First, my parents got custody of my son when i was 16. i was of course upset but i had no choice. No job, no car and no health ins. It is 4 years later and i am trying to make it. I have a full time job, car, health ins. and i am going to college. I need help with money and my paretns wont help. His father wont help. And i cant take his father to court because my parents have custody. I cant get government help because my parents have custody. WHAT DO I DO? what are my options? Please someone help!
2007-12-12 09:07:50 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
What do you do? - Get a job. Get two if one is not doing it. Finish college. Get a better job. Then worry about custody. Sounds like your son is where he needs to be.
From the way you worded the question you are only seeking custody for money. That is the WRONG reason.
2007-12-12 09:20:09 · answer #1 · answered by davidmi711 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want your son back, or do you just want financial help?
If you are truly "trying to make it", surely your parents will see that and respond positively, but it will take a great deal of effort on your part to earn back their trust and respect.
Take responsibility for the choices you have made--"I had no choice". Yes, you did. You had the choice to wait to have sex until you were in a position to raise a child, and ideally with someone you were married to who would be there as a parent as well. Don't blame your parents for trying to rescue your son from that bad situation and make the best of it.
At this point from what I can gather, you would make a much better "aunt" to your son than you would a mom. Focus on that and continue getting your life straight instead of having your hand out and trying to get everyone to in effect reward you for your mistakes.
2007-12-12 09:14:55 · answer #2 · answered by arklatexrat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a GOOD attorney, and go to court to fight for custody over your son. Custody is a lengthy and frustrating process, and in the end might not benefit you, but it's worth it. Also try seeking an attorney doing Pro Bono work (free). Also be prepared to make a statement about how you've gotten your life together, and how you're going to college to make something of yourself, and how you plan to efficiently support you son if you were to get custody.
2007-12-12 09:14:27 · answer #3 · answered by Sonny 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's an uphill battle for you. You will have to show how it is in the best interests of the child that custody be returned to you. In most states, your change of circumstances are not sufficient to change custody from your parents to you. You will need to show how the custodian's or child's circumstances have changed and how that change makes it in the child's best interest to be in your custody.
Legal aid from your area may be able to assist.
2007-12-12 09:19:30 · answer #4 · answered by Chris G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Worry about YOU!! sounds like you just want custody so you will have money ????thats not the best interest of the child.Worry about you and give him all the love you can....you deserve nothing.
been there ...raising grandchild.
2007-12-12 09:12:11 · answer #5 · answered by hugsandhissyfits 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It relies upon on the place the listening to is. relies upon on that jurisdiction. although, my advice is to make the settlement as civil as attainable. it is not nicely well worth the time nor funds nor the sake of the baby to get right into a bitter dispute.... the baby finally ends up getting harm in all of it... baby will strengthen up having to handle the animosity...and it finally ends up putting super stress on that baby's destiny relationships (inclusive of that with the moms and dads). i've got seen it first hand to many babies and my buddies.
2016-10-11 03:55:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Continue your education, graduate...then go out and make a worthwhile life....then worry about custody.
Right now, you are in no position to take care of a child.
2007-12-12 10:46:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can take the father to court for spousal support!
2007-12-12 09:18:50 · answer #8 · answered by oldmarine08 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋