2007-12-12 06:00:27 · 9 answers · asked by Fruitful1 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
yes and i married her. dating a woman with kids is different.
the key is to make sure that you dont make the relationship just about the mom. you have to include the kids as often as possible. if you really end up falling in love with her but cant stand her kids you are going to have severe problems later on.
2007-12-12 06:05:08 · answer #1 · answered by jacks_insanity 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I didn't first time around because I believed that, somehow, I managed to make it that far without procreating, and I wanted the same from a potential significant other. Maybe that was being selfish, but I also thought that it wouldn't be fair to do it otherwise, to me, to the date, or her children. OK, thumbs down me for that. Now, however, my attitude is different: I have 2 teens, I'm nearly divorced, and I guess I'd prefer someone else with kids, who can relate to what being a parent is all about. What a difference 20 years makes.
2007-12-12 14:06:49 · answer #2 · answered by colder_in_minnesota 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dated many women who were mothers. Majority of the time it is very much fun. Years ago however I was seeing this woman and she wanted her son to start calling me dad. I ended that relationship immediately as I was most certainly not the little guys father and did not want to take away from his relationship with his real dad. The last woman that I dated had three children and we married in May. We all get along great and I should mention that I also have three sons from before. All the children are mature and accepting of our relationship and marriage and all say also that they have never seen us as happy as we are at present. Majority of people come into relationships with some form of baggage and if the kids are part of their baggage no big deal, providing they are good parents. Best of luck.
2007-12-12 14:06:32 · answer #3 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am a woman. I had a no step - kid policy when I was yonger (think early 20's). However, one day when I went to K-mart a nice clean cut white guy with a suit began a conversation with me. Honestly I did not think much of it. He asked me out. We went out a couple nights a week. We got along fine. He said he was not married but had one kid. He was from out of of town and there was no way I could disprove him being married. One day over dinner he said out of the blue, "Just so you know my kid comes first and if you cannot accept that then that is a problem you will have". I was stunned because I had never even made a reference to his kid! In fact, I was making him my exception to my rule of no step-kid.
Now I am almost 30 so I am a bit more lenient because it is so hard to find men or divorcees without kids. Plus I tend to go for the older type because I like clean cut men with maturity in their personality.
2007-12-12 14:10:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have and the relationship was always impaired by the baby daddy who ,didnt handle is business and dont want you to handle yours.
I didnt have any kids and from that time forward ,I only date women who were just like me . Without kids ,so if got serious we start from new. Not saying it wont work for some of you guys ,but if the women doesnt tell you everything and may still be dealing with the baby daddy ,it is a NEEDLESS headache.
2007-12-12 14:05:24 · answer #5 · answered by Mr.Man 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes I have and more than once..It is a give or take type of situations. Than you have the issues with their father. I rather be where I am today her children are grown and doing their thing. I am parent myself and I am very much part of their lives..And the best part of all this my partner, wifey or girlfriend of many yrs now gets along with the mothers of my children since day 1 and we are 2gether for 8yrs.
2007-12-12 16:28:35 · answer #6 · answered by !@#$% 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes i have dated a lady with kids..it was fine but things didnt work out maybe the next one will
2007-12-12 14:26:34 · answer #7 · answered by nas88car300 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have, more than one. Didn't really bother me, but you have to guage the boundaries, yours and the kids. One of them had a kid that was very ill behaved and it really just soured the relationship for me I must admit.
2007-12-12 14:05:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have. And it was awkward being around her kids sometimes. It was also annoying to always have to plan our dates around baby-sitter availability. I think that's why it didn't last between us.
2007-12-12 15:20:36 · answer #9 · answered by Bleu Diamond-Phillips 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋