Should I move in with my boyfriend?

Question

Well, its quite a dilemma :-)
Let me first give you some facts...
I'm 20years and still a student - probably until 2009. My boyfriend already works and ofcourse he wants to move out with his parents. We would really love to buy an appartment and move in together! Financial it will be OK, not that we will be rich and stuff but just ok to survive.
My mum is my best friend but the last weeks we have a lot of fights, so I was thinking that it would be better to move out so our relationship could be back to normal. She doesn't think so, but she will support my decision.
But there are a lot of people saying that life is hard out there and that I don't know what I'm getting into... That after some years you will be tired of your husband and blablabla. I know there are some bastards out there but mine isn't one of them! He's so generous!!

What do you think?

xx

Answer 1

Since this is what you want to do you need to do it. Sometimes it is hard out there but that is when you are 20 or 40. Do not let what might happen scare you into doing nothing. You can face anything together. A person does not always get tired of their husbands. Sure there are times you disagree and argue but those disagreements get worked out. You seem to have a pretty realistic idea of what it will be like. Make sure that you stay in school. Having support from your mother is good. Good luck to the both of you.

Answer 2

I know what you are feeling right now, you feel like he is the perfect guy for you and all that beautiful stuff. Ive been with my boyfriend for almost five years and for the first 2 or 3 I just thought he was wonderful, he was also my fist in everything so that had to do with alot of it. Then we moved in together and I realized he wasn't so perfect and things got pretty hard. We are still together but I wish we waited to move in together so we could still be in that lovey dovey place. I know you wont believe this but you never really know a person, one day you will know what that means truly.

Answer 3

If i interpret this right you said you would be moving into his parents place. If you cant get along with you mum how will you get along with his. Your 20 now. Those are "Big Girl " panties you got on. Get a p/t job get an appartment BY YOURSELF and the answer will come to you. Dont make such commitments at 20 esp. if your not shure. It is tough out here but millions and millions of us do it everyday. It's only gonn be as hard as you make it. Live,learn then settle. His generouse spirit will support you.

Answer 4

I think you could make it work, if you guys love and understand each other. And you are 20 after all, maybe it is time you started making your own way out there in the world.
Remember tho, if it doesnt work out, will you be able to swallow your pride enough to move back in with your Mother?
I am sure she will be happy enough to let you, sounds like you have a loving relationship.
Moving in with a guy is a great way to find out if you guys are truely compatible and can make it together. One thing tho, if you dream of marrying this guy some day down the track, make it clear before moving in with him.
Some guys, after living with a girl for a while, decide that there is no need to propose and marry her. They are already happy and see no need to change it by marriage.
If marriage is at all important to you, lay down the law now. Even if you dont care if you dont marry till you are thirty, make sure he knows it is important to you.
Good luck, I think you sound mature enough to make it work.

Answer 5

People change when you live with them. You might not want to hear that, but it's true. Just because you'll be financially stable doesn't mean that you'll be happy. A friend of mine moved in with her boyfriend and they were both working and making really good money, but they started fighting for no reason. It happens often. You could always give it a try, I guess, but make sure you have somewhere else to go just in case.

Answer 6

Your much better off in the long run if you do not move in. Its called "playing house".

You are not married. The finanacial dilemna from this could end up ruining your credit for years if you decide to intertwine your financial lives.

If you do move in with him, keep your financial lives separate. Do not have anything with both names on it.

This way, if you do split. there will be black and white, not a big shade of grey when it comes to knowing who owes what.

The Rat

Answer 7

Don't move in with a guy no matter how great your relationship is just for the sake of fixing things with your mom. That is alot of pressure to put on your relationship.It would be good for both of you to experience living on your own before living together.

Answer 8

I'd say if you feel that you are ready to go for it. You may want to consider a roommate, just in case to help with bills. The only way you can learn your way through life is to go out and try it for yourself. If you fail, then you fail and life goes on. It you succeed, then thats good. If you feel you are ready, take this chance to really see what it's like on your own. You never know until you try :)

Answer 9

Absolutely not! Especially if you have marriage ideas for the future. There is an old saying, "why buy the cow when you get the milk for free".

Answer 10

well your still in school and you really should stay at home so you can concentrate on your school work . you dont need to work just to pay for rent and living expenses . see about him moving into your moms house . and sit down and talk to your mom she really does have good intentions. example she wants you to finish school and not end up pg and dropping out.