she doesnt seem happy and says she doesnt feel special. she says she needs time alone to think about things. I love her more that anything in this world and would do anything for her.should i let have time alone she is going to her moms for a little while. How do I show her how special she is to me while she is gone?
2007-12-12 09:17:22 · 21 answers · asked by William M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The fact that you are asking this question shows what a loving and caring husband you are. I am guessing that your general nature in itself DOES show her that shes special. I am guessing that it is something else that she is worried about or bothered by. That is, unless you have been a cold, insensitive, neglectful husband. If that is so, that needs to stop. Her needs need to be responded to, as do yours. But I dont get that feeling from you. I get the feeling you have already tried certain things. I dont know enough about you two, I think its probably not as easy as buying her flowers if she wants time away from you. I would recommend counseling, and Dr. Lauras The Proper Care and Feeding of marriage. I also highly recommend her book, The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands, but it doesnt sound like she would be open to thinking about taking care of you right now, it sounds like she is concerned with herself more so. Good luck to you.
Also someone mentioned tenderness, but then said not sex. There is nothing wrong with sex right now. It is a gift that you two both deserve to give and receive. But I am guessing she has been too sulky to give that to you. With her absence now I suppose it doesnt matter, but when she returns, sex would be a great thing right now more than ever.
And Im not sure what that girl is talking about, when she gets home YOU are really going to have to change?? Shes the one that left, not you. You are obviously open to making this work. You probably BOTH need to make some changes, this should not be put all on you thats ridiculous.
BTW I am going to guess the person who gave me a thumbs down is some sorry feminist who wants all the blame put on you...and whom has probably been divorced.
2007-12-12 09:31:02 · answer #1 · answered by carolyn 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First of all the magic is gone.. could there be someone else who is taking her interest?.. cuz I hate to say this.. but maybe there is.. but dont dispair the grass isnt always greener on the other side.. and it just might be the excitement that has her going especially if you things have gotten bad between you two. if that is the case let her know.. that you still love her and will wait for her (if that is the case)..but ask her to be honest with you.. If there isnt a third party... then Remember what brought you two together in the first place.. go back to that energy.. has your life become a routine?.. Plan a wknd trip. Take her to the spa to do a couple thing.. But anything you do or say to her go through with it.. dont let it all be talk.. really make an effort.
2007-12-12 09:25:12 · answer #2 · answered by steph 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are such a sweet guy who will ask this question. (1) You can also SMS her some erotic feeling of yourself about her, express your feeling towards her even during working hour. (2) Go to her work place and invite her for a lunch sometimes, that would be nice. (3) Order roses and ask the florist to send to her office , give her a surprise in front of her colleagues. (4) Sneak in the blanket and take off her panty and give her an oral.. that will turn her on.
2016-04-08 23:25:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girst of all you married her then you made everything routine. You got her now, so why impress her. That gets very old very fast with women and you now are paying the price. Perhaps this time apart will make you discover if you really fell by the wayside, and you will want to repair it.
Start the courtship over, take her on dates, send her surprises, leave notes on her car while she is at work.
When you get her back, you are going to have to really have to change. You will have to contribute more on the housework and attention to the family. You can do it with committment and counseling.
Best wishes.
2007-12-12 09:27:28 · answer #4 · answered by heartsarebad 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
have you any children ? she may be getting broody either that or shes not happy anymore with you, i wouldn't agree to her staying at her mums i would insist she told you whats going on and for her to tell you why she doesn't feel special and work on that ,a trial separation is never good ,you should work at it absence does make the heart grow fonder if your madly in love but if theres a problem don't put a further rift in your relationship sort it out,
2007-12-12 10:33:40 · answer #5 · answered by sarah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let the sun go down, but shine and reap upon it through your majesty.
A woman wants to be told that she is your number one and that she is your world. Treat her as such and do things with her and cherish each and every day with her.
She depends on you and feeds off of you and if you turn cold she gets cold too.
Love is a wonderful thing and when you adhere to it...it's a simplicity, character and integrity with who you are and who you want to be with her and that my friend no money can buy in this world.
It's free.
2007-12-12 09:22:36 · answer #6 · answered by bigapple 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Absence makes the heart grow fonder. You mentioned you'd do anything for her because of how much you love her. You just have to find ways to show her how much you love her rather than just telling her. Compliment her everyday, buy her gifts just because, take her out on dates, etc. You need to rekindle the spark back in your marriage.
2007-12-12 09:21:43 · answer #7 · answered by Txgirl23 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
i feel special when someone asks me how I am, how my day was, what i am doing, and actually listens to what i have to say. maybe think of the things you used to both share when you first went out together. but remember love is a matter of choice. we fall in and out of afection for people but we choose to love a person irregardless of what they do or are
2007-12-12 09:28:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I and my wife have separated, she says I was to controlling and I never knew what she meant by that, because I never told her what she could do or not do. And I use to ask her to tell me so I would know and she never did. After talking to my mom and said the only thing I ever did was snoop on her emails, Facebook and text message. Then my mom said they are a sing of controlling but I never knew that. We been together for 9 years we been marry for 2 1/2 years and I was doing this the whole time. Now she said she tire and want a divorce and I m not wanted that. So she has really hit me below the belt with words and I have done the same. But this past week she really hit me low and I was so hurt I post nude pictures of my wife on Facebook for about 4 min and then took them back down. I feel so bad now that I ever did that and I know it hurt her as well. Now I m wanted to know is there forgiving for something like that I did and how can I win her trust back.
2017-03-14 13:11:40 · answer #9 · answered by Ced 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try a little tenderness and i don't mean sex.
There are so many songs.
Treat her like you would like to be treated.
but not if you are a sicko who hates himself.
Let God work on her.
Maybe it is to late maybe it is not.
Except her choise and respect you for her.
You need to work on your self first.
2007-12-12 09:24:29 · answer #10 · answered by teeman824 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋