I've been asked to recomend a certain lady to a friend of mine to consider as a future wife.
That may sound good to some of us but come on, can't he look for himself.
I find these situations very sticky and they give me an uneasy feeling.
what do you think??
2007-12-12 08:36:50 · 15 answers · asked by Arabian Dune 5 in Travel ➔ Africa & Middle East ➔ Egypt
@ranoush, you're not getting best answer with that.
2007-12-12 08:59:15 · update #1
aw sure it is hella sticky,,if sth goes wrong they will blame u and only you....
but still ya ba7't man waffa2 rasien fel 7alal...
i didn't help u much,right? =]
good luck
2007-12-12 08:42:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 1⤋
Well Arabian Dune, as a rule i don't do anything in my life that doesn't feel right or makes me feel uneasy. But then again, i am a people pleaser and i love helping people out.
Now i have tried this match making before, once things worked out and it felt great to be the reason i brought them together and another time, sadly it didn't, but still i didn't feel bad coz at least i helped my friends out to the best of my ability.
So bottom line here, just get over this uneasy feeling that yr having and if you do know someone that is suitable, or even someone that yr friend likes but is too shy or uncomfortable to approach himself then by all means do it.
@ AA: Thanks.
2007-12-13 01:28:36 · answer #2 · answered by Hope 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes I would do it. Actually I love doing that. I do not think that one should be blamed for anything if problems arise between married couples. You did what u shud do and introduced them to each other and the rest was up to them to decide and they were not forced into the marriage, so why wud u be blamed the end? I think it's a good thing to do and I try to do it when I get the chance to. My brother in law was the one who introduced me to my husband but I never get him involved in anything btwn us no matter what happens. I once tried to find a suitable match for my cousin but the guy did not show up at the scheduled time and my uncle was very disappointed but he was disappointed in the person himself and never blamed me for anything as he knew I meant good and had nothing to do with him not appearing. People should be a lot more open-minded and less sensitive when it comes to this issue. good luck
2007-12-12 18:34:34 · answer #3 · answered by Ruby 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Look kind and grat man .....
from the islamic rule:- if the Consensus (twafok) between them happend or not happend u will take high score to reach the Paradise cause u r doing grat thing in the universe so u deserve it
But to reach to Paradise not easy man so be patient but I really tell u yes it is hard cause the devil comes between them cause u r doing good thing come to destroy it
As they say in a famous Arabian statement
"Amshey fe Ganaza wala tmshey fe Gowaza"
God bless u man
Happy Eid
2007-12-12 17:23:27 · answer #4 · answered by 7oda is searching for pure heart 4 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Sure . try to help him as u could, try to search for him , or give him names of some girls u both know , as u could ,
and something important, dont hide truth , i mean if he doesn't pray for example , dont say , he is praying and he is the best man , and so on ,
Of course u must say what the best he has , but if they ask abt something , its better to say the truth , or at least least least don't talk,
@ hasafer , I was going to give u thumbs down , but i didn't , bcoz why he doesn't help his friend if he needs help , at least he can just give him names , no more , "kama tadeen todaan"
2007-12-13 08:02:41 · answer #5 · answered by Reikominder 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dont do it..We live in 2007, come on...Then, if something goes wrong, you ll ahve the blame for it..
People are different in their social life, different in the private one..I mean , if someone who is an angel as a friend for you, he/she may be the opposite in his/her private life with soemone..
Then, let things spontaneous happen, and dont get any responsibility...You never know what a person has inside him, so let the one who is interested to look for it..
The only thing you can do, is to give your opinion.ONLY IF IT IS ASKED.....
2007-12-13 02:06:13 · answer #6 · answered by Leonarda 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
ya i will.....
i can only play the role the intermiediary and recommend and tell the details which i hav about the person.... else is on them and their fate to decide and
I think it wud b obvious to dem dat if they do get married then they will handle everything on their own and not to blame me...
2007-12-14 08:45:04 · answer #7 · answered by ~aXe 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
go for it dear but when they meet just tell them that u did everything u can and that u will not be involved in ""ANYTHING"" between them after that so they have to deal together.
"Wa Lak Al Agr wal Thawab 3end Allah"
2007-12-12 19:25:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
help him find a gal but then tell ur friend that i find a nice gal for u now its ur turn to make understanding wid her ...n afterwards dun blam me whn prob araise bw them....
2007-12-14 08:33:03 · answer #9 · answered by Amara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'll help them, but i'll make it obvious first that they shouldn't return to me in every single problem happens between them, and that i'm just a mediatior/matchmaker.......but don't involve in your problems or decisions.
so, in this case i've helped them to know each other as well as being obvious and clear that i won't interfere in their Life :-)
2007-12-12 18:00:45 · answer #10 · answered by ♪♥nada♥♪ 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋