My husband has just thrown me against a cupboard and repeatedly shaken me back and forth with my head banging on the cupboard.
Because daughter not going to bed easily he's blames it on me.
2007-12-12 07:12:50 · 44 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
call the police
2007-12-12 07:38:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Everyone says run...
You dont say if this was out of character for him.
Guys can get frustrated just cos not listened to.
It is not impossible that a relationship counselor could help if he is not normally abusive. It is also possible that you were both in a blaming game conversation, rather than a solving the problem conversation.
There is much wisdom in P A C (Parent Adult Child) analysis.
See the book - I am ok you are ok.
The book - Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus, has a section on guys, and their need for a retreat 'Cave'. Its true for many guys.
Those in their 20's and 30's are saying run, because they dont have the life experience, to lift you out of what may be a temporary problem.
Guy in Sixties here. !
It ain't all over till the fat Lady sings, and It ain't all over, if you both get some rest.
2007-12-12 23:09:12 · answer #2 · answered by eastanglianuk1951 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get yourself to a refuge as quick as you can the main number is in the phone book. Don't let this behaviour become the norm for you and your poor daughter. This isn't the first time is it? I have been in your shoes thankfully l didn't have any kids but l had the sense to get out. I am sure everyone else will tell you the same l hate to think of anyone in this predicament. pleeeeeeeeeeeeeeease leave. good luck both to you and your daughter xxxxxxx
2007-12-12 07:41:14 · answer #3 · answered by Sarah C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GET OUT ! GET OUT ! GET OUT !
Your husband and anybody else for that matter has not got any right to man handle you and especially when the reason is the one thing you truely share together . Children are hard work (i have twins & a baby) and they love to play up for that extra bit of attention and if things are tense in their home enviroment they will pick up on it and inevitablly play up.
I personally would sit your husband down and talk to him as he obviously has some issues about parenting and an issue with his temper. Until he can sort out his issues and sit down and talk to you like a cival human being about his problems i would ask him to leave for your daughter's sake and inevitably your own safty. If he can abuse you now he is not going to stop THIS WILL HAPPEN AGAIN maybe not straight away but trust me it will no matter how sorry he says he is now. He has to get professional help and whilst he does that he needs to be on his own.
I know that it's not easy to ask someone you love to leave or to leave them but you and your daughter deserve more RESPECT & LOVE YOURSELF
2007-12-13 02:32:58 · answer #4 · answered by bunnysomerville 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cassie,
You have to seek help from experts. Like some counselling agency. Inform this incident to some of your close friends or family. If you could move out with your child to a safe place, do that also. Dont be shaken, try to regain your confidence or mental strength. Make sure you dont fight with him or get into verbal volleys with him.
Take care.. All the best..
2007-12-12 07:21:34 · answer #5 · answered by doer 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have somewhere to go ..then get your daughter and yourself out .Otherwise tomorrow arrange somewhere else to stay with your daughter as from tomorrow. Do not put up with abuse you both deserve much more than that. You can contact a local women's refuge or the council who should provide services to protect abused women and there children. Please don't put yourself in danger ...hold on until you can leave but LEAVE .He will say sorry and he loves you and he cant live without you ...he may even say he will kill you then himself if you go.Trust me this is what all abusive men say .
There is NO excuse for his behaviour full stop.
If you stay he will do it again and again....and again.
2007-12-12 07:23:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Call the police, pack your stuff up, take your child and stay at a close friend or family members house.
You and your child are not safe in the house with an abusive husband and you need to report this incident and get away!!
2007-12-12 07:20:46 · answer #7 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He has a problem and it is not yours to tend to, once they start putting his or her hands on you, it is a matter of time before someone gets really hurt. It is time for you to take your daughter and get away from him, he is now a time bomb waiting to happen, or just happen. It is up to you to keep your child in a safe environment and out of harms way, there is no reason for him to flare up over such a small thing as a earlier bed time. Let him go and let god, pray and stay away from him until he gets help for his angry problem, remember once he does it the first time it is no problem to continue on and on and on, that's a long time, so STOP IT NOW.
2007-12-12 07:58:34 · answer #8 · answered by carmel 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Guarantee this has happened afew times to say the least and you won't do anything about it. A classic abused women. If by 'any' chance this is the first time then leave him cos it'll get worse.They ALWAYS blame the abused for their actions aswell.
2007-12-12 07:21:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take your daughter and leave. File a police report. Do not leave your daughter with him for any reason. Next time it could be her. Do not listen to him when he apologizes. Get away from him and stay away for your safety and that of your child.
2007-12-12 07:35:48 · answer #10 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get your daughter....go to a neighbour's and ask if you can call the police....then Call Them and tell them you're husband has just commited an act of domestic violence against you.....do not tolerate it...once is one too many! Good Luck.
2007-12-12 07:22:00 · answer #11 · answered by The Original GarnetGlitter 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋