His mother, though divorced, still keeps his father's last name and has been well known as Mrs. Wallis.I decided not to take my husband's last name when I married my husband because I feel weird to be called Mrs. Wallis. He asked me several times if I would change my name in future. I am not sure about that. Just want to see what other people do. This may sound like a strange question to you but I moved here from a culture that women do not use husband's last names - just a different tradition.
2007-12-12 07:03:32 · 11 answers · asked by smeagolrocks 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I kept mine and hypenated his. I just could not be a Mrs. Gordon b/c that's his mom and it gives me the heebie jeebies so I have both as a last name and my kids have their daddies last name.
2007-12-12 07:21:55 · answer #1 · answered by Yummy♥Mummy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did... Not because it's the culture from where I come from but because I want people to know I am his and that no one else has the right to use his name except me - yes, a possessive wife I am!
Though women have the legal constitutional rights (in our country) to use their own/father's last name, still 98% of us use our husband's last name and go through all the fuss of amending legal documents.
But if I were in your shoes and husband asked several times if I would change name, then probably I would. I'll give it as a surprise. Because he might just be wanting/wishing for you to do that. I'm not so sure but men would love to hear their wives be called Mrs. Wallis or something else - like it's making them proud... Well, that's just me...
2007-12-12 15:34:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not married yet, but I'm planning on taking his name for several reasons...
I'd be extremely proud to have his last name. In my eyes, it's a way of showing him that you will always be there, and that you are proud to be part of his family. Also, like someone else said, I'm also possessive. ;) No one else is allowed to be "Mrs. his-last-name-here" but me, his son's very far into the future wife, his mom and his brother's future wife.
We each have a child from previous relationships; I have a daughter, he has a son. We've been talking about him adopting my daughter as his own after the wedding, and if he does adopt her, then her name will be the same as his and his son's. Doesn't really make much sense for me to have a different name then my kids (especially since you'll always have their schools' calling and asking for Mrs. Kids-last-name-here).
2007-12-12 16:17:15 · answer #3 · answered by believedeverylie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi... Well I have the same problem, so join the club! :-)
I have already tons of discussing with my boyfriend about it, but first you need to know some facts on us.
I'm italian and italians our really proud of their culture and country. My boyfriend isn't from Italy and his lastnames sound kind of "cold"... He's from the north! So normally I would take with pleasure the name of my husband BUT if I would ever divorce (and I hope NOT)! Than I would take my own name back in a second!
But I want to raise my kids in italian and I want them also to have Italians names... And it really doesn't sound "pretty" with the name of my husband so I even want them to carry my name...
You just have to do whatever YOU want to do and where you feel confortable with. Its something import, because it makes you another person... You will be his wife and not just "laura" anymore.
Sometimes religion also plays a part. I don't know if you're very religious or your husband.
Its up to you to take the choise...
But if I was married to an italian that I would definitly take his name, without even thinking about it.
I hope this helped you just a little tiny bit :-)
**Good luck**
2007-12-12 15:32:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I took mine. Nobody really calls you Mrs. Wallis anymore. They call you by your first and last name. The only place people call me Mrs. is at my kid's school.
2007-12-12 15:30:01 · answer #5 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ah, well if it is not prevalent in your culture to change your last name following marriage, i'm sure that that feels strange to you. it may not be appropriate for you if that is your culture and you and your husband should have a good talk about it
as far as i go, if i ever trick someone into marrying me (haha) i will definitely take his last name. i think it's really romantic. besides, i can't wait for my current last name to become my middle name, because my current middle name is so horrible! :D
2007-12-12 15:27:30 · answer #6 · answered by ~ Mi$fitPrin¢ess ~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I took my husbands last name.It does take some getting used to though I am rarely called Mrs.
2007-12-12 15:13:18 · answer #7 · answered by Jill 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I kept my last name. It's not in our tradition either. My husband would like me to change my last name to his one day, but I don't see that happening.
2007-12-12 22:45:26 · answer #8 · answered by liz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife has yet to take my last name, but its not possible at the moment, she is in Basic for the Army. If she tells me she isnt going to, it would hurt me a great deal. She has a son from a previous relationship and he is taking my last name.
2007-12-12 15:15:11 · answer #9 · answered by CableMan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I took my husbands last name
and was excited to do so
2007-12-12 15:32:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋