I have been married 5 years and I just hate it so much. I love my wife, but I hate being around her. I dont know if its her or just being married. Maybe I hate marrige. How did it get like this?
2007-12-12 09:19:56 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you grow apart... you get angry but just "brush" it off... i know what you mean... marriage is hard work... don't give up so easily!
2007-12-12 09:26:10 · answer #1 · answered by ♥cutemamma♥ 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if you're telling me the truth here then I can answer your question very simple.
You are the Man! Remember that! You know what makes you tick and what makes you flop.
When you get married your ticking and then all of sudden in time your clock becomes a distant sound that fades away.
The reason for this is because your expectations are fulfilled.
Once you have tasted the sugar of your woman you no longer yearn it. You have heard and tasted all you want and now you yearn for a new taste and when it comes to a female, you have to accept that there will be no new taste unless you venture out or have an affair and this is the thing. We have so much we want and so mush to do with your mate and then it all falls cold and withers to a freeze.
Sometimes you can not re-gain what is lost, but you can experience it again, but with a another woman and this is where the difficult times of marriage couldn't possibly fly. The little bird crashes into a wall and the sad faces are long gone with a new taste, but never forgotten.
Learn to accept change in marriage or you will forever be chaisng the young heart that is not the best of yourself.
A good man can understand that acceptance is the far better price to pay and gain love or lose it and never find it.
2007-12-12 09:32:36 · answer #2 · answered by bigapple 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Know how sometimes you hate your parents but you know you still love them. Yeah, it's like that. You don't hate her. You just don't like being around her. Well if you still love her, then you need to work on loving to be around her. That's the part of the marriage that takes work. Love comes easily, it's just a chemical reaction, but companionship is where you have to practice. Start by focusing on 1 or 2 things you don't mind doing with her. Like watching TV together. And do those for a month. Then find more things to do with her. Focus on the positive.
2007-12-12 09:37:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Like they say there is a thin line between love and hate. More than likely its not her that you hate but you may be bored of the married life. You need to find ways to not take her for granted or vice versa.
2007-12-12 09:30:17 · answer #4 · answered by Txgirl23 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand this completely! I was married 25 years and it was a love hate relationship to the bitter end. Don't wait that long! I left the pervert and I still feel love and hate towards him. But I am soooo happy he is OUT of my life for good! Peace!
2007-12-12 09:27:23 · answer #5 · answered by sandra b 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
first off is it really hate or is it just that she or something she does is really really bothering you??? Try to do some searching within yourself and see if you can't discover something!!! Also - I think sometimes when we are unhappy with our job or marriage or kids - the underlying issue is that we are not happy with ourselves! (i.e. we put on a little weight, we didn't work out like we promised ourselves - all those little things can eventually turn into these emotions of unhappiness - hate - resentment...
Start with looking closely at yourself and then think of what might be missing! I'm sure you don't really hate your wife!
2007-12-12 09:27:26 · answer #6 · answered by Me 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Wow do I understand, and I wish I had the answer, but if you get the right one let me know.
How does one want to be at home and any where but here at the same time...
Just try and remember all the reasons you made her your wife to begin with, maybe that will help.
2007-12-12 09:31:52 · answer #7 · answered by vjustmehere 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's because your taking her for granted and not truly appreciating her investment in you. It's a selfish type thing that many couples go through from time-to-time, were you get irritated by their presence. Focus on the good stuff or call up one of your buddies who has a cheating, lying, stealing wife and count your blessings. Get you off your mind and you'll see things differently!
2007-12-12 09:26:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
Saying you love your wife, but hate being around her is a contradiction in terms. You can not love someone and hate being around them. When you love someone, you want to be around them, in healthy limits.
I think you are bored and tired of her. I think that (unless you have kids) if you were to break up, you'd never want to be around her again.
2007-12-12 09:29:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
so normal don't worry your like 90% of most married people that is what marraige is sticking it out! Ask anyone who has been married 25+ years they will tell you it was not always easy!
Just don't tell her you hate her mumble under your breath!
HA HA
2007-12-12 09:25:03 · answer #10 · answered by lisalisa 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
being happy in a situation can be a choice....you love her...you need to focus on the good things about her and the relationship....in fact I would probably guess that when you have these feelings,,they are fleeting....
2007-12-12 09:27:28 · answer #11 · answered by John[nottheapostle] 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋