2007-12-12 09:06:02 · 31 answers · asked by rosie g 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
HELLO PEOPLE!!! So quick to judge!!! We don't have enough information here. If he isn't working, what will he be doing? Raising kids, cooking, cleaning, paying the bills, laundry, shopping, etc.???? If your income is enough and you wish for him to stay home with the kids, there is no problem with that. If roles were reversed, it would be perfectly normal.
BUT...If he just wants to be lazy, and absorb your hard earned cash and assuming you don't make hundreds of thousands each year, then this is unacceptable. Tell him to find work, that you and he need money, and that's that.
If he refuses, you need to decide if you want to support him forever. Do you really love him that much? Are you willing to do this forever, because he won't change if he has no reason to? If not, time to consult an attorney and make sure he is off the cards, accounts, etc. and has no access to your money. Be prepared to possibly pay spousal support if this has been going on for awhile.
Best of luck to you.
2007-12-12 09:32:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
O girl i am in the sort of same situation as you are. Why exactly are his reasons for him not working? Does he even try to go look around or not really. MY best suggestions is either kick him to the curb or if you are going to stick around with him. Help him by looking up jobs for him to go. Tell him he needs to help you out specially if you are the only one working and if he is living there we you he has to contribute with something. You didn't get married to struggle in that case you could of stayed by yourself and struggle on your own. Some men now days are too much at times. Best of Luck to you and me lol.
2007-12-12 18:22:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find out why, is it a ability or desire issue? Dose he desire to work, but having a hard time finding work? If so, you can help him with his resume, practice his interviewing skills, and clean up his appearance. If he don't want to work then thats a different story! If his abilities are limited maybe training or vocational education may be in order.
2007-12-12 17:21:59 · answer #3 · answered by Lv Dr. 4U 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
many factors do you make more money and does he help with the house and kids?
If not then get rid of him!
You deserve better
A good husband is a good provider in all ways and so is a good wife.
2007-12-12 17:15:38 · answer #4 · answered by lisalisa 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh, and you are willing to pull all the weight? Just how stupid are you? And where is your self esteem.... and better yet, where is his?????? And what WERE you thinking when you married him? Unless the guy is incapacitated, injured or whatever, why isn't he working?
2007-12-12 17:44:43 · answer #5 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, I once heard from my pastor, "A man that does not work, does not eat". I think it's in the Bible but I can't tell you where.
2007-12-12 18:35:11 · answer #6 · answered by MamaDiva 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him he is not a man. a man or husband takes care of his family and his wife. tell him if he doesnt get off his lazy azz you are leaving him.
2007-12-12 17:20:17 · answer #7 · answered by William M 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get a divorce and win the lottery, not necessarily in that order..
2007-12-12 17:26:19 · answer #8 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce! And find a real man of honor!
2007-12-12 17:18:02 · answer #9 · answered by sandra b 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I did that for too long and I am so much happier all by my self My only thing that bothers me is I waited so long
2007-12-12 17:16:29 · answer #10 · answered by starr 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋