is it bad to have unprotected sex even though im on the pill?

Question

I have been my bf nearly 9months and we have now started not useing condoms as sometimes I just love the feeling of plain skin..Most the time he doesnt come inside me.But is it so bad have unprotected sex??
Like we dont have stds and all my previous bf I have used condoms.
But I have recently read that u can get preg even on the pill and chances are 2%.I..I also had a friend who got preg on the pill.Now I am worryed.I love the sex now though.
Help...go back condoms?

Also about std's I have been tested and also my bf is in the military and cant have stds..He just finshing his proto school in the navy.

Answer 1

It is always bad to have unprotected sex when you are not married. I have a 21 yo son that is proof that using just the pill is not enough protection. That was also when the pill was stronger and the chance of pregnancy was only 1% which is a big difference than 3%. The pill is only 97% now. I got pregnant on my honeymoon. Also, just because he does not come inside you does not mean that you cannot get pregnant. There is a substance that comes out of the man before he comes, even when he just gets excited, that has sperm in it. It is a clear, small amount of fluid. Unless you go to the doctor with him and verify it yourself, you cannot believe that he is without disease. Never believe anything like that, "just because he says so". Abstinence is best until you are married, but using the pill AND condoms is next best thing. You should also go to your doctor to be tested for disease even with using those things. You can get diseases that he may have no symptoms of and nothing that you can see. If you have oral sex, you could end up still with herpes, or HPV in your throat or mouth. And then of course, there is always AIDS. The fastest group of HIV patients are teens and twenty-somethings. Please try to educate yourself more before anything unfortunate happens and you become a statistic. There are places you can go to talk to people for free if your family is not an option, or you feel that you can't talk to the doctor that gives you the prescription for the pill. PLEASE PLAY IT SAFE.
After I put my answer on the site, I saw that you added that just because he was in the Navy, he couldn't have any STD's. I know as a former Navy wife, that they are not regularly tested for std's. They actually have to go to the corpsman and ask for help if 'in the rare instance that they actually have symptoms'. I actually got chlamydia once while I was 7 months pregnant with our daughter. (Third and final child) Even when the Navy doctor told me I had it, he gave me antibiotics, but did not report it to my husband's command as he was supposed to. I actually had to call the ship and tell the captain myself because my husband refused to be treated. My husband tried to tell me that I was the one that got it and that it wasn't from him. Needless to say, he was diagnosed with it and got in trouble with his captain and as for me, he is no longer my husband. Don't believe everything you hear, especially about what they claim are "Navy rules." The only thing they are regularly tested for is HIV.

Answer 2

There is a risk that EVERY woman assumes when she decides to have sex. There are additional risks she takes on when she decides to forego the use of a condom.

There is a risk of getting pregnant while on the pill... and the main way to avoid this risk is to take your pill EXACTLY as directed. (and lets be honest... taking a pill at the same minute every single day is a LOT more difficult than most people acknowledge)

Since STDs are not your concern (which is fortunate, but as a fellow female, I'd advise that you BOTH get TESTED by a doctor to be SURE. Just assuming that you're both STD free because you don't think you have an STD is not fair to you or your partner.... especially since you're now having sex without condoms) I'm going to assume that you're most concerned with getting pregnant. My boyfriend and I decided, before we ever had sex, that we wanted to be very sure that we did not get pregnant. We opted for the combined use of the pill AND condoms.

The answer is OBVIOUS, if you're really concerned about getting pregnant, but still want to have sex, use a condom as well.

This choice is something that a person can only give you their OPINION on, because ultimately, the choice is only up to you. You're going to have to balance out what is more important to you:
-Not getting pregnant
-Having better sex

This is a choice that can be difficult to make in the 'heat of the moment,' and is something you and your partner should discuss TOGETHER before you have sex again.

Best of luck!

Answer 3

If you're on birth control, it isn't unprotected sex. :) You're not protected from STDs and infections, but you are protecting yourself from pregnancy. If you take the pills exactly as directed, your chances of becoming pregnant are LESS than 1 in every 100 women. You should be able to rely on your pill to prevent pregnancy, but you have to take it at the right time every day. The more you miss a pill/multiple pills, the higher the chance that the constant hormone level in your body will drop too low, causing the ovaries to release an egg. If you're on antibiotics or taking other medications, some may interact with the pills. This isn't totally proven, but there's enough of a risk to warrant the use of another contraceptive while taking the risky medications. I'm on birth control and haven't used a condom in almost a year (with my steady boyfriend,) and I've been safe. There's also the idea that you can use two methods together. While on the pill you should be able to safely use the pull-out method while tracking your cycle and not have to worry about pregnancy at all... the chances of you still becoming pregnant would be slim to nill. As long as you both are clean from any and every STD, along with taking your pills in a timely manner, I would say go for it. Best wishes. :)

Answer 4

You have the risk of getting sexually transmitted diseases and yes, you do have a chance of getting pregnant even if you're on the pill. You need to take the pill everyday (you can't miss one) and usually at the same time everyday. If you don't, this increases the risk of pregnancy.

Also, he might say he doesn't have any STDs but does he know that for sure? Get yourselves tested. A condom could have broken in the past and you could have picked something up from someone else as well...not that likely but you never know. Go check that out.

Also, if you really aren't wanting to use condoms just because you like the feeling better, there are ultra thin condoms. I think they break easier but its better than if you don't use anything.

Wearing condoms, being on the pill, and using spermicide can all help prevent you from getting pregnant...really effective when all are used together.

Answer 5

Use condoms until you are married. Nine months doesn't mean much in the long run - especially if you end up pregnant or with an std. Are you completely sure that neither one of you has an std? Have you been repeatedly tested for them over the past 6 months? If not - then you can't be 100% sure.

It's great that you used condoms with all of your past partners - but you can't be sure your present boyfriend has done the same. Even if he tells you he has...

You can get pregnant on the pill, too. So, ease your mind and start using the condoms again until you are ready to start a family.

Answer 6

The chances of getting preggers on the pill is actually less than 2%, but there is still a chance. The pill is not guaranteed.

But the other reason to wear condoms is to protect against stds which nowadays are easy to get and not so easy to see. When my X and I decided to take them off we both got checked. You should too, many clinics will do it for free, but even if not free it is worth it. Trust me, I have too many friends with herpes.

Have you tried different types of condoms? Some are more comfortable than others.

The other things is, even after you get checked out... I'm sorry to say this but... people cheat, you know, things happen. Promise each other that if you have a moment of weakness with someone else that you will definitely use a condom.

All of this crap sounds like it takes the romance out of lovemaking, but once you have protected yourself you can forget about it and just enjoy the sex.

Hope this helps.

Answer 7

You CAN still get pregnant despite using the pill!!!!!!
Any hormonal changes which you may not even be aware of at the time, any viruses and nausea can stop the pill from working.
I've had a few friends who have become pregnant despite being on the pill, including one friend who has a young baby and was taking the pill because she was't breastfeeding ~ she's now pregnant again even though she took the pill properly.
Please go back to using condoms as well. until you're sure you're ready to become a mum.
Stay on the pill too though as condoms aren't failsafe either.

Answer 8

There is a slight possibility that you can get pregnant while taking the pill. You have to decide if you are willing to take that risk. Also, the chance of getting an STD is much greater when not using a condom. You have to decide how much you trust him and how faithful you think he has been and will continue to be in the future. Just becasue he does not have an STD right now doesn't mean that he can not get one if he has sex with someone other than you. I am not saying he will cheat on you but you should consider the possibility.

Answer 9

Some STI's including Chlamydia do not actually display symptoms until the infection has got worse.

There is no certainty that neither of you are totally free from STI's. The only assurance is when you have a test done.

Relying on the Pill entirely is a little risky, the risk is small but is there. At the end of the day its up to you, sometimes you have to make a little sacrifice.

Answer 10

Having sex while on the pill is statistically safer pregnancy wise if you use it like your supposed to. Its true that pill has a 98%-99% succes rate which is higher then a condom which is around 92-94%. Condoms can break easier then the medication will fail( as long as you take it like the doctor tells you to). So if your not worried about std's then having sex while on the pill is completely safe. Dont worry and have fun.