I am 29 she 25. We were together for 3 months. We were really into eachother and things went way to fast. We had sex within 3 days of knowing eachother and things skyrocketted. She expressed to me sometime that she needed space but was doing it so things didnt get messed up in teh future for us. Then she todl me that she agreed that things went to fast and kinda freaked her out. She had just got out a a verbally abusive relationship one month before me got together. She states that she was still messed up by her ex. She broke yup with me telling me she lost the spark, cause we were togther to much. She stated to me that she still wanted to talk to me and hang out and she will pronanly regret the decision to break up with me. My question is she still thinking of me? We never had any problems in our relationship she stated she wanted to marry me etc. She states today that this is not easy for her either and she would like to stay friends with me. Does this show she is confused right now?
2007-12-12 06:31:17 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Her mother called me last night and said to me that she and her family really like me and that they want us to be together. She thinks he daughter is just being selfish and not looking at the whole picture. Her mom also told me that my ex has expressed to her on numerous occasions that she was unsure about how she felt about me. Me and my ex text’d each other for the first time today in about 5 days. I told her I was thinking of her and missed her. She replied as “this is not easy for her either and that she wanted to stay friends with me. Could it be that she is just confused with her feelings right now and being her friend will give her the time to understand her feelings. Or is she really done with me, but if she is why stay friends. I really fell hard for this girl and she did originally, but I just want some life experiences from anyone or advice. Could staying friends even though she states this is not easy for her a way for her to decide on what she wants
2007-12-12 06:31:33 · update #1
My guess is she is scared and confused... she doesn't want to make the same mistake twice and wants to be cautious. She gave in to the sex way too soon, probably because she longed for it after having it all the time to not at all. She probably doesn't want you to think less of her for this, and some say that starting out fast always ruins a relationship and the respect the man has for the woman. She doesn't want to set herself up for failure. She needs something real and stable and secure. If you want her bad enough, hang in there, I believe she will come around if you continue to give her zero reasons to not trust you! Look what she had in the past, of course she is going to be cautious about trusting men and jumping into a new relationship...... stay consistent and strong, don't give up and it will make it harder for her to run. Don't quit being a part of her life, but don't expect sex either.
2007-12-12 06:47:02 · answer #1 · answered by Betty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, are you serious? You're falling for this old "I just want to be friends" line? She dumped you - end of story. I'm sorry - not to be crude, but she's probably banging some other dude right now. If she "lost the spark" just after three months, it was not a "relationship", it was a diversion for her, and now it's over. It doesn't matter how long it took for you to have sex; I've known people who had sex on the first date, and remain happily married 20 years later. Things moving fast isn't necessarily going to kill the relationship - that is, if there's something there. If there's nothing there, if it's just a rebound on her part (which is exactly what it sounds like) - you are screwed. Your best bet is to purge her our of your mind and your heart, and find someone new to "hang out" with. Don't prolong the agony. Good luck.
2007-12-12 06:43:57 · answer #2 · answered by Sandy Ego 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on. Do you really want to be with a woman (or marry) one that puts this much stress and confusion in your life just after three months!? There are better women than this one. Move On. Do not even agree to be friends for a while as you will need some time to recover from this mess. She doesnt know what she wants.
2007-12-12 06:38:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Holy cow I have issues with her mother calling you and talking about her daughter like that!!! So inappropriate!
I think shes on the rebound and still recovering from her last relationship. Of course she freaked out that things moved to fast, shes scared of getting into another bad relationship. It sounds like she really needs some space right now to get to know herself again. She is totally confused.
I think the best thing for you to do its cut your losses, learn to take things slower next time and move on. It was only 3 months, after all.
2007-12-12 06:37:38 · answer #4 · answered by Morley 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow what a story-you went too fast and now you are both back peddling!She may be confused why not ask her to start over slowly-like go to the movies together or out to dinner 9you know like dating)and really get to know each other without the sex for a while-see what happens
2007-12-12 06:38:05 · answer #5 · answered by Lunaeclipz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Still go on with your life, stick around A Little bit. Three months isn't A lot of time to get really serious. And God don't make the mistake and bring the mother in on it you will regret it forever!
2007-12-12 06:45:34 · answer #6 · answered by answer machine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gross that her mother had the audacity to involve herself in your relationship ( a bad sign for later, guy ! ) .
Do not hang on and on and on waiting and waiting. Get over her ... and eventually God will send you another. Just be extremely cautious and do NOT have sex at all until AFTER you are married ( there is a reason that scenario worked well for thousands of years ) ..that way you get to know everyone around her.. her choice of friends..her family and what they are like, etc. There is NO need to rush.
2007-12-12 06:43:08 · answer #7 · answered by BelieverinGod 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
slut,
and you havn't gotten laid enough to dump her. let your balls drop you candy a&&
2007-12-12 06:49:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋