2007-12-12 06:27:23 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Do you really have to ask this question? Isn't it obvious?
2007-12-12 06:37:10 · answer #1 · answered by kleo 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Many foster kids didn't get what they needed in their family. The home may not have been stable, well-supervised, may have been lacking in affection, discipline, or attention.
My daughter and her husband are licensed foster parents and they've had many kids come through the system. Nearly all were starved for love and attention. Only one was really a problem and had to be placed in a more structured setting. He was aggressive toward the other kids, constantly bullied them and talked about fighting, guns, and killing. He had grown up in a home where his father beat him and his mother.
Most of the foster kids do well, thrive and we all cry when they go home.
I must add one major point. It's the system that most often fails the child. They don't follow through with the ongoing needs of the child once they are placed in foster care. They will provide a mentor or a tutor when asked but they never check to see how it's working out. One child saw his tutor ONE time in five months instead of the scheduled three days a week. All that time the tutor was getting paid for doing nothing! DHS could use a good overhaul and more supervision of caseworkers!!
2007-12-12 07:10:33 · answer #2 · answered by missingora 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree that this is a stereotype. We adopted two kids through the foster care system. Both are globally delayed because they were born addicted to the drugs taken by their mother while pregnant. Our older son particularly had problems when we first got him because he had also been neglected by his birth family. However, I would never define them as 'bad' kids. They are delayed, but they are normal kids, and are catching up more and more every day. I truely believe they will only bring joy to our lives. When we began the process, we had many people, friends and family, tried to dissuade us from adopting through the foster care system. They wanted us to go private or even adopt from overseas. They were concerned that the kids in the foster care system were all "damaged". However, all of these people have come around and all now love our sons as much as we do. I believe if people knew that many of these kids really just need a stable and loving home, and a little understanding, then many more of them would be adopted.
2016-05-23 06:02:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no such thing as a bad kid.
There are just some kids out there that have had a hard time or are very troubled. By the way not all foster kids have behavior problems so don't stereotype. In fact I know a couple of people who had been in and out of foster homes as kids and they have grown up to be successful and decent citezins.
2007-12-12 07:25:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Their not bad they just need to find a right home that actually understands them. Sometimes they end up with a twisted a.ss family that just takes them in for the money of the government. But my Tia (AUNT) has foster kids living with her. They are so sweet & they call her mom. Shes so wonderful w/kids. I mean she loves them alot like if they were her own. Us cousin, uncles, & aunts call them our family too. They feel so comfortable with our family. So when some of them go back with their parents it sucks. But most of the time they come back and visite =]. Their just misunderstood. Also they go to school and everything and believe me these kids were bad. They just needed someone to be there for them.
2007-12-12 06:56:37 · answer #5 · answered by ஐ♥★ MeLii ☆ DaNi★♥ஐ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
more than often foster children have had a bad experience in their lives this causing them to act out and express unwanted behaviours. there are many reasons behind misbehaviours in many children not just foster children truth is all children act out but foster children have had an unsteady family life as they have been moved around so much, it can be prevented with the right care and parenting and having a loving family to support their needs.
2007-12-12 06:36:22 · answer #6 · answered by Hayley 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Think about it from their point of view.
They`re passed on from "home" to "home". Nobody seems to take the time to get to know them because they are "bad foster kids".
They arent bad (or at least, most of them arent). Its the people around them.
2007-12-12 08:07:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because they don't have a "stable" family. Soem foster kids go from home to home and never have that REAL love that alot of parents offer kids.
2007-12-12 06:32:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
gee lets think about that shall we.. they get taken away from their parents because their parents were bad not the kids. then they usually seperate siblings from one another, then they get bounced around from home to home where they never fit in or actually belong. and everybody introduces them as the "fosterkids" like they have a disease or something. the kids are just scared to show emotion because everytime they get close to someone they get yanked away again.try putting yourself in their shoes. how would you feel or react?
2007-12-12 16:14:22 · answer #9 · answered by wikkedmomma33 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
they get mad and tired of moving they want to have a normal life like some of there friends and some aren't bad you just have to take ur time to get to know them and they maybe depressed
2007-12-12 06:35:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't say "bad" I would say "troubled".
They are troubled because they are tossed around from place to place and chances are they come from troubled homes.
2007-12-12 06:32:55 · answer #11 · answered by adrian♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋