My problem is he ejaculates way too soon it is like a one two three all done kind of thing. Is there anything that can be done or any pills that can be taken that can make him go longer? I want to get some kind of enjoyment from having sex.
2007-12-12 05:53:22 · 24 answers · asked by my life my joy...bailey :-) 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Premature ejaculation, usually defined as the male reaching orgasm and ejaculating before the woman can reach orgasm more than 50% of the time, is the most common sexual disfunction. I would say most if not all of us men reach orgasm very quickly at least some of the time.
You can talk with him about it, but try to approach it in a way that will be reassuring for him. If a man is conscious of it and thinks about it too much during the act it can become worse.
From personal experience I can tell you that while lots of foreplay improves the woman's probablity of orgasm it can also increase the probability that the man prematurely ejaculates.
1) Try getting him off first, then let him work on you with his hands, mouth, and or toys. He should be able to last longer the second or third time around.
2) He can learn to recognize when he is about to ejaculate and stop the stimulation. If he then squeezes as if trying to defecate and grunts as if trying to defecate that will relax his PC muscle and ease the tension around the prostate gland as well as cause the testicles to drop lower. With this technique I learned to hold off. I even learned to release a certain amount of semen without actually orgasming thus reducing the urge to orgasm while maintaining an intense erection.
3)Stop and change positions frequently.
4) Old Chinese trick. For beginners he should make 9 shallow thrusts , only the head or a litlle past the head, inside you. On the 10th he rams it as far as it will go. Then he makes 8 shallows and the 9th all the way home. Then 7 shallow thrusts and the 8th all the way in etc. until he makes one shallow and the next one deep, followed by all the thrusts deep and hard.
He may not be able to complete the exercise. It takes practice. Once he CAN complete it then he should try beginning with 19 shallow thrust and the 20th thrust deep---working his way down as before. This one is fairly advanced. Once he gets the hang of it you will LOVE it!
5) Premature ejaculation is one of the things that sex therapists treat. You might want to consider this alternative if the two of you can't improve things on your own.
I wish you well!
2007-12-12 08:16:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you not heard the more you practice the better you can perform. Your husband has to practice on his inability to control himself from ejaculating. When he things he is about to he should stop and literally think about maybe work or some other activity other then sex. Keep a conversation going to take his mind off it. You don't have to do this all the time, only until he is about to control himself. Or have he ejaculate a couple of hours before having sex, is also a technique. As to satisfy you, your husband can use his hands, finger, mouth and tongue, it does not have to be all about dick. The pills are just a lie....
good luck.
2007-12-12 06:02:44 · answer #2 · answered by jimmy.parker06 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You might laugh but this is true....about 4-5 years ago, I was watching TV and a documentary came about Ron Jeremy famous porn star, anyhow, in the documentary he said how he keeps it up and going during sex.....his secret about not ejaculating was when he felt like he was he would take his mind off it for awhile by thinking of his grandmother.....so sometimes when we have sex, we have are moments where I swear it's like as soon as we go inside you we could orgasm, so during moments like this I think about baseball for just a little bit and then I'm able to keep going, I've noticed by doing this just for a little bit I'm able to go along time...typically when a woman is "wetter" to it's easier to last....at the same time....I think most women like to keep sex going until they climax or it's been close enough, to long can be a bad thing too....my goal is to keep it going for a good 15-30 minutes but it has to be a good 15-30 minutes, sometimes it can be enough for both it far less time......one thing I've learned about women, is that it's true you guys want a good provider, smart, good looking, etc but what will always keep you happy is a man that can satisfy you...in bed....that lasts an eternity....we all lose are looks, money, etc in time, but being able to please your women will keep her in love with you forever
2007-12-12 06:07:25 · answer #3 · answered by Gordito 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife will get me off first, then on the second shot I can last forever! After the first shot I am back up and ready for round two in 10 minutes and during that time I am giving my wife all the attention!
Also if I "finish" before she does I will make sure she has an orgasm too with my mouth or fingers!
2007-12-12 06:24:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get him to get off an hour or so prior, the second round he'll last longer. You'll have to make sure that what ever gets him off the first time will leave him wanting sex. So I'd recommend get him to go master bate, you master bate for him, or give him head till he gets off. The last of the three would be the best cause you can work it into foreplay while he recharges.
2007-12-12 05:59:39 · answer #5 · answered by JONES 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You could always go to a sex shop and get him a ring to place on his member. It is suppose to help make him last longer. Other than that he may need some assistance from a sex counselor to learn how to have more staying power, Best of luck to you both.
2007-12-12 06:01:40 · answer #6 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Talk to him honestly without humiliating your man, and make an appointment to a sex consult.
They help big time.
I had this problem, and it was anxiousness.
Some antidepressants and therapy work miracles.
Now I am a new man!!
Try it, you'll love the results.
2007-12-12 05:59:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Viagra
2007-12-12 05:56:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you talked to him about it? I used to have that problem with my husband until we discussed it. Basically he didn't try to last longer because he thought I wasn't enjoying it. And I didn't act like I was enjoying it because then I thought he would try harder and last longer. It was a never ending circle. Now when I enjoy it and let him know, he wants to keep going so I enjoy it more.
2007-12-12 05:59:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anchora 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
there's topical gel's that numb the area you can buy and it makes it so he won't feel it as much i.e. it takes longer to finish. Check at an adult video store or online adam and eve.com. OR have him "preheat the oven" for 20-30 minutes prior so you get off before he "goes in".
2007-12-12 05:59:45 · answer #10 · answered by Sexy Anna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋