Ladies, can you re-fall in luv w/ your husband?

Question

From my previous questions, My wife luv me but not in-love w/ me. Her luv was due to 20yrs of marraige and family. She is not in-love w/ me because I guess after 20yrs, the magic are gone or it's on simmered and not on Hot. She wandered off and had a fantasy luv affair w/ a real person. She claimed nothing happened and I believe her. It's too soon to tell but I guess we are trying to work it out. But once you are out of luv w/ your mate, can you or have you fall back into luv w/ your mate once more? Or am I fantasizing ? I luv my wife and willing to let her go to explore her new found success. I'm trying to chase her back. Is it an impossible dream? Ladies, your honest feeling please? TIA

Answer 1

Yes you can fall back in love. It just takes time and effort. When we fall out of love we more or less lose the passion the love once held. It's impossible to get that new feeling back as the love can never be new. But the passion, it can be recreated over and over. It's never just gonna happen on its own. You must make an effort. In order to maintain the passion you must create the environment for it. You see, when we get married both parties tend to let themselves and their game slip somewhat because we've already found the love we searched for. Then we begin to change how we treat eachother because the woo factor is gone. You no longer romance eachother because you don't have to. Then life kicks in, good things and bad things happen. Then life turns into a rut. Everyday the same routine, nothing new and nothing special. People need new and special in their lifes so that they are able to differentiate day to day life. Years and days begin to run into eachother and it turns into years of the same crap. This really stresses marriages as both parties begin to neglect eachother for the sake of themselves. When we do special and fun things that divide up our normal daily activities not only do you get refreshed but you begin to get a new outlook on life. You appreciate eachother and your home lives even more. Do what you must to revive the passion as you know your wife and what she enjoys. With love, anything is possible! I wish you the best of luck! God Bless!

Answer 2

from my point of view I don't think it's possible, but then it all depends on what caused the rift in the marriage to begin with. If she went out and had an affair then you should get the message loud and clear, she should be honest with you and tell you that she doesn't love you anymore. In my opinion you shouldn't have to fall back in love with your partner, if it's true love you should never have fallen out of love in the first place. I don't think it's right to stay in a marriage because you think you have to love your husband, if the love isn't there then your marriage is bound to end. Living in a loveless marriage gives no meaning to life, life is to short and it's not fair that you should have to wait and see what she does. Good luck!!!

Answer 3

Yes it is possible, both of you should spend time with each other, and dont talk about money or kids....Unless you both need answers to problem solving situations. Sit and reminiece about why you both fell in love in the first place. How you both felt....the butterflys, the creme in the jeans...the whole thing...what you wanted to accomplish with your marriage. Candlelit bathing together, would be a good way to talk this through as you both would be on the same plane....so to speak...no clothes no hiding be honest and fair.

Answer 4

Talking is the one reply. But whilst I'm relatively disappointed over anything, it is difficult to not be emotional, which makes it difficult to talk about a hindrance in a relaxed and function procedure with out making accusations or getting shielding. So how I begin and manage the dialogue is principal so I do not get disappointed. I uncover a well method is to invite an instantaneous query in advance. You depart your feelings as great you'll out of it and provide your associate a hazard to talk about it with out getting shielding. I could possibly ask him why he does not love to spend as so much time along with your mum and dad and also you each do along with his. If he attempts to preclude the query, or brush it off, or provide an reply with out relatively answering, rephrase or provide an instance, such because the time he omitted your mum and dad after they final visited (which incidentally is impolite), and qualify your query via giving an instance of the way you regularly make a factor of being sociable along with his mum and dad after they consult with with none query due to the fact they're loved ones. When my associate does not see why any such query is principal, I most of the time do inform him why I'm so disappointed due to the fact he demands to grasp if he is doing anything to disappointed me, up to I have got to realize if I'm doing anything to disappointed him. It's the one method you'll paintings in combination and shield each and every different. EDIT - The emphasis must be on you as lifestyles companions. I could point out that a hindrance with younger peers of ours is that once they have had a pair huge arguments, the spouse has run to her mum and dad (3h away) and the husband hears from the mum and dad. That's now not a partnership and it isn't reasonable. I realize this does not observe for your predicament, however simply to exhibit, you're a pair that may paintings this out in combination due to the fact you each subject.

Answer 5

You know This might sound silly but my sister fell back in love with her husband of 15 years because he stay up all night with their old dying cat ,comforting it so it wouldn't die alone. That was 2 years ago and still going strong .So sometimes it just takes one unselfish or kind act to renew the spark and I realize this really isn't what you wanted to know I just think it's a sweet story.Good luck and I hope you will have a good ending to your story !!!

Answer 6

Of course it's possible but only she has to be working at your relationship together with you, then one day she will realize that she's in love with you again. But if you aren't working together it will never work.

Answer 7

I believe if your love is real to start......you can absolutely find it again with that person. we all fall out of sorts from time to time...but the real truth always lied beneath it.

Answer 8

sounds like pure fantasy that she didn't cheat on you. and yes if she is not pursuing you, it is over. why are you having to chase her.