OK I'll try a different wording this time. My wife has to have a domesticemployee. Not having one would be socially embarrassing. But the rule there is that she must pay the employee from her personal money. Last night she said she needed $200 becuase she owed it to someone for something. I cheerfully gave it to her, then she said she needed another $200 and was evasive about why. This morning I discovered $300 she had left for the domestic employee and suspect that it came from the $400 I gave her last night.
So my question is - How should I discipline her? Verbally? Spanking or something more intense? $400 worth of "lip service"?
2007-12-12 07:38:56 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well Jules I don't think we could call it spanking if a baseball bat were uses,bastinado maybe.
2007-12-12 08:00:44 · update #1
Ha ha! What other 200? 400 for "lip service"? That's pretty cheap!
You better just spank me then break out the floggers and the singletail coz I'm not telling you anything!
2007-12-13 02:12:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are touching a sore spot there Bassmeister! This a conversation my husband and I have had before. I have a big house, 2 kids, he works (and has a long commute)... I just started working and my commute is minimal. So, he is not happy with the way the house is looking. HE mentioned domestic employee... and the fact that it would come out of my money. I told him that I would not need such an employee if he were to help around the house... now that I am working. And about spousal discipline... I think the majority of the users are taking it the wrong way. I wish I new of different ways to discipline my husband! I think you need to talk to her and find out what she is doing with her money. If the arrangement was already made before hand, then yes, you do have the right to bring it to her attention. No spanking or pulling hair... not unless this is after the argument and you guys are making up! Kidding aside... NO physical discipline, you both are adults and are capable of holding an adult conversation. Just tell her about the agreement you had and that you don't appreciate her trying to "pull the wool over your eyes." The truth is always best... even if it means for you to be upset at her or even say NO to her.
GOOD LUCK!
2007-12-12 20:30:50 · answer #2 · answered by iwish4love 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since both of you live in that house, and it takes two to make a mess, then the housekeepers pay should come from both of you, not just her.
Your marriage is a relationship, not a business partnership.
And if NOT having a housekeeper is a social faux pas in your neighborhood, then you two shouldn't even be fighting over money.
I think that's great your wife gave the housekeeper $300.
Too bad you can't look beyond your own nose when it comes to generosity.
2007-12-12 15:49:31 · answer #3 · answered by Ella 7 · 4⤊ 2⤋
I would just give her a fixed amount per month (including what she "needs" for her domestic employee). If she continues to ask for funds and is evasive about what she is doing with them and continues to lie about her funds, tell her that if she runs out of funds and can't have her help, that is her problem. It sounds like she needs some financial counseling, rather than a spanking.
2007-12-12 15:49:32 · answer #4 · answered by yogurt777 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Discipline??? Who are you, her father or prison officer? Try talking to her and asking her if everything is ok and tell her that you noticed the money that you gave to her. In terms of discipling her then I think you have the wrong end of the stick. Talk to her NOT discipline her.
2007-12-12 15:52:22 · answer #5 · answered by Smithers 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Umm, no, because I am willing to bet that she took her money and got you something for Christmas and didn't want you to really know about it. No, do not discipline your wife in any way. If you find she is just spending money out of control you stop giving her personal money. Fill up her car with gas, and have her ask for money for groceries or shopping, but set a limit. I promise if a man ever hit me I would leave in a hearbeat. Then you won't have a dime!
2007-12-12 15:47:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
It sounds like you have a very good relationship with your wife... NOT.
Rules???? Who are you to make rules and discipline your wife? Or for that matter say that she is going to pay for service that BOTH of you are using.
you know it reminds me of "sleeping with an enemy".
P.S. I know that the person who put thumbs down on each one of us is the guy who asked a question!!!!!!!
2007-12-12 16:37:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
wow 17 answers in 17 minutes! I guess I don't need to express my opinion, all of your answres are tilted in the same direction, although some are more moderate than others. Basically, communication, not discipline, she is your wife, not your child.
2007-12-12 16:11:17 · answer #8 · answered by ram133 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Discipline her? Is she your wife or your child? Just talk to her and find out why she needed this money from you, when she's the one who is supposed to pay the employee.
2007-12-12 15:53:57 · answer #9 · answered by Shelley L 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Your her husband not her father you sound like the dumbest D*CK in the country. Grow the F*ck up. (discipline her?) She should slap the SH*T out of you for even fixing your mouth to even use the word Discipline when referring to her. Who the HELL do you think you are?
2007-12-12 15:59:16 · answer #10 · answered by THIC007 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋