Change in the Childsupport laws, what do you think?

Question

Don’t you think all the child support given should be put in account to make sure it is only spent on a child? I believe like a credit type card would be used to keep track of purchase to make sure it only went to the child. It is hard to believe that the parent having custody of the child doesn’t use some of that money for personal gain. The get the luxury of having the child most of the time why should they get an added bonus. In a relationship where the person paying the child support is involved in their Childs life they too have to buy just the same amount of things as the person having custody of the child. They too provide a roof over their head, clothes, toys, food, gas, and all the expenses. Is it fair that it usually works out that in that situation that really only the one person is really putting up the cost of raising the child? I know there are deadbeats out there, this is to fair to those who are not.

Ohio, If a man/woman is required to pay 50% of a child's expenses and the average paid is 400-700, does that mean it takes 800-1400 to raise a child? Does the other person not have to have an extra bedroom too for the child, why would the person paying have to provided for both? I have a child, I pay support every month, plus I buy him food, clothes, toys, take him out to have a good time and pay half of his medical and I am the one required to keep insurance on him. If I had custody of him , I wouldn't need anything from her because I pay for all those things already! I would pay her just to have custody!

When it comes down too it, people are greedy, if you where my spouce and you look at our child as a burdon and not a blessing then I would rather see them with a daycare worker than with you.

And if you have a child and get support, what if something happend to your x and you no longer got that money, what would you do then? If you really cared about your kids you would make sure you made enough on your own to take care of them by getting a better education and getting a better job or not living behind your means, what ever it took.

I can't believe how foolish a lot of you are, don't you see I too have to pay more to having a bigger place for a roof over his head? I do love my son that is why I am saying this, is it not love to make sure all the money GOES TO HIM

SO INSTEAD OF PAYING HER EXTRA MONEY SO SHE CAN BUY A LAP TOP WOULDN'T IT BE BETTER IF IT WENT TO HIS COLLEGE FUND? And would it be better if I had more money for myself to spend on him! I do love him that is why I care so much that the money goes to him, if I didn't I would just pay the support and never bothered to see him that would save me alot of cash!

Try looking at the situation from the other side, what if YOU paid the support, you closed minded fools

Answer 1

YES!!!!!! I pay child support, and STILL my kids are always after me to buy them things that should be covered under child support.

I know my ex just uses the money to drink (more) as if she needs it. I would love to give the money directly to my kids, but I cannot.

Answer 2

I don't think you need to get a reciept for how every dime of child support is spent. I do however think you should be able to request them if you honestly believe that the money is not being spent on your child. For example if your kids look like they are running around in rags and your ex has a new manicure every other week she should have to show how the child support was spent on the kids. Especially if she is not working. Which brings me to another point. Once a child reaches school age the custodial parent should be required to work. Their pay should be figured in when calculating the amount that the non custodial parent has to pay. If he/she refuses to work or they can't because they had another child(your ex is not responsible for that child) then they should calculate their pay at minimum wage for 40hrs a wk. I understand that moms like to stay home w/ their children when they are babies and toddlers. That is fine. When they go to school they are more than capable of getting a part time job. Custodial parents Do Not have the right to expect the noncustodial parent and the tax payers(if they are collecting welfare) to support them until the child(ren) are 18.
Edit. It also doesn't matter if you are remarried and really don't have to work. Once a child is school age the responsibilty for financial support should be that of both parents. Therefore your pay should or minimum wage should still be used when calculating the support order.

Answer 3

The problem is defining the idea of "spent only on the child". Child support is actually paid to support the child in an environment where the child will have reasonable basic necessities which include a roof over its head and food to eat - both of which do in fact benefit the household, not just the child.

Further, you speak of the "luxury of having the child most of the time". I doubt you will find any custodial parent saying it is a luxury to be a single parent with the bulk of the responsibility for a child or children.

In Ohio child support is figured by formula based on the income of each parent and the number of dependants in each home. It also taks into account the visitation order/agreement and factors how much time the child spends at each parent's home. Child support is intended to take into account the child's needs, not the child's desires. Parents who choose to do more than the minimum will probably enjoy a better relationship with their children in the long run provided the non-custodial parent is not engaging in "Disneyland-Parent" behavior. Kids see through that eventually and resent being bought.

If you feel your child support order is unfair contact an attorney to review your order and advise you. If your circumstances have changed or if the custodial parent's circumstances have changed, contact the Child Support Agency in your county and ask for a review.

Rule of thumb: In a divorce, if no one is completely happy it is probably a fair settlement.

Answer 4

The Family Law in U.S.A is old and outdated. The laws are set up to favor women only. In the 40, 50, and 60 women stay home for the most part. The law were written for that era. Now women work, and men. But women still get full custody of kids, then child support, She may even make more money and the man has to pay support. When you go to court it setup for a women point of view.

The laws need changed, other country are changing like Denmark to 50/50 shared parenting. Because of single family home are so high. Kids are growing up with fathers end up in jail, or pregnant. Laws need change write your congress man, tell friends, family, about Men for Equal Rights in the home.

Answer 5

What you suggest sounds nice in theory but is not at all practical. You would end up having to allocate a portion of her house payment to child support based on how much extra space is needed in a house for the child etc. The accounting would just get ridiculous. It is easier on you emotionally to pay and not worry what she does because she will just drive you crazy and you can't change having to pay!

The real deal is the courts and the state don't care about fathers or kids they are governmental institutions who care about MONEY. And collecting child support makes government a LOT of MONEY. You know they take a percentage of what you pay and what all other fathers pay and if you add it all up the government is who is really making out like a bandit on the 'child support' game!!!!!

Answer 6

I think you are right. A friend of my wife used to go on shopping sprees when the "child support" check came. I have only read of one case where the divorced couple had agreed to have a separate account created for child support which was available to be audited at any time.

Legally, X% can be taken to reimburse the custodial parent for expenses such as food, shelter & clothing, but there are many cases that the custodial parent uses all the money on themselves and only uses a fraction of the money on the child to which they then tell the child its their estranged parent's fault they don't have anything OR they use all the child support money to buy the child's love and say that their estranged parent clearly does not love the child because they don't spend money on the child (when it was the estranged parent's money they spent).

Answer 7

i remember reading a question asking why shouldn't the father have full custody if he is paying for everything that goes to the child. well the average response from women was that money can be used for personal gain if there is extra left over and that a man should pay all the costs cause the women has to pay the bills (like the man doesnt)

Answer 8

I think that is a good idea. My husband pays child support to an ex and her and her husband don't work. They just rely on child support. And they make the kid suffer because they are lazy mochers. But I think that even if the situation was the opposite it would be great. That way when the child gets older and goes off to college then they have some money stashed back from the support payments.

Answer 9

Look people when you get divorced and move away your kid suffers. Maybe you should do a little soul searching and stop complaining on paying shild support to the moocher YOU chose to be the mother/father of your kid.

You have no room to complain suck it up and pay the child support. If you kid needs or wants something base your decision on what it is not the idea that it should of come out of the child support you paid already.

My parents divorced when I was three and when I visited my dad if I needed something for school, sports or wahtever I told him and he bought it if he could.

Those who whine and complain that it sucks to pay the child support to your EX might wanna try sterilization. That way the next moocher you pick won't have any of your offspring..

Answer 10

yes and no. you see there is no way to see if all the money was for shoes clothes etc... what about living expenses? water, gas, electricity etc... unfortunatly there are people who take advantage of a system put in place to help children, but then again some are just trying to make it. What about the people who have no one to give them child support? not everyone is on welfare. I guess you just have to hope it goes where its needed and if u c that its not going there then you need to talk to your lawyer.

Answer 11

I dis agree... Child support is paid to do exactly that.. support the child. Mortgage, groceries, school, daycare, cable bill, car payment, heating bill.. all these bills are paid partially from my wages and partially from the child support I receive... Some custodial parents do take advantage of that, spending the money frivolously on things for themselves so I can see your point. But for the most part, it's all part of making a happy home for that child.