My fiancee proposed to me when I was a junior in college. I graduated this summer and want to wait untill Nov 2009 to give me time to get settled into my new teaching job and get most of the work done on my masters degree. Is this wrong? We love each other very much and are childhood sweethearts and are very happy being engaged. We plan on having a fun and simple wedding at a local amusment park during their Christmas Lights Fest so its not that we are worried about planning a big wedding. I live with my parents and he lives with his so we can save money for a nice house.
What do you think?
2007-12-12 10:31:21 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We choose Nov 2009 because by then I will be almost done with grad school. Living apart is not hard for us. My family doesn't believe in living together before mariage.
2007-12-12 13:56:42 · update #1
I'm just asking because people tend to think we are crazy when they find out how long we are waiting.
2007-12-12 13:58:02 · update #2
I'm just asking because people tend to think we are crazy when they find out how long we are waiting. I do very much want to be married but I know having a little more money for a home and college behind me will make it less stressfull for us starting out.
2007-12-12 13:58:31 · update #3
My boyfriend and I have a long engagement. We aren't getting married until 2009 either. Get married when you are ready.
2007-12-12 10:35:04 · answer #1 · answered by RedRabbit 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
No, it's not wrong. It's actually smart and that's the problem with marriages today, people don't think things through the way you have.
You two have everything together and are thinking coordinately so that you will both be settled, ready, and financially stable Congrats for having a brain! =) So many people wander why the divorce rate is high and it's because people don't think things through, they just rush into the marriage.
It always pays to take things slow and I see nothing wrong with your plan at all. It sounds like the most convenient and wise choice.
2007-12-12 10:40:27 · answer #2 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think that is the best idea ever (especially getting married at an amusement park, what fun!). It is a really good plan to decide who you are as an adult in the world before getting married. So many things will change while you're out of school and while you'll probably always want to be together you may realize how your relationship can change for better or worse before the stress of living together and trying to make a marriage work.
2007-12-12 10:36:18 · answer #3 · answered by summer 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
what's the factor of adjusting into engaged once you're no longer getting married for that long? the relationship would not substitute between being engaged and only in a severe relationship headed in direction of marriage. the only distinction is that when you're "engaged" you're particularly interior the tiers of making plans ultimate as much as the marriage. human beings will ask you whilst the special day is and you will could desire to tell them it somewhat is in 5 or 6 years. they gained't take you heavily.
2016-11-26 02:18:29 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats a wonderful idea and it's actually a good thing to wait until your all settled in with a steady income, house and so on befor making drastic decisions such as getting married. Your using your head.
I got married when i was 18 years old, had a crappy job, no steady household ect and all it did was cause my husband and i to fight consistently, it was nothing but stress and i wish we would have waited until we were actually ready for it. We have been married now 4 years and have a 3 month old baby girl and are now just getting steady.
2007-12-12 10:39:03 · answer #5 · answered by Kasja 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
sounds great.. there are so many oppt.. for people to get help with college if they are not married.. and beside you can save for the wedding you want.. the honey moon and even a down payment on a home and the both of you will have school behind you and good jobs..some one is using there heads on this one..
2007-12-12 11:00:13 · answer #6 · answered by vis 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think this is the perfect solution and time frame! If you don't wait a little, then you will never really get to know the person well enoough to truly love them. You may think you know a perosn one day anfd the next they are totally diffrent.
Congrats on waiting, sticking to your gut, and have a fantastic time 'till then! ♥
2007-12-12 10:36:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like a great plan. Engagements are a good time to get to know one another.
2007-12-12 10:34:56 · answer #8 · answered by ♫♪♥azMom♥♪♫ 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
sounds like you have a great head on your shoulders i was engaged for 5 years and it was the best decision i ever made been very happily married for 10 years
2007-12-12 10:45:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm wondering why you're concerned about it. You sound like you have it figured out, so what's the trouble? Are you worried that it's not the "correct" thing to do, or are people pressuring you? Do what ever you want. It's your life.
2007-12-12 10:35:46 · answer #10 · answered by Sarah S 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋