rubbishing and discrediting you, how would you handle it?
because if theres people doing this in numbers, and you stand alone....there likely to influence alot of people in their favor.
im a bpd sufferer, personality disorder and granted, i do get paranoid feelings as i have had most of my life....but i do suspect that there are those doing this.
i become angry and get worried about having an aggressive outburst because i find these people very provocative.
plus i dont like the fact that theres those rubbishing my character and maybe spreading lies about me, trying to make me an object of ridicule
2007-12-12 11:15:56 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Auntie Marie SueB : im not in the same boat as you plus i cant relate to a thing you said. try elsewhere
2007-12-12 18:30:41 · update #1
the main thing to do is take control. You will be more prone to an outburst if you feel that you have been disempowered.
Could you approach anyone that you suspect? If you can stay calm and be reasonable it might work to ask them honestly what they have been saying. Of course it won't work if you lose your temper.
The other thing is that there are an awful lot of people who do not grow out of that childish attribute of wanting to wind people up and make them feel bad. Remember that this is a deficiency in them and not you. Rising above it it SO important, though I know it is also difficult.
Work at building your confidence. If you feel confident in yourself you will cope with it better. I have always inspired derision from ultra straight people because I am considered a 'freak' by some, and some people just find me intimidating, but fortunately I have always had pretty good self esteem, I can just think 'sod those idiotic wankers'!
2007-12-12 11:26:50 · answer #1 · answered by Ellesar 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you react to the fears etc of ridicule in the way that you want to, then is it not simply likely that your fame will spread and you'll only invite the ridicule through your actions, that you didn't want in the first place!
You wrote > i dont like the fact that theres those rubbishing my character and maybe ....etc< ~
You use the word 'fact' when you have stated earlier that you have feelings of 'Paranoia.' Given the state of Paranoia, which is 'suspiscious that people are out to get you,' then is your statement founded on actual fact / evidence, or your 'suspiscion' of this?
I'm curious as to Why you think that people have nothing more or better to do with their lives than to 'have it in for you!'
Why you? Is it that you invite this responce to you through your own behaviour?
This is not a critiscism of you, but what I see as perfectly valid questions to ask of yourself.
Sash.
2007-12-12 20:05:48 · answer #2 · answered by sashtou 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the same boat u are. Trying to keep my precious energy on a highly good note~the more you try the easier it gets believe, just stay on top of it. {Feeding yourself w/GOOD thoughts, doing good things for you, surrounding urself w/good character type ppl, like yourself} and kinda developing your character to even better than it already is, because you know what? Most ppl are intelligent enough to observe a backstabber spreading destructive words around abt someone [no matter how much the cut throat individual "thinks" they are] Ultimately I believe it is definately true that those ppl who behave this way are only making themselves look horrible within the eyes of everyone else. Esp. as time goes on and these intelligent folks see the WHOLE picture. Because when the "victim" isn't there if the gossip takes place [either long distance or local] they obviously cannot defend themselves socially/politically, morally,ect. It makes the social destructor [gossiper] look pretty disgusting, even when they may or may not be taken in momentarily by what that idiot is saying -- sooner or later others really see the truth.
The funny thing IS people who spread lies about others are so much caught up in their own self-image, ARE so insecure within themselves + in fantasyland to some extent they actually believe others believe every word they are saying. When in fact, in time, they utterly are exposing who they are; one big empty black hole of a soul who needs tremendous help upstairs and much more.
2007-12-12 18:16:08 · answer #3 · answered by Auntie Marie SueB 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
They have Fox News as a mouthpiece for them for the last 10 years and that is their most effective weapon. They have always had more money for campaigns although it was about even in 2008. They hire batteries of psychologists, image consultants, public relations types to manipulate people. Look at the clever Tea Party movement capitalized on by politicians, and strengthened by a former Congressman, Dick Armey. Republican males are more aggressive and driven by nature than Democrats who want harmony and cooperation. Republics have a barracuda instinct and can smell blood in the water. They know how to push Democratic buttons on sacrosanct issues and distort them. Maybe they are all sociopaths except for the more intellectual ones. Self-aggrandizement is a good reason. They are just more clever than the Dems, whose candidates have seem timid and soft-spoken in public. I always say to myself, the Republics attack and the Dems respond. The difference between the parties philosophically is the Dems want to save the planet, the Repubs want to save the stock market.
2016-05-23 07:13:34 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Know who you are.
Do not worry about what you have done, for it is just that: DONE!
Another notch on the belt, bad or good is a notch none the less.
People spreading word of you, defaming, hateful, or otherwise are merely trying to make you look bad for their own personal reasons... Which people will recognize in time.
BE HAPPY WITH YOURSELF, BECAUSE YOU WONT GET ANOTHER SHOT AT THIS MATE!
2007-12-12 11:22:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If done for no reason then we have a case of jealousy on our hands. You can ignore it. Some people may believe it others won't, the ones who dont you know are your true friends. You can either ignore and let it go or you spread it about them. Thats what i did and they shut up. If they continue to do it i will make it worse and they will wish they never said ANYTHING about me.
2007-12-12 11:21:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because of my belief in God, and Jesus, I can say that I recognize the force behind the people that do that..You are never alone, when you have Them in your life...You can feel their compassion, when you pray for their help, to help you deal with these things...this world is full of mean spirited people, and kind people...just don't worry about them..it is a waste of your precious time!
2007-12-12 11:25:40 · answer #7 · answered by MotherKittyKat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who is doing this Fantome?
Is it really happening or is it a symptom of BPD?
In either case we can't stop people from doing what they do.
All we can do is not let it affect us.
If you want peace of mind and stop this anxiety - you have to control your reactions. You have to look after yourself.
Some people enjoy making others uncomfortable.
If you keep reacting you are giving them what they want for their feeble amusement.
2007-12-12 11:26:23 · answer #8 · answered by flip 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Leave them be. My theory is as long as they are talking about me, they are leaving someone else alone. I have to answer to myself and live with myself and my God. I know what I did and so does He. The rest are rather insignificant.
2007-12-12 11:26:02 · answer #9 · answered by Deborah S 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If it is lies being spread by one person, and it cant harm you, then you just have to rise above it.....after all they are just one person in millions.....a p**s in the ocean, as i like to say.
2007-12-12 11:24:45 · answer #10 · answered by Slinky 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋