I find that I'm s.e.x.ually attracted to a different man. I have not done anything with this other man and I do not plan on doing anything with him..
But
Why am I attracted to this particular man other than my husband. I do not want my husband to touch me at all. I know the other man wants me and lately I have been avoiding him though I'm constantly thinking about him...
I do not even want to share the same room with my husband any more..
what should I do?
2007-12-12 07:10:13 · 24 answers · asked by ME 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Keep avoiding this man and get over him. It is just a little crush, but you must not feed it or it won't go away. Don't be fooled into thinking that the grass is greener on the other side. Once you know everything about a person (your hubby) it easy to think you like someone better (that you know nothing about). Remember the vibes you felt before you got married? Same thing. Remember that this guy has his own set of problems. Spend time helping your husband with his.
2007-12-12 07:45:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's cheating on his wife, the woman was once felt was his ''soulmate'' and once felt they were ''meant for each other'' and did actually marry, What makes you think he won't cheat on YOU in the future? Then you AND your CHILDREN will be on your own. How do you really know that he means what he says? Many married men who cheat do it because they seek the excitement that comes from having an affair. And this has been acknowledged through many statistics/surveys, etc. and is always the topic on shows for women... The statistics are very low for married men leaving their wives for the other woman and it is likely they will cheat on her as well. Think about the type of man he is... While he may be telling the truth at that moment, about his love and feelings for you, those are only words and you have to keep in mind that people can go back on their word easily and their feelings change all the time. I mean he once vowed to be with his wife and obviously they meant nothing to him. According to the Secret Lives of Women, 75% of married men don't leave their wives after cheating. And of those 25% that do divorce, very few will go for the other woman. They rather go look for a woman who isn't as easily led and has more morals. Would he really want to leave his wife for a woman who is cheating on her husband? How can there ever be trust between you two? While the right thing to do is get a divorce, many men think "it's cheaper to keep her" . Many people do not have the time and money to go through the hassle. I think you should let your husband know about this. It is unfair to him. It should he his decision whether to divorce you or not. Staying in a marriage full of lies is only asking for trouble... Starting a marriage based on lies is even worse... I'm sorry if this disheartens you, but just know what you are getting yourself into and remember what type of person you're dealing with.
2016-05-23 06:11:37 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
STOP! Why aren't you attracted to your husband? I have gone through this before, and it was for a reason. He promised he'd marry me if I got pregnant, even though we didn't break up. I was left alone in the hospital after the baby was born. I didn't even have a ride home. Then, I really didn't get any help and had a nervous breakdown. I don't know if you are really mad at him for something, but I decided when my baby was 2 weeks old that I hated him, and after that I did not like him at all. You should get counseling and do things together. Make your lives together better. Sex really isn't that important.
2007-12-12 07:40:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well some women just need too be touched by their husbands and if he isnt doing it, then they may seek the touch of another man. As long as you don't act on it then it should be fine.
I would talk too your husband and ask him why doesnt he touch you anymore, sometimes when the sex stops that means their is a problem in the marriage.
2007-12-12 07:16:29 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like there's nothing good going on in your marriage which is leading you to stray.
If you want to fix things up with your husband you have to let him know how you feel and seek marriage counseling to find out why you feel the way you do and to get help. If that doesn't work then maybe a divorce is right for you.
You cannot continue living unhappy or you will end up dying miserable. Life is too short to stick around people who don't make you happy, so find out what you really what in life, what really makes you happy.. and go for that.
2007-12-12 07:19:50 · answer #5 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think you've hit a slump - a dangerous time in any marriage. Pull your thoughts away from this other man - start finding other things to do with your time - learn a new craft - go to a gym and work out - get in a card club - something. This time will pass - don't do anything you will later regret - like cheat!
2007-12-12 07:17:23 · answer #6 · answered by misselie1 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You didn't honestly think when you got married that you would never be attracted to another man did you? It's normal, but you're married now, divorce is a last resort. Now sit down, and figure out how to tell your hubby what you just told a million strangers...
2007-12-12 07:23:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Talk with your husband and be honest, look into counseling try and stay committed but if not make sure its over with the husband before you do anything with another man, best of luck!
2007-12-12 07:18:06 · answer #8 · answered by eknootz77 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can live with yourself for being a cheater, tr5y the other guy. If your living in a sexless marriage, that isn't so fun, I know, been there, done that.
If you try this guy out, you may find that you have NO Idea what attracted you to him, or you will be happier than ever!
2007-12-12 07:14:40 · answer #9 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I honestly think that you should work on your sexual realtionship with your hubby, you need to relight that fire that once was when you first got together. You need to put a little effort into it. Why dont you want to share the same room with your husband? has he done something wrong to turn you off or away?
2007-12-12 07:14:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋