im 15 an pregnant the doctors knows, my whole family knows, my b/f knows. my b/f wants to get married an live our life but my dad said i can get married when im 18 but i can move in now. my b/f will be 18 in 17 days so were not sure what we can do. what should i exspect know that everybody knows and everything. what should i exspect with the next 9 months or the months after the baby is born? question is it illegal for a 15 yr old to move in with her 18 yr old b/f with her parents consent? What should I exspect with doctors appointments, etc. If you've been a young mom and wanna share your story I'd love to hear it. thanks ashley
2007-12-12 04:28:54 · 20 answers · asked by ashleystar 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I am in the same position,except my boyfriend just turned 17 and i am 15, i am 13 weeks pregnant, i want to move in with my boyfriend but my parents wont let me until i am 18 either, i think you have to be 18 to move out but i am not for sure, how far along are you?
Good Luck!
2007-12-12 04:40:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
As hard as it may seem, I suggest staying with your parents until you and your baby are stable financially and emotionally. This probably won't be until you're at least 18, but it'll be soo much easier for you and your baby.
Don't worry - your parents can't charge statutory rape against your boyfriend, as he wasn't 18 when he got you pregnant. It is something that they can hold over your head afterwards, though.
To answer your first question - it's not legal for you to move in with your boyfriend even under your parents consent because they are still responsible for you - pregnant or not. I have been on my own and living with someone other than my parents since I was 14, and it was VERY hard, even without a child to take care of.
Don't expect any special treatment at doctor's appointments expect maybe more thourough exams to make sure that the baby is developing as it should and that you are, as well. Also expect to have children's services in your life for a while. This isn't a bad thing - they're there to help you.
Another thing - you don't want to marry this guy because you're pregnant, trust me. I'm 20 years old and almost got married when I was 15 because of a pregnancy scare, and then again at 17 because I was somewhat being forced to (long story) and I'm so incredibly thankful that it didn't happen.
Don't let anyone criticize you for your age. People will talk down to you and all sorts of other things - ignore them. You need to tell yourself that you will get through things not just for you but for your baby's sake.
If you need anyone to talk to, feel free to email me. (You can find my email on my profile page.) I have a lot of experience with similar situations that you're dealing with and I have a 16 year old sister that has a 6 month old baby. We would be more than happy to help you out in any way that we can, so please don't hesitate to talk to us. Good luck with everything and congrats on your baby. Don't make any hasty decisions - be sure to think everything through to the very end.
2007-12-12 04:46:14 · answer #2 · answered by Momma Jette 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know that is a lot to think about but you should try staying with your parents until you are at the stage where you at least have a job and can support yourself somehow. What you are to expect is nothing smooth. It is going to be tough and you will come out a winner if you just do it right from now.
If you are thinking to move in with your boyfriend because you are having a baby with him and not for love, then that spells trouble. Ask yourself what you are going to do if he decides that he doesn't want you living with him anymore (don't know him but we have to look at the possibilities).
You sound like an intelligent girl who will take good care of your baby so keep on being strong and don't lose.it. The best thing that you have is the fact that your parents are supporting and they really care even though they might be angry that it happened. As for the age, you have to be careful because he is at an age where he can be charged for statutory rape but I think they will bypass it if your parents give you permission to marry before 18. As I said before, get yourself grounded before you decide to live with ANYONE, whether you love them or not because people can change on you in a heartbeat.
2007-12-12 06:22:43 · answer #3 · answered by Grant N 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 16 and 28 weeks pregnant,&& I live with my boyfriend..we have been together for about 2 years now, and before we found out I was pregnant we were going to get married, now we are going to wait until after the baby is born...So don't get married JUST BECAUSE you are pregnant with his baby..
In the next 9 months you are going to feel anxious but worried at times.You need to read " What to Expect When Your Expecting" Very good book and it is helping me alot.!
& After the baby is born, you can't go out and have fun, you are a mother now everything will and is revolving around your little one that is growing inside of you as we speak.
With doctor appointments they will listen to the baby's heartbeat,check blood pressure, and check to make sure there is no protein or sugar in the urine..
The whole age thing is illegal,,he is considered as in adult and you are a minor..
Just like me and my boyfriend, he is 21(just turned it) and I am 16..But me and him still live together..and been living together for about a year..And he drives me nuts half the time ,,
It's alot harder than it sounds...
Good luck and Congrats.
2007-12-12 04:57:48 · answer #4 · answered by mommy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had my first baby 2 mos before I turned 18, my fiance was 18 about to turn 19. I had go on corresspondence to graduate high school. I lost contact with all of my friends and didn't get to enjoy my senior year. We got married before the baby was born, but my Dad made me promise I'd finish school. If I had it to do all over again I'd use birth control and wait. I don't have much of a relationship with my son, cause other people raised him while I was in school. My husband and I have been married for 11 yrs and are exspecting our fourth. I know I was very fourtunate to find a guy like I did. I hope that you have too and that you'll finish school. i didn't know how to be a mother and I hope that you will bond better with your baby than I did.
2007-12-12 04:47:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I applaud you for wanting to keep it and telling your family and bf.
as far as legal goes... your bf was a minor when the baby was conceived, so there is no problem there... and besides your parents said it was OK.
if you want to get married, move to a different state... I think that Connecticut, Texas, New Jersey or Florida are your best bets.
Choose wisely... there may be a reason that your dad doesn't want you to get married so young... he is looking out for your well being and now the well being of his grand child... and doing something as serious as getting married so young and without consent will cause problems between you and your family.
talk to not only your parents but you school counselor... I know it sound lame to do that, but they might suggest to something you or your parents haven't considered.
good luck and best wishes
2007-12-12 04:55:25 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be illegal for you to move in with you boyfriend now. I would suggest to wait untill you turn 16 to move in with him.
I would also tell you to expect some harsh comments from people, i get them all the time. I am 17 and pregnant. Also there are some kind people who offer old baby stuff, when they do take it you never know when it could come in handy.
Expect to mature alot in the next few months aswell. Look after yourself. There is a great book i brought from the bookshop called first time parents, it has everything you need to know.
At the doctors you will have to give a urine sample and have you blood pressure taken. You will have blood tests and other various things mostly to see how you are. Midwifes mostly do all these, and, having scans these are fantastic!!
Congratulations and good luck
If you need any advise just ask me.
2007-12-12 04:43:14 · answer #7 · answered by Laila's Mummy! 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
ok well technically if anyone reported that he could be done for rape and locked up. ur dad is being very reasonable. u want to get married but your a child, u havee to realise that thats what u are. i would take ur dad advice and ait most of teenage rel dont last as long a u think. i know from experience i had baby at 17. i would not be so quick to jump on the band wagon u will need ur parents having a baby is dificult to adjust to even when ur twenty so u will need help u will need your mum to show u what to do.
2007-12-12 05:22:09 · answer #8 · answered by kelly h 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hun, it is best to stay with your parents for now. And at least the first 6 months after the baby is born. (If all is ok in the house with your parents.)
I work with the young moms group where I live. And am a Doula.
The girls that stay at home have a easier time with medical insurance and the help they get is much more when they stay with there parents and not the males parents. Besides he needs to get settled with this to. Work, a home and a baby is not easy for anyone. But if you all stick together and act what is best for the child then things will be easier.
He can be there with you for doctors appt. and so on and not live with you or you living with him. That is just to hard on any relationship at your age. Heck at my age when it is not expected.
Your mom and dad will get angery and scared from time to time. And so will you and your boyfriend. But allways think before you speak and promise eachother to do the same. Talk talk and ralk some more on your plans for the child.
Check out babycenter.com. a wonderfull site for new moms to be.
2007-12-12 04:40:55 · answer #9 · answered by charontheloose 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
You can go to court and get something I forget what it is called, I think it is called an emancipated minor, lol sorry I honestly don't remember the name of it. But anyway it pretty much lets the parents give their rights up as parents and lets the child become a full acting adult before they legally become an adult. It is intended for people in your situation, or for people whose parents move out of town or state and they choose to stay behind and this gives them permission to make their own decisions in the absence of their parents.
I know in most states too that they will allow a minor to get married with the consent of a parent.
Good luck, it will have its challenging times, but becoming a parent is the most wonderful thing ever.
2007-12-12 04:52:20 · answer #10 · answered by KRDB 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋