Wait or have D&C?

Question

I went to the dr today Im 9w4d pregnant. There was no heartbeat, baby measured only 8wks.
Ive had no cramping or bleeding or spotting. Should I keep waiting to miscarry or do the D&C. I dont want to sit around for a week knowing my baby didnt survive and is still inside of me, but the D&C sounds awful to me. Im just so upset.

Had 2 Ultrasounds done today.

Answer 1

unltrasound make sure its not alive, if not, DC for your health. And sorry for your loss, its never easy. Talking to your partner is good but at this point it is your health you need to be concerned with.

Answer 2

Almost the exact thing happened to me. You have to make the decision for yourself. I had the D&C because I couldn't imagine passing my baby in the toilet. The D&C was terribly traumatic, I sometimes wish it had been natural because it's just like one day I was pregnant and then 20 minutes later I wasn't. It all happened so fast I didn't really have time to process it and that made it even harder. I think though, that if I did let it happen naturally it would have been worse because I would have had to wait a long time (the doctor said my cervix wasn't even dilated a little bit) also, it can end up causing an infection and if you do let it happen naturally, you could still end up having to have the D&C if everything doesn't get expelled. I'm so so sorry that this happened to you, it happened to me too, but I was 11 weeks before I found out that my baby's heart stopped beating at 7 weeks, no cramps, no bleeding, no nothing. They did my D&C the day after I found out, I'd say if you can, at least try to give yourself a little bit of time, not too much, maybe just a day or two to process, say goodbye and make plans. I planted a tree in memory of my baby. We didn't name it (my husband didn't want to) but I think that you should because alive or not, your baby is real and you should always aknowledge that. It was real and your love for it was real, and it won't go away. Good luck, it's a long hard road from here, but it does get better, believe me, it gets better eventually. Lots of love.

Answer 3

Before you go through any D & C, get another opinion!!!!! If you are only 9 weeks pregnant it is hard to hear a heart beat as the fetus is no bigger than a grain of rice! Don't put off going to another doctor, and make sure that you get a copy of the file from the one that told you that you need a D & C. People can make mistakes and so can doctors, if you need a D & C then get it, and don't wait too long, as carrying a dead fetus is harmful to you and may prevent you from becoming pregnant again at some future date!

Answer 4

I would have the d&c. I've had 2 miscarriages. With the 1st one I started bleeding at 9 weeks like a period and then 2 days later I had the worst cramps you could imagine and very heavy blood loss (with clots). It was the worst thing I'd ever gone through. I had a d&c the next day. With my 2nd m/c I had the d&c before the bleeding had even started. I just couldn't go throught with it again. Sorry for your loss.

Answer 5

omg i am so sorry that ur baby doesnt have a heartbeat. i would say get the D&C, that way u dont have to worry about becoming sick from the miscarried fetus in ur uterus...if there is no bloodflow in the babys body, then u know whats going to happen- same thing that happens when we die, whether our bodies are preserved or not. did they find a reason why the baby didnt have a heartbeat? i am so so sorry...that must be horrible. but if u want to think about the D&C in terms of who suffers from it, cuz its usually used in partial birth abortions, the only one who would suffer is you, emotionally and physically...u would be in a bit of pain cuz they scrape out the lining of your uterus, but im guessin you already know what happens in a D&C, so im not gonna say more than that. i am so sorry, and i hope u can get through this. u have my deepest sympathies. God bless you and the baby u tried to bring into this world.

Answer 6

I'm so sorry for your loss.
I had to have a D&C in June when I was 20 weeks pregnant with a baby boy..It's the worse pain I have ever felt.

And,before that I was 31 weeks pregnant with another boy and went into premature labor and delivered a still born.
Talk about pain. =*(






It's up to you,but the D&C would be alot better.

I think you can develop an infection if the deceased fetus stays in you too long,but I'm not sure.

Good Luck,My prayers are with you.

Answer 7

I'm so sorry for your loss. The same thing happened to me. The cramping and bleeding were bad, the pain was pretty bad, too. I had a D&C and the pain was gone. It wasn't pleasant, but I felt much better afterward. A nurse talked to me through the procedure, he kept asking questions about my little boy to keep my mind off what was happening. I wish you all the best.

Answer 8

Consult with your doctor. There definitely should have been a heartbeat (we saw one at 9 weeks), so I would have the D&C. I imagine that would be a difficult decision to make though because you don't want to give up hope. I am so sorry, I can only imagine what you must be going through. Good luck.

Answer 9

You may just want to wait a few days and see what happens but that could be pretty hard. The D&C isn't that terrible to have done and you know it's a complete procedure and don't have to worry about it after that. I don't think that waiting around for a week to see what happens is going to be good for you. It's a really difficult thing to deal with.

Answer 10

I'm so sorry. : ( Wait a while, miracles can happen. I read a similar story this week, and the baby turned out to still be alive. I don't want to get your hopes up, but just hold on for a little while if you can. My deepest sympathy goes out to you and your partner.

Answer 11

I am sorry to hear this. I have many friends who have gone through a similar situation. They have all had kids since so stay strong :). I say go for the D & C. Fastest way to start the healing process. You will feel better :). Good luck