I am in a relationship and I am ready to get married mainly for the simple fact that I am tired of living in sin. We live together and have been living together for a few months. We both want to get married but want to make sure we are right for each other. I know its wrong to have sex before marriage on that same note I know we are supposed to abide by the laws of man. Technically we are "common law married" but I get so sad when I think about not being married because I know it is GODS will. Any suggestions on what I should do?
2007-12-12 05:56:52 · 19 answers · asked by Bee 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
also please if you do not believe in GOD please DO NOT COMMENT!!
2007-12-12 06:14:39 · update #1
Hey girl, I know just what you mean. I fornicated quite a bit with my man. Non believers will lecture you about how the bible says sex is evil, and he just doesn't want you to have any fun, youre just supposed to be 100% holy and perfect. Thats a load of crap. God created pleasure in sex for a reason. Because we are SUPPOSED to love that way-in the covenant of marriage. When women engage in sex with men, it automatically creates a bond, and attachment-often a strong one. God wanted it that way, we should be attached to our HUSBANDS. So I often have regretted having sex with my bf because when hes hurt me in the past, I feel more pain, and I feel even more pain at the thought of losing him, because I am so attached in that way. If your man is ready, and you are, and he is a believer as you are, then my guess would be that it would be Gods will for you two to marry and enjoy those pleasures without guilt, in the sanctity of marriage. But you know what to do, pray about it. God will answer you. He may not always come when you call, but hes always on time.
I will pray for you.
I am confused why so many agnostics are responding when clearly you respectfully asked them to mind their damn business....
2007-12-12 08:53:27 · answer #1 · answered by carolyn 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forget the "common law" it's not spiritually valid. That's a PC term to justify it.
But, kudos to you on wanting to do what's right and pleasing to God.
Just know, that God honors marriage, and forgives one in repentance.
Also, know that you will not find a perfect partner. Marriage is a committment and work.
Since you have been together "as one" it will be virtually impossible to be just b/f and g/f. The drive to be intimate will be too strong. You both should either break it off completely, repent and ask God for His washing forgiveness and make a fresh start living for Him; dating properly, or...
The two of you should get married and be right in the sight of God. Marriage is not always a "right for each other" perfect situation. Always remember, a couple can get married for all the wrong reasons, but stay together for all the right ones. If you both love each other, you WILL make it work.
You already know what to do. Just do it, and Make it work!
http://www.housefellowship.org
2007-12-12 06:13:32 · answer #2 · answered by splashdesign238 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It is wrong, you two need to question whether you are right for one another but you can live together?? Come on!! You two should go to the justice of the peace and be married tomorrow....for real you should and how romantic!! God wants two to become one with the union of marriage!
2007-12-12 06:20:36 · answer #3 · answered by I got answers! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the Bible is pretty clear on the subject. But forgiveness from sin is free! All you have to do is repent (stop doing the wrong thing and ask Him for forgiveness). So get married, pray for forgiveness, and move on with life. Or if you are not going to get married, move out.
2007-12-12 15:45:17 · answer #4 · answered by rlb1961 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion legal marriage is something created by society not God. It's goal is to provide spouses with legal protection and security. I believe God is only concerned with our intention, Two people living together outside of marriage can be just as committed to love and protect each other as a legally married couple. Love comes in many shapes and sizes. Society only provides for a couple of them. Do what feels right for the two of you.
2007-12-12 06:13:33 · answer #5 · answered by yeoldebroad 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I believe that God Loves you but hates the sin that you are committing against him
Living with a man will not make him marry you....it will only slow the process down....as does having premarital sex.....I have learned this lesson and I value it.
If a man wants to get married he will not drag his feet.
2007-12-12 06:29:57 · answer #6 · answered by Been There Done That 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Common law marriage is rarely accepted legally anymore in any states..
God forbids any fornication whatsoever.
Get married and stay married.
2007-12-12 06:18:02 · answer #7 · answered by BelieverinGod 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your tired of living in sin, please get married god is speaking to you and giving you a chance to make it right. if you don't get married soon i think the both of you better live apart and wait . yes having sex before marriage is wrong i wish more people would read the bible, just remember if you stay living in sin god CAN'T BLESS the relationship, and your headed for disaster later on. please make it right, you sound like a decent person don't mess it up ok
2007-12-12 06:06:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 2⤋
Don't worry, God knows your intentions. If you are both committed to eachother, you're already married. The piece of paper is only for the state to recognize the marriage.
2007-12-12 06:06:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
Stop being gullible to society's "God."
You don't answer to anyone but you.
If you plan to get married, then do it when you guys are ready.
Marriage is nothing more than an over elaborate ceremony.
You sign a piece of paper, make the decision whether or not to keep your maiden name, slip on a ring.......and whaaaa-laaaaa!
Unhappily ever after........
2007-12-12 06:06:43 · answer #10 · answered by Ella 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋