if you get angry because people have taunted and provoked you how do you gather composure ?

Question

if people have really got to you and youve reacted from anger. how can you gather your mentality back?

after telling them youd like to rip their heads of because you were enraged by their ridicule and taunts

its people who play mind games. i dont have patience at all with them. and im not good at playing them back, because i dont play mind games

Answer 1

Answer: You remove yourself from situations like the ones you are painting.

It's a bit like being the proverbial 'gunslinger', where there is always the next 'bad guy' to face down (rip the head off). And there is only You ....whilst there is an awful lot of them (who keep being born and getting bigger too).

Simply don't join in, walk away.

Sash.

Answer 2

When riled to anger, stop, take ten deeep breaths until composure is regained. If possible do an activity that requires highenrgy output, a brisk walk, scrubbing down the driveway, etc. this should unleash all that fury in a positive and non harmful way. Nasty and vicoius comments are either counteracted by positive thought, ignored, and this takes a greater strength than retaliation, or rebutted in such a way as to deter the assailant from future launches.
People cannot act beyond their basic nature and ability to do so. Pity them, move on, and dont validate their stupidity with your need to focus on them over and above all things.

Answer 3

I like people as a rule and usually when I've `had enough' it's not been from any one person but a combination of things that have happened during my day at work. I try not to dwell on it [not easy as you know'] If you are telling people that you want to rip their heads off, most people don't like that and they may want to rip your head off too. So, try being a lilltle more compassionate and the next time you feel angry take some deep breaths and try to relax. Talk `one -on-one' with the people that you have a problem with . A lot of problems in life are because of misunderstandings.

Answer 4

These people want to get inside your head. The more irritated you get the more they like it. Its entertainment to them. You and I know that emotions shouldnt be toyed with. We know it can hurt and we have learned from experiences not to do it to others - they havent.

By them getting inside your head they gain a false sense of power. They feel important for a moment. The longer they can get away with it, they will. The question is what to do about it. You can ignore it completely or try to beat them at their own game but whatever you do try to not let it effect you mentally. I was being played mind games with so bad im still recovering from it today, months later. Sometimes its impossible to win at a game with these practiced liars.

Its hard to keep control but you either have to move on, pay them no mind or channel it into something that gets that negative energy out, like exercise, socializing or you have to take care of it in another way, If you let it build up inside you you will explode.

Answer 5

I seriously suggest anger management. You're not going to get anywhere in life if you can't maintain your composure because of simple mind games. UNTIL you get help though, count to ten before saying anything back. And, frankly, what "Man" said, will barely help you. You need anger management. It's impossible to not be around people who don't play mind games. If you get genuinely angry from that, you need help.

Answer 6

I know exactly how you feel. I was picked on most all my years in school. It took me till my junior year to figure out how to deal with it. I simply laughed with them. I know it sounds weird but it made me feel better and it made them think what the hell, are you an idiot were picking on you. Then they realized that it didn't bother me any more and they weren't getting the reaction that they were hoping for so after a short time they stopped picking on me and targeting someone else. Which was awful for that person but I stopped being harassed. Hope this helps, and GOOD LUCK!
P.S. Dont give them the satisfaction of showing them that it bothers you.

Answer 7

I prefer to just laugh it off. If people want to get up in my face about something I figure that the problem is theirs and not mine, unless I've really done something so stupid that they would even bother to taunt or provoke me. I'm not interested in telling them whether or not I want to rip their heads off and stuff them up their behinds. That doesn't accomplish anything. I prefer the calm approach to the various changes and chances of life. It'd just better that way. At least it works for me.

Answer 8

Be the bigger man and tell them your sorry for your actions and also tell them that their comments hurt your feelings . If they keep doing it . Then show the your the much bigger man and don't let it bother you . Remember you have to have thick skin to somethings and let other things roll down your back , like water of a ducks back. Try so type of release for your anger , like sport, working out, bike riding, or a karate class.

Answer 9

You have already reacted by insinuating that you would rip their heads off! I think your mentality is back now with your feeling of a little humble pie? Else why ask? Depending on your situation, you either confront amicably and explain that it hurts/angers, or you apologise for being do damned newspaper worthy with ripping heads off! If, on the other hand, you feel it is outwith your control, please speak to someone in authority - a teacher/mother/wife/friend.

Answer 10

Remember God doesn't make junk. The mouths of your taunters are not prayer books. Their words are just that, (words), and only have the power of truth, that you give them. This is also a sign, of how insecure you make them feel. They need to taunt you to boost their self esteem. They are to be pity-ed and prayed for. The Doctor has already slapped them, that's why these advertisements for birth control are so stupid.