i have a boyfriend now..we've been going out for 4 months and i've known him long before...i am so happy with him and i like just fell in love with him...and my ex who was just an asshole to me, but i could be my complete self around him, is begging me to come back to him...and ive done so much for him, and he's telling me misses me and loves me..and he actually called me today telling me all this again... and i just can't believe anything he says...i was true to him and i don't think he was true to me like i was true to him. and now i feel weak like i want to go back to him. but i am so in love with my boyfriend.. i know that i am not going to leave my boyfriend...and sometimes i dont have any self control.. i am going out to the club with him on saturday...and i am afraid i will end up doing something i will regret but i really want to see him.. how can i be stronger than this...? my boyfriend thinks im going to the club with a girlfriend...
2007-12-12 08:21:24 · 24 answers · asked by Bandolera721 2 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
please dont do it. I have been in your postion and I am so happy to say i have not spoken to my ex in over 9 months. I know its hard in the begining but it does get easier over time to let it go. If you are happy with your now boyfriend then keep it that way, make a change in your life and respect yourself. Watch all the blessings that will come to you. Usally I dont get so serious on Yahoo but I can really relate to what you are going through. email me moniquetlin@hotmail.com.
Good Luck
2007-12-12 08:31:07 · answer #1 · answered by DonsGirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't mean to sound like a jerk but you'd be a fool to leave your current boyfriend. You care about him and he treats you right; so why go back to a guy you call an "a**hole". Now, just because your ex is playing games, you are going to lie to your current boyfriend? Your ex doesn't want you back, he just doesn't want you to be with anyone else. You "don't have any self control" and you are going to club... what do you think is going to happen? Being "happy and in love" with your boyfriend isn't enough for you? You can lie to yourself and say your ex isn't going to make a move or you will not do anything but you're just saying that to give yourself an excuse to go.
You are the reason it is so hard to be in a relationship, and the reason people get their hearts broken. How would you feel if you're boyfriend did this to you? If you do end up going, you'll be acting the same way your ex did, like an "a**shole".
Way to go, by going to the club with you ex, you've managed to treat someone like you didn't want to be treated, and have become what everyone hates. I know it sounds rough but you're the type of person that will come complaining next week about some BS when you did it to yourself.
2007-12-12 08:31:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No no no! Of course you miss you ex! Everybody does! Yes, you know what to get there and part of it had to have been good, right? But what are you thinking? Because part of it was BAD or you would still be with him! It's hard to break up with someone so it was probably something ugly too! Ewww. Do not let that creature mess up your new good relationship with his old been-there-hated-that junk! Call off the bar visit, before he turns you into the little cheater he wants. If you do anything, he will have complete control of you by blackmailing you - WHY did you lie to your current bf for this loser? Tell your bf that you decided not to go to the bar because it sounded like your ex was going to be there - and tell your ex to take a hike! He will always try to get a piece of you just when he is feeling low, why let that mess up what you have right now? Sure he knows how to sweet-talk you - but you're no child! Don't take his "sweets".
2007-12-12 08:32:38 · answer #3 · answered by Amy R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have definate self-esteem issues. Start with referring to yourself as I, not i.
Next, tell your current boyfriend of your plan. Will he be ok with you going to the club with your ex? Will he be ok with you lying? If not, why would you put yourself and your relationship in jeopardy? Why would you hurt him so badly?
Perhaps you don't need a boyfriend at all right now, you need to work on growing into a strong independent woman. Think about it.
2007-12-12 08:47:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. You need to be honest with yourself. If you are willing to sacrifice a good relationship now for your ex, then do you really want him back?
2. You are lying to your current bf. Why? Do you think he'll get mad? If so, he has good reason to.
3. Why do you want to see your ex so badly? There is no reason to see an ex unless you had his kids, so what is it about him that you have to see him?
Once you can answer these questions and be totally honest with yourself, then you need to decide who you really want to be with and who is going to make you the happiest.
2007-12-12 08:27:34 · answer #5 · answered by ALFimzadi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love your current boyfriend...you wouldn't lie to him about meeting up with your ex OR even want to see your ex.
Don't go see the ex. Stay with the man you claim to love.
Ever think the ex wants you back ONLY because he can't have you now. And, when he gets you back his bad behavior will start again.
Life is not lived on impulse, or at least it shouldn't be.
2007-12-12 08:27:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you lied to your boyfriend about who you are going to the club with, then you've already done something you will regret.
You ex treated you bad, that should be the end of it. Don't even answer his calls.
2007-12-12 08:25:13 · answer #7 · answered by mcq316 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it seems to me like you dont really deserve your new boyfriend. if hes really sweet and nice and your ex is an asshole why would you go to a club with your ex and tell your bf you're going with a girlfriend. i think you should go with your ex because you BOTH sound like assholes and your new bf deserves better
2007-12-12 08:26:53 · answer #8 · answered by encantame. 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are going to lie to your current boyfriend about going out clubbing with your ex, you might as well just break up with him now.
2007-12-12 08:26:25 · answer #9 · answered by sprite 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to dump that guy. From your description he's a first class LOSER and he's is using you. If you see him again you will regret it; GUARANTEED. This is a time in your life when you just have to say NO. Don't lose what you have.
2007-12-12 08:27:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋