married for 2 yrs
together for 6
i'm into kinkier stuff
he's not
i'm heavier
he's thinner
we are trying to have children
he's against "toys"
he likes me on top
i like doggie style
he doesn't like roleplaying
i've never orgasmed
porn is okay, but we are christians--so i have a hard time wanting to go into a porn store
we have sex around 2 times a week
i want it all the time, but we work opposite shifts
any ideas? i'm getting bored with our regular sex.
he doesn't have any drive to please me anymore.
it's just boring nowadays. :(
2007-12-12 10:53:40 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ok u said u like doggie he likes u on top? Why don't u try reverse cowgirl, the pleasure is grrrrrrrreat but the key to the great pleasure is to do it anal. If ur as kinky as u say u are then u'll love this way. The feeling is OMG so niiiiiiice! Trust me when I tell u he will look at u in a completely different way and craaaave sex w/ u! Oh and u will have 1 unbelievable orgasm. Have fun!
2007-12-12 11:26:06 · answer #1 · answered by ♥Pure Evil♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-07-19 01:11:09 · answer #2 · answered by Claire 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow.. I feel for you. heres the thing about marriage: Its all about comprimise. He's not into kinkier things, but you are? He needs to be willing to try something edgier, and you have to be aware not to take him TOO far to the edge. Talk to him about toys...why he is against them so much. Many times for us men, it is our egos that get challenged by a battery operated buddy. Assure him that no toy ould replace the human contact he provides.
Another slightly sneakier solution to that, however, is to buy a Magic Wand back massager by Hitachi, or a similar massager (Hitachi is the best) It dosen't LOOK like as ex toy, but in my store (yes..i sell sex toys) its a leading product, and is perhaps one of the most powerful vibes you can get. In fact you can even buy a jelly or silicone attachment to hit your G spot - and no one would know to look at it. The vibe can even help a woman learn to "squirt".
If you like porn, you don't even have to go into a store anymore - the internet can give you all you need. In fact, the internet has become a threat to the porn industries DVD sales. You can order some to come discreetly by UPS or download it directly.
As far as positions, again comprimise. One thing me and my wife (married 15 years) does is that we play a little game.. Sexjack. Basically its blackjack, but the winner of each hand gets to make a reqeust that the other must grant... this is a great way to get him to try new things... its amazing how some people aren't "into" something - yet they've never given it a try. You can both try a multitude of positions you each like... whatever. The same idea can work with any card game - it keep things fresh and exciting. You should see what we do with Monopoly...
But you both need to be willing to bend a bit toward the other. Even if its something he might not "be into"... the fact that it brings you pleasure should be of upmost importanance to him.
2007-12-14 08:31:40 · answer #3 · answered by anubisrising2002 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try spicing things up with a new location. The kitchen, the living room, a hotel room. Get something sexy to wear. Go out to dinner- half way thru go to the bathroom. When you come back hand him a very sexy pair of panties. The thought of you sitting there with no panties on will drive him crazy.
2007-12-12 10:57:50 · answer #4 · answered by Kari H 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My wife and I have always dreaded the trip to the adult book store when we were in the mood for a little porn, but nowadays it's not necessary. www.thesexcinema.com has streaming porn movies. If you don't have broadband, there's www.xrentdvd.com, which is like a Netflix for porn DVDs.
As for your other incompatability issues, I empathize - have similar challenges. My only advice is to communicate, and if necessary consider seeing a counselor.
2007-12-12 14:52:32 · answer #5 · answered by joeaverage5 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 words: Romantic and relaxing! - ok for romatic why do not you're taking an afternoon of togther. go on your homestead order some chinese language nutrition, get a tumbler of wine. And sit down in front of the T.V. and communicate and function relaxing. Then take a superb romatic bath or bathe (in case you wanna warmth issues up) and take it from there. The classic nevertheless works.
2016-11-03 01:50:37 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Meet him for lunch and do it in the car. Try other places, like a park, a movie, a ballgame, someplace different. Try some sexy clothes/lingerie. Try some soft porn, they dont show everything. Or try some books, like The Kama Sutra.
2007-12-12 11:12:37 · answer #7 · answered by scicodawg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not just tell him how you feel. Maybe he doesn't realize what you want. The truth shall set you free.
Communication is very important in a marriage.
2007-12-12 11:23:47 · answer #8 · answered by stevel226 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a lucky guy! He should be singing to the stars, I don't know what his problem is! Sounds like he is taking things for granted, tell him and see if he wants to make changes, if not, your stuck in a sucky situation!
2007-12-12 10:58:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
try giving him a spanking... get control of the situation say to him get on top and f@ck me doggy style i'm sure he would love you being in control of the situation.. anyways you never know if you never try
2007-12-12 10:59:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋