I the mother, has FULL sole physical and legal custody.
My ex the dad, has "supervised visitation only"
He has never requested any information as far as health, or school records, he doesn't even visit more then one time a month and he has no reason he cant. He is not involved in their lives if at all not much. I was wondering if i'm legally required to provide him with ANY information or if im only obligated to make sure he get's his visits with the kids
2007-12-12 04:14:55 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
U DO NOT have to give him any info whatsoever. Why, is he asking for some? I would b a little suspicious of that if i were u, especially, if he has ONLY Supervised visits. U never know about some of these guys nowadays. PLEASE, B Careful.
2007-12-12 04:21:47 · answer #1 · answered by L 2 · 3⤊ 3⤋
I'm pretty sure that you have to provide him with those records. Unless he has no custody AT ALL, he's allowed the right to know what is going on...unfortunately..., I know. Please remember, though, no matter what is in those records,...unless you are indeed a dead beat mom,....HE IS ONLY VISITING 1 TIME A MONTH. That says so much about him. There can't possibly be anything in those papers that can look any worse than that. Do you not have custody papers? Mine says in them that he has the right to that info. I've heard many times about ex's trying to hold those records over the mom's head like a threat. Don't sweat it, honey. You are the mommy, you are the primary caregiver,...& the court favors that...still in these days. If you feel he is up to something, or ever will be, document, document, document. Your documentation will serve as your bestfriend. Let it all roll off like water off of a duck's back. Good luck & if I can be of any more help, let me know.
2007-12-12 12:27:08 · answer #2 · answered by ashlynmadelynmommy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a single dad so I know this guys rights.
If you are in australia then the only thing you have to do is to get the kids to their visits on time and to give him written notice of your intention to move.
Anywhere.
As far as the rest goes then he has to find out for himself.
But even if the guy is a scumbag you need to think about what is right for your kids first.
You don't want the kids growing up resenting you for taking away their chance to know their father.
You should speak to a lawyer to find out exactly what your rights are.
No matter what anyone here says you should always talk to a lawyer to find out exactly what your rights are.
It is better to know for sure so you don't break any laws by getting the wrong information...
2007-12-12 12:24:32 · answer #3 · answered by macros 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Even if the court order doesn't include anything like "keep the non-custodial parent advised..." then I'd STRONGLY recommend that you answer any reasonable questions he has about health care or schooling etc.
Refusing to tell him doesn't benefit any of you, and could be used by him in a future court hearing to show that you're being unreasonable.
Richard
2007-12-12 12:20:30 · answer #4 · answered by rickinnocal 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Was in a similar situation. Whenever I would say something about one of the children that I thought he should know (in need of a tutor, having cavaties, and the such) he would say that that was my problem and to deal with it.
The straw was that I let the father know that the kids' dog died and if they were sad that that was the reason. He siad they didn't even like the dog and it would just make them stronger.
I just stopped letting him know things that he didn't care about knowing, and made myself happier because of it.
They were his once a month 'token' children and that was it.
Best of luck to you.
2007-12-12 12:45:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does he get to see them because you let him or that it was suggested by the courts.If by court talk to your lawyer or to a legal aid.If you are just permitting him no.The only thing off the records that's important is health records and that is only for the child's sake.
2007-12-12 12:25:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Even if you're not legally required, why would you keep important information about your children from their father? But if you really want to know the legality of it, ask your lawyer
2007-12-12 12:18:16 · answer #7 · answered by AT6381 4 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Boy! Your judge really sucked! Your social worker is about as useless as the kid's father! Where did you have the court, anyway? . . . In Australia? . . . Out in the middle of a field . . . Occupied totally, totally by Kangaroos??? ... Or what?
2007-12-12 12:20:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
I dont have any kids nor been married but I really dont understand whats the problem
2007-12-12 12:32:32 · answer #9 · answered by Obama2009 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should not keep information from him as this could lead to legal trouble for you. also read your court order it might address this if even vaguely
2007-12-12 12:17:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋