Ok so i am really kind of anti-gay but no i am so confused.i have been in love with my friend for over a year now and she knows it.she used2come 2my house and one night she stayed i played with her hair and stroked her face.when we watched a dvd i would tickle round her belly button.she pulled her top down a bit but then i continued doing it and she let me. i would sometimes but my hand on her leg2. she said she would only see me if i stopped it so i did.one night at circus with her i was thinking about putting my arm around her waist.i didn't realise i touched her until she jumped.we argued a bit about it but got over it.we never talk about this or argue over it in person.she says its weird and i know it is.i can't get over her.she won't see me now because i go on about'it'.i really love her as a friend and i hate the thought of being with a girl in gay way but love being with her.she is amazing.i hate the way i feel and only can talk about it to her.how can i make things better again
2007-12-12 08:48:38 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
she really is amazing you know. and yea i don't want to lose her as a friend but don't know how to stop talking about it. i saw her today in town and wnet in shop with her and couldn't help just thinking about her in that way while walking behind her going upstairs.
2007-12-12 09:09:03 · update #1
biggest problem has to be jealousy. thats when i text her and stuff. how do i control it?
2007-12-12 09:27:21 · update #2
i do no how to take no for an answer. the problem was i was younger then. i know it was wrong to touch her. but she did not actually say no! fair enough though for your opinion tehabwa
2007-12-15 08:06:06 · update #3
i am 17 she is slightly younger but looks so much older and very different from me
2007-12-15 10:26:34 · update #4
Some of the things you were doing are in fact considered sexual. No matter how you deny it, those were at least bisexual tendencies you showed. She is saying no now, so I would say the experiment is over. If you cannot accept her as just a friend then move on without her.
2007-12-14 23:33:48 · answer #1 · answered by Your Uncle Dodge! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to a school counselor.
Yes, you're gay (or at least bi).
Your biggest problem is that you don't know how to take 'no' for an answer. This is just wrong, whether you're gay or straight.
Suppose someone did stuff to you that you didn't want?
That's what you did to her.
You should back off from the relationship, find an adult to talk to, and think about things.
Back off from the friendship until you get in control of yourself.
Just don't fire up your computer, if you can't stop texting her.
Distract yourself with other things, until you work through your problems. After you've done so, you may be able to resume the friendship.
But she won't want to do that as long as you do things she doesn't want you to.
2007-12-15 05:07:49 · answer #2 · answered by tehabwa 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Well to me, it's not about being gay, I'm going to be honest with me unless me and my best friend are really really really close and she's been there for me through thick and thin (which she has) I'll tell her things like I love you, but she knows what I mean by it, we are both not gay we are straight and we have boyfriends, the way to prevent this is to try to get that close to a boy. I've never had this kinda problem with my best friend,to me it's kinda akward for me to tell another girl I love you and hey boo you know things that besties say to each other. It's not your fault you feel this way about another girl. Were your parents divorced? Did you in anyway encounter something with a male and now you feel like you can't trust them, because in most situations a girl can either feel this way about another girl because either she had a close relationship with her mother or because she had a bad encounter with a male and can't trust them (i.e raped, molested, beaten badly etc) yes it's true you probably could be a little gay, but I would suggest you talk to a counselor about it and sort your feelings out, and STAY AWAY FROM THE GIRL FOR A WHILE!!! Just until you get yourself straightened out.
2007-12-18 01:12:14 · answer #3 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
love sucks in this case.its obvious the girl doesn't like you like that. the only relationship here is friendship.i know it sucks but you need to move on from here it will take awhile but it will happen.and being gay or bi whatever it so you may be, is ok. im not saying you are, and don't worry about it.this can all be some crazy phase but if you find yourself in a situation again where you like another girl as more than a friend, chances are you can be gay or bi.my advice just go with it.im sorry about your situation but i will get better i promise.again love sucks especially when its not returned
2007-12-12 09:09:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have said she doesn't feel the same way. You need to quit touching her before she stops talking to you and doesn't even want to be caught in the same space as you.... I'd be avoiding you, if it were me, even if I liked you as a friend, coz you're not paying attention, you're coming on to her and she doesn't want you to.... I had a girl keep doing this stuff, and she still didn't understand coz I thought I could just go places with her and be friends with her liking me that way, but was wrong. So don't be surprised if your friend starts avoiding you for a while if you don't behave yourself....
2007-12-17 04:09:44 · answer #5 · answered by dumbuglyweirdo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i ahve a friend who is gay and had a crush on a friend who didn't like him back. Just be happy to be her friend. If you do love her, then you'll realise that she's happy with youu just being friends, which means she isn't looking for anymore than that. My friend let go his crush, and got over him. You can do the same. Oh, and it's really brave of you to be opening up to a bunch of strangers with this sort of thing. Good luck!!!
2007-12-16 08:51:17 · answer #6 · answered by Killer_dancing_babe666xxx 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm sorry but I think she has made it clear that you giving her attention in that way makes her uncomfortable. You are obviously interested in her as more than a friend, and she knows it and she does not feel the same way, and she doesn't want to lead you on, and it makes her uncomfortable. Loving someone and not being loved back is horrible, but it sounds like that's what this is. You have to step back and give her her space. You have to respect what she wants and what she has asked of you. I know this isn't what you wanted to hear. Sorry to break bad news. Good luck. Thanks for answering my question.
2007-12-14 08:42:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
babe,u have to now distance urself from her, keping in contact with her is just gonna continue to cause u pain,ur gonna keep looking for signs that she maybe interested in u but maybe she may hav had those feelings(wether she was confused or not) it seems she doesnt now..try to make new friends these feelings will pass eventually,by the way it doesnt say how old u r....that would be a great help in answering ur question, good luck x x x
2007-12-15 09:37:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Let her know how you feel and see what she feels for you. If she doesn't like you in that way and doesn't see you in that way, then perhaps it's time for you to stop, step back, and start hanging out with other friends. Good luck! You could keep acting this way and lose your friend, or stop, and still keep her as a friend.
2007-12-16 06:06:58 · answer #9 · answered by leazngurl 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You don't sound very "anti-gay" to me.Just accept that all she wants to be is friends.Holding feelings in generally isn't the best idea,but if you're losing her because of how you keep talking about it then maybe you should just back off a bit.No means no,that's all there is to it.
2007-12-16 01:05:49 · answer #10 · answered by Shanaz B 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋