2007-12-12 07:18:56 · 32 answers · asked by Neomaxizoomedweebie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Society's morals have nothing to do with it.
It's the betrayal and pain that one brings into the marriage.
When a person cheats, the relationship is never the same. And the guilty party looses all their respect by others in the household.
If you feel the need to sleep around, then grow a pair and be honest with your partner.
But remember........sex is sex. The orgasms will always feel the same. And that's really not worth the cost of what you'd lose in the long run.
2007-12-12 07:26:37 · answer #1 · answered by Ella 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is not always our society that believes that, it is the vows we make in marriage that state that. And in a perfect world, we mean what we say at the altar. And for the most part in the US, to have an affair outside of marriage is wrong.
But their are some societies that use marriage as a structure for the raising of children, and what dad does outside of a marriage is rather just ignored and privately accepted. Marriage was invented for the protection of children, and the support of the wife as she raised those children. Some societies choose to allow each partner to have affairs, and think little of it... Asia, Africa, and Latino cultures are full of "betrayal" yet the marriage survives..... if you wish to call that a marriage, and they certainly do. The US idea of marriage is monogamy. That isn't necessarily the included in the definition in other cultures which do have marriage.
2007-12-12 07:28:32 · answer #2 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, but our society's morals are becoming increasingly relative (hey, if it feels good, do it; nothing's really right or wrong). That moral is more like a old tradition that many people toss aside. But I do and will always believe that adultery is wrong. If there's no commitment, then it's not a real relationship. It's a wonderful thing to be united with someone for all time. The very foundation of relationships is being shaken by the loose morality of today's society.
2007-12-12 07:36:43 · answer #3 · answered by anc876 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well the best thing to do is avoid having an affair, and if you are thinking about it then you obviously are having problems in the marriage. You might want to clean house first before you start this. I can understand why people have affairs, you feel lonely and are desperate for some affection, but it's not the answer. Having an affair will probably lead to more problems in your marriage, sort your problems out first before you drag someone else into your mess.
2007-12-12 07:31:56 · answer #4 · answered by 9957_*vsts 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. If you are going to break down the institution of your marriage because of infidelity, why bother getting married in the first place? Marriage is a special commitment and when you have an affair it's a betrayal of the one you chose to love and marry. So, whether society says it's wrong or not, anything you do that results in hurting your spouse is wrong.
2007-12-12 07:42:56 · answer #5 · answered by Catlover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. If people are considering having an affair, then getting married was obviously the wrong thing to do. If people really think about an affair then they should end the marriage if they feel that strongly about it as their thoughts and feelings arent with their wife/husband etc.
I dont know how people can actually live with the guilt of going with another person, without their wife/husband knowing. It is a crude, cowardly and selfish thing to do IMHO.
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2007-12-12 07:31:11 · answer #6 · answered by Smithers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you cared enough about your wife or husband enough to marry them, an affair would be the highest level of disrespect possible. Yes, I agree with society that having an affair outside of marriage is wrong.
2007-12-12 07:24:26 · answer #7 · answered by aloha_lea413 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Society and their morals are the ones having the affair when married.
2007-12-12 07:28:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. The view society holds on us is that having sex with someone other than your spouse or significant other is wrong. What if you are completely open and honest with your sig. other about your sexual liaisons? If sexual experiences is something that you share together and bring you closer then how is it so evil or immoral?
There is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to fulfill fantasies with the person you love more than anything in the world. Being open and honest with them about it, I believe, would bring you closer together. If that fantasy requires fulfillment from outside your relationship but you are honest with your sig. other, then so be it.
I personally find it more damaging when people (primarily women do this though) have EMOTIONAL affairs outside of their marriage. You can have sex with anyone, but you can only make love to the person you are in love with...
2007-12-12 08:30:25 · answer #9 · answered by Silly B 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is wrong, if it were not than why would you take a vow to be faithfull.
I personally do not see how so man people can justify having an affair as "just sex". There is no such thing when you have given yourself to another & promised them forever.
2007-12-12 07:27:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋