I realize there are circumstances like x-spouses and immediate family members that one has no choice but to interact with.... but if one knows that a relationship or person is unhealthy or dysfunctional... why do some people do nothing to change the dynamics of the interactions between them?
2007-12-12 08:02:54 · 6 answers · asked by Kaybee 4 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
The answer, believe it or not, is in the Declaration of Independence! " . . . mankind are more disposed to suffer all evils that are sufferable than to right themselves by abolishing the forms to which they are accustomed." In other words, change is really hard.
2007-12-12 08:12:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many times there is nothing one person can do about it. If somebody is going to act unhealthy or dysfunctional towards someone else, the change has to come from the person who's causing the problem. The person on the other end has to have enough gumption to confront the problem person, and many times the problem doesn't seem enough to potentially lose a friend/lover/etc. It must be easier to just deal with it than to risk losing someone.
2007-12-12 16:13:13 · answer #2 · answered by linkinpark_lpa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because to admit a problem inherently means there is a responsibility to "fix it". You can't fix what you don't/won't/can't acknowledge. It's simply easier for the majority of people to ignore a problem, rather than fix it. That takes understanding, introspection and most of all, an ability to admit that maybe, just maybe you were wrong about something, or an apology from you "should" be forthcoming. It's far too hard for people to do that.... It's much easier for most folks to hang on to the status quo of dysfunction than to admit to it and work on changing it. Believe me, I KNOW about dysfunctional families. My brother hasn't spoken to me for 8 years. I wish it weren't true, but it's his choice to hang on to anger and resentment. Good Luck, and Merry Christmas
2007-12-12 16:16:08 · answer #3 · answered by La Sirene 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's self-preserving to keep the relationship intact. Usually, one memeber is manipulating and grooming the other which keeps the dysfunction steady, and over time, this manipulation brain washes the weaker person.
2007-12-12 16:13:11 · answer #4 · answered by Giggly Giraffe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Brainwashed.
2007-12-12 16:36:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they don't want to admit that they are wrong. Change is scarey and sometimes its harder then it looks.
2007-12-12 17:10:21 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs.Walker 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋