Or should you wait to tell people til after the wedding?
2007-12-12 04:59:20 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
not me im married just trying to help a friend out.
2007-12-13 07:24:55 · update #1
I became pregnant with my son when I was planning my wedding, and right after I bought my dress (talk about STRESS!), anyway, we decided to wait until after the wedding to tell people since we didn't want the fact that I was pregnant to take away from the wedding day. We had been dating for 6 years, so no one ever thought twice about it, and I was only 18 weeks, so not showing yet at all.
It depends on the situation (how far along you are, how long you've been together, religious beliefs, etc...), I guess, and your personal preference, but I can tell you we had LOTS of very excited people after we finally did tell! We also had people who said, "Well, it's not the preferred, but now that you're married we can't really say too much". You will get both reactions....
2007-12-12 05:11:43 · answer #1 · answered by Wildflower 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Accepted by who? I mean what would be the difference if you weren't getting married at all and you were pregnant. You really wouldn't be able to hide it.... And, what is the reason to wait... if you wait, people are going to say that you got pregnant and that is why you got married and if you tell peole now they're going to say that is the only reason you're getting married...
Basically, people are going to talk... I would suggest not getting married just because you're pregnant. That always pretty much ends in disaster.
Think about what it is you're really doing.. having a baby and marriage are two HUGE steps in life.
2007-12-12 05:21:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Accepted by who? As has already been said people dont really care if your married or not in this day and age unless your of a specific religion.
Me and my partner had been engaged for 5 years, when i found out i was pregnant i felt i would be happier if my child was born inside wedlock, plus he would have more parental rights being my husband so we got married 4 weeks ago (im 35 weeks pregnant) Our marrage has been accepted by our familys, friends and the in the eyes of the law.
2007-12-12 05:10:49 · answer #3 · answered by JD 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look you are in just heartache as we all go through. the situation sounds to me is not that he dont love you he just got a taste of that party life with girls and guys and when someone looses sight on a relationship especially when it comes to this its not about love its about freedom. You seriouesely and i mean for real never call him as long as you call him he will always feel as if he has that person to fall on if something does not work out. I know its hard but we all do the go with a guy out of a break up so know the next is to replace not anything else do not get close and just have some fun to get pass this. you will be just fine all time heals all wounds. i learned the hard way. But it is so true. a year from now you will be fine focus on something else. cry,cry,cry, write it as many times as it takes to help the pain and thoughts go away. But remember there is light at the end of thetunnel and you will be fine but never go back and never settle for a guy who would pick drinking and being with other people over you. You deserve better and to be with him you would be settleing just to have him no one is worth that it will never get better and his family is a bunch a crak heads stay as far away as possiable good luck you will find someone do not settle
2016-05-23 05:46:03 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do it how you want to. I walked down the isle in a white dress at 8 months pregnant with a HUGE belly. Our families were happy for us, irregardless of what happened when. I have a cousin that recently announced her engagement, just to find out soon after that she was pregnant. Noone is going to look down on her from the families. A friend of mine waited till after her baby was born, so he could be a part of the wedding. I think they are just glad we all are happy.
2007-12-12 06:50:19 · answer #5 · answered by Velken 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you already pregnant? If you are and already have the wedding plans in place, just get married and tell who ever you want. If you are getting married in a church I would discuss this with the priest, especially if you attend this church regularly.
If you are not pregnant. Wait until after you are married.
Good luck
2007-12-12 05:04:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pregnant brides are tacky... its almost like a pitty wedding. Dont do it!! just wait untill after or before, are you pregnant now?? As for having a baby when your not married, this is a societal/culture issue. Yes people will always have some apprehensions, but society is alot more accepting, and use to it now! it really depends on your family and culture, just do what you want to do! and dont worry about the rest
2007-12-12 05:14:03 · answer #7 · answered by NaeRae86 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I could care less what other people think because I know I am happy. And so is my fiance. My due date is July 8, 08 my wedding is March 22, 08; I'll be 6 months pregnant at the time and everyone knows. If they have a problem with it then it's their problem not mine.
2007-12-12 05:05:57 · answer #8 · answered by Alexa's mommy ♥ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My mom was pregnant with my brother when she got married to my dad and that was 30 years ago. Really the only person who got upset was my dad's mom, but she's insane anyway. (long story). Anyway, I don't think it's taboo really anymore and anyone who has a problem with it shouldn't be included if you can help it. I know I wouldn't want someone telling me negative things when two great things (wedding and a baby) are happening.
2007-12-12 08:07:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got married at 5 months pregnant. Of course I didn't get married because I was pregnant but because I deeply loved my boyfriend and knew I would marry him ever since we got back together(dated briefly back in high school) as did he so we figured Hey,were starting a family,lets get married! So thats what we did and that was the best decision we ever made together!
2007-12-12 05:27:46 · answer #10 · answered by Just Call Me Jenn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋