2nd Marriage / Engagement Question?

Question

I have been dating a wonderful woman for 2 years now. Both she and I have been married once before. However, for 3 years now I have been trying to conclude my community property settlement with my ex-wife through her attorney and mine.

We're not talking about alot of money or assets just my ex and the lawyers not making this a priority.

I know I want to marry my girlfriend of 2 years and she wants to marry as well. However, I don't know if it's fair to her, for me to ask her to marry me, while I'm still trying to settle the community property with my ex. Everything else has been settled.

Should I continue to wait it out and push for the property settlement or should I do what I know she and I both want and ask her to marry me?

Answer 1

ask her how she feels then take it from there

i know gals like to be surprised but in a situation like this, it's important to include her in the decision making

Just ask he,honey you think marriage is good thing now or after I settle community property with ex?
if she's non-chalant or thinks it's better after then wait.
But if she says she's dying to get married or it'd be lovely to do now, then go looking for that ring boy!

Answer 2

My husband and I are both on our second marriages. When we married, he still had 3 years left of alimony to pay to his ex.

We kept everything separate, down to the signing of our first rental together (in my name). This way, she could not get at money nor property that was only in my name.

So....marry the girl! Just keep your finances separate until your settlement with the ex goes away.

Answer 3

I don't see anything wrong with asking her to marry you. The property settlement agreement has nothing to do with her. You need to make it a priority if the other attorney won't.

Answer 4

I don't see any reason why your waiting for a community property settlement. I doubt your assets or laxk thereof have anything to do with her wanting to marry you.

Answer 5

ASK HER! She will love you for it! This is just about property now and it will all get ironed out at some point. You are both single and you have every right to start living your life with the woman you love! GOOD LUCK!

Answer 6

Ask her and wait untill the property has been settled before you get married.. Congrats i hope you both live a wonderful and happy marriage. P.S how are you going to propose??

Answer 7

except that's an extremely close buddy, forgo the presents. because of the fact it fairly is their 2d marriage and that they are eloping, you mustn't ought to get them a contemporary. Are they having a reception whilst they come back for each individual? if so, it fairly is acceptable to get them a contemporary. are not getting them an engagement present. (fantastically considering they are having a extensive wedding ceremony) in any different case...in case you nevertheless sense the prefer... get them a $25 present card from mattress, bath, and previous or to Pier a million Imports.

Answer 8

Ask her to marry get engaged but don't set a date!
During the engagment you can get to know each other even more and be a 100% sure your making the right choice and by then you will have everything settled.

Good luck!

Answer 9

I don't see anything wrong with asking her to marry you at this point. You've been together for a long time. However, I wouldn't actually start planning a wedding or anything until your divorce is final. It wouldn't be fair to set at date, then find out you won't be divorced yet

Best of luck to you both and CONGRATULATIONS!

Answer 10

Nothing wrong with asking her to marry you now. She knows what you are trying to do. You have been together for two years and waiting so either way she I am sure would be understanding......