If you were in a almost perfect marriage and you met your soulmate. Would you leave your spouse? You love your spouse and you have kids with them but this other person you have much more in common with. Would you break up your home for this person and break your kids heart. Or stay and lose your true love
2007-12-12 10:50:35 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It kills me when I counsel couples (young couples in particular) and they drop the "s" word. First off, there's no such thing as a "soulmate." It's a b.s. concept that TV, and soaps, and sitcoms have made up to make love sound like it's just so blissful 24/7 and you and this person have a "spiritual connection" and that person knows you in and out...etc....ridiculous. Wake up, this is the real world. And in the real world "soulmates" don't exist. Don't believe me? Divorce your spouse and live with your "soulmate" and see if the two of you can handle some real world adversity like the rest of us. I dont' mean to sound negative here, but that's just the way it is.
The answer here is no. If you're in a good marriage it'd be stupid to leave your spouse and children because you think this other person is what television says they are. Don't be stupid. Use your head.
2007-12-12 11:00:30 · answer #1 · answered by Eddie 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you have a good relationship with your spouse and they are a good spouse, just not your ideal "soulmate," then you would be selfish and awful to end the marriage and do that to your kids. Guaranteed, no matter how perfect this new guy seems, the novelty will wear off and you'll be in the same situation in a few years. Cut off all contact with this person and work on spicing up your marriage, finding more things to enjoy with your spouse, and maybe get counseling, both as a couple and by yourself, to work through your feelings. And never ever tell your spouse that you were thinking of leaving them for someone "better."
2007-12-12 10:59:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How is it that the "almost perfect marriage'' gal isn't your true love? What makes you think this so called soulmate would want a man that left is wife and kids? I say focus on the the one you're with, make her your true love, Good Luck
2007-12-12 10:54:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to be responsible. Unfortunately, my wife came around before the love interest. So I would have to decline the temptation, and put that energy into my family(honestly). People get it twisted. This is marriage we're talking about; For better or worse yadayadayada... When you get MARRIED, you're on a whole other level. If anything it should make you realize what you have and to be thankful. I wouldn't leave. What was the point of getting married?
Feel me?
2007-12-12 11:45:04 · answer #4 · answered by Califiyah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit using 'soulmate' as an excuse to have an affair. Geez! If you love your wife then stop messing around with someone else; think you'd find your 'true love' in your spouse if you quit allowing this other woman to fill in that void.
2007-12-12 11:32:21 · answer #5 · answered by pussycat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't have to worry about it because i have found my true love, my soul mate. But if i were in a situation like this i would stay in my marriage. There is a reason why i married him and if some how that was lost i would try everything possible to bring it back. Beats hurting your husband or children.
2007-12-12 11:02:30 · answer #6 · answered by Kasja 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave!! My parents stayed together "for the kids" and were miserable. They finally split up 3 years ago. Now they are dating and trying to find love
(at 60 and 65). You only have one life to live..... do you want to live it the way you are living now? Yes, it will be hard. Yes, some emotions come out in the process. I believe that it is better that your children see you happy and in love than miserable.
2007-12-12 12:24:37 · answer #7 · answered by kidfree 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be much more inclined to stay with my current partner for the sake of my kids.
Love is such a subjective emotion and is most easily confused with lust. Who is to say that you could not have a non-sexual relationship with this person and still continue the marriage with your partner.
2007-12-12 11:01:02 · answer #8 · answered by Judo Chop 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay married, life is about adventure, if you know everything and can guess the next move, your gonna get bored, you should have thought about that before marring and having kids, if everyone married their soul mate, they would be out looking for adventure in a minute, because of the boredom that would pour down on you like rain, do things with your hubby/wife that you would like to do, you can do anything with almost anyone
2007-12-12 10:55:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truly love your spouse and family then there is no question to answer.
2007-12-12 11:16:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋