You pick your spouse up from work. When you get there he tells you his boss (who's a male) needs a ride home and can you take his boss home? You agree to give the boss a ride home. While your driving with your spouse's boss in the car, you have a can of pop and your spouse wants a drink of it. Instead of asking you, he snaps his fingers at you and tells you hand over that pop to him, he's thirsty. Would you say something right then? Or would you wait to say something until after you dropped his boss off or would you not say anything at all? And if you did say something, what would you say?
I'm not trying to offend anyone to be more specific i was the boss that witness this as i was riding home with them.
2007-12-12 05:26:07 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Other - Social Science
As the spouse, I would wait until my husband and I were alone before addressing him -- no need to make the third party any more uncomfortable than necessary by having a whole confrontation right there.
As the boss, I'd really think long and hard about what an incident like that says about my employee.
2007-12-12 05:34:42 · answer #1 · answered by Caitlin 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Finger snapping? Even as a joke that is obnoxious behavior, and my husband and I have a bizarre relationship (similiar to the sister of JenH) but he should have maintained a professional demeanor until the boss exited the car...where the wife should have poured what was left of the pop in his lap and dropped him off in the "seedy" section of town...
2007-12-12 15:34:26 · answer #2 · answered by cherri_kandi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately what you witnessed might not have been out of the ordinary. Maybe the person treats their spouse that way. If it were me and my spouse acted differently, I would probably make a joke out of it to hint that I didn't think it was okay, but in a way that prevents it from being terribly awkward. If I felt it was necessary, I would talk to him later too to let him know it bothered me.
2007-12-12 13:30:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My sister and her husband frequently do things like this. He will snap his fingers at her, or order her to do something then tell her to move her azz. She will give him a scathing look, or smack him in the arm. Then he will tell her something like, don't make me raise my hand woman. And she will dare him to try it. It is a game with them, he has never physically abused her and I know for a fact that she is not cowed by him. But if a stranger were to witness this they might think it was abusive behavior.
2007-12-12 13:37:30 · answer #4 · answered by Jen N 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd say "of course, dear" then accidentally spill it in his lap.
After dropping the boss off I think there would be quite a conversation on the way home.
2007-12-12 13:45:45 · answer #5 · answered by Dragonmistress 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's a big deal at all. If it were my boyfriend, I would just say something along the lines off "Man, if only it were that easy to get you to take me out to dinner!" And let it be.
2007-12-12 13:40:20 · answer #6 · answered by alilley07 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fire that guy. It says volumes about how he thinks of women and his level of respect for those around him. He obviously doesn't respect you either, for being so rude in your presence.
2007-12-12 17:29:53 · answer #7 · answered by eDub 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋