered by Mia G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just because the divorce isn't finalized doesn't mean you have to listen to her. You're and adult just as much as she is. Give her respect but do what you feel like doing as you're an adult and capable of making your own decisions.
If she damages anything of yours or is hitting on you, you should call the cops and report domestic abuse.
2007-12-12 11:52:03 · answer #4 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you know your getting a divorced, why are you still living with her? thats only asking for trouble. Just remember to keep your hands to yourself, dont hit her, or hurt her in anyway, because she'll probably turn you over to the police, so you look like the bad guy. If I were you I'd get out, while the gettin is good.
2007-12-12 11:51:19 · answer #5 · answered by yvonne p 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
you need to call the police the very next time she put her hands on you. it not right and you should not accept it. if she wants respect than she has to give it. she is lashing out at you like this because she doesnt know how to effectively communicate to you that she doesnt want the marriage to be over so she tries to inflict pain on you as she feels it. you need to separate from her. MOVE OUT. you dont have to wait til the divorce is final. it will only get worse because she is hurting. go out with your friends if thats what you want. start taking you valuable out of the house in secret so she wont destroy anything else. but sweetie you need to leave the situation altogether and CALL THE POLICE the next time she hit you. GodBless
2007-12-12 11:58:54 · answer #6 · answered by Crystal G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you in the same residence? GO anywhere else, even a homeless shelter is better than staying with her. Call the cops if she touches you. She's pushing all of your buttons to make you react, then just see how fast she reports you!!
2007-12-12 11:56:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't have to wait until the divorce is final before you move. I suggest get out as soon as possible. the Chick is crazy and obviously controlling. how did you even get into this. ( must of thought it was cute at first. ) big mistake, big , huge.
2007-12-12 11:48:38 · answer #8 · answered by LC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When she goes to work move out and take whatever stuff you feel you should have-don't contact her-find another place to be.Get an order of protection.
2007-12-12 11:47:33 · answer #9 · answered by Lunaeclipz 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unless you have pressed domestic violence charges against her, none of this will do you any good in court because you cant prove it. You can always have her removed from your house if the violence continues before the divorce is over
2007-12-12 11:51:49 · answer #10 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she is trying to get you out of the house. Don't put up with this. Get legal advice and also go to the police. Either walk out or throw her belongings in the street and lock her out
2007-12-12 11:49:35 · answer #11 · answered by jennifer h 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋