about people on this forum that are REALLY having affairs and won't tell their spouses? It makes me sick at how lovey dovey they are online in front of the world and then lie to their spouses.
AAARRRRRGGGGG!!
You know who you are...and it's sad.
Sandy :O)
2007-12-12 03:59:12 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, I'm not having a bad day. I just get irritated with the lack of respect we have for our spouses and such.
2007-12-12 04:09:39 · update #1
Madam, I have always liked your answers and realize that you are a flirtatious person and that is fine but I do believe you know where to draw the line. And if you don't, I'm sure you don't advertize to all of us your affairs. My issue is the outward, blantant talk about their affair and lack of respect for their spouses.
2007-12-12 04:37:57 · update #2
William, you, too, seem like a "stand up guy" and I do appreciate your answers on here. I believe one of the answerers got the couple right and, if you read their postings, you will see there are more than rocks being thrown over the line.
2007-12-12 04:41:33 · update #3
I see your point. I spent a long time on here trying to figure out where that line is drawn, and sometimes I throw a rock over that fence that I shouldn't, but some do enter that fabled land of "too far".
What I do know is, I wouldn't hurt my Sweetie for the world, and I apologize if I've ever given anyone the impression otherwise.
2007-12-12 04:39:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
In my personal experience, the answer is yes. And, sadly enough, the spouses who have the most philandering partners are usually more blind to the situation than most. I'm not sure why this is; it's one of those eternal "which came first" questions. Are their spouses cheating more because their partners are so naive, or are their spouses so naive because the partner cheats so much, that they treat them like gold to make up for their indiscretions, and to keep them from asking too many questions? That is one question I cannot answer.
However, I do have a friend whose husband has been cheating on her for 10+ years. He has been caught in so many questionable predicaments, which he, of course, lies his way out of (and badly, at that). And, she believes him every time. I've tried to talk to her about it, and tried to get her to revisit some of these incidents, and her answer is always the same: "My husband would never do that to me."
I think the real question here is: Do they really believe that their spouses aren't cheating, or is it just easier to pretend that everything is perfect? I'm not sure which is worse, to be honest.
2007-12-12 04:09:32 · answer #2 · answered by suzq_213 1 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I AGREE 100% with you. There was a question posted by, I think, NIFfickle or fickleNIF that referred to their affair and how they couldn't tell their spouse about that affair. It got deleted quickly because, I think, it made the poster uncomfortable with the NEGATIVE responses and lack of support for their affair. I see them post regularly and it is wrong, purely wrong.
If you don't love your spouse, get out and stop lying to them. The affair hurts, no doubt, but the continuous lie hurts twice.
Don't expect people on here to support an affair.
2007-12-12 04:23:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋
Is Sandy having a bad day? Catch the spouse cheating? Well for what it's worth, telling them would only cause them pain. They should just leave. Never come back and maybe even never be heard from again.
2007-12-12 04:03:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
Im really interested in the user "Diamond" having 9 different affairs before marriage and 3 after marriage it just baffles me how she can go on and not feel any guilt or even why she didn't take control after the first affair. Its insane.
2007-12-12 04:02:05 · answer #5 · answered by DJ M 4 · 5⤊ 1⤋
You need to know that I toss flirtation to a married friend. The reason he has the status of friend in my book is because of the honor he shows towards his wife. That doesn't mean I can't try to make him swallow his gum now and then. It is very hard making rash judgments here. Not many of us are really what we seem...good or bad.
2007-12-12 04:35:11 · answer #6 · answered by Madam Naka 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
I think they like their houses and pension, and the internet is an escape from the real world. The truth is that if they told their spouse, all they worked hard for will be gone. Alot of them are selfish as well, and don't see that what they have would not be there if it wasn't for the work of both spouses. I dunno, just rambling on...
2007-12-12 04:03:39 · answer #7 · answered by I do 26.2 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I didn't know people are lovey dovey on here.I always see people fighting about silly issues.That is sad though
2007-12-12 04:02:36 · answer #8 · answered by superstar 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
ya, sad indeed... and it's horrible to be like this when they have kids, even! or when they have a nephew or niece who look up to them to be a good example! sigh!
cheating should have more consequences... from the law... then, perhaps, cheating would "stop"!
sigh... =(... perhaps a paper should be signed before a marraige ceremony...such as...
"I understand that cheating is forbidden during the marraige, and if I do it, I will lose everything, including the kids..."...
or something...
2007-12-12 04:03:59 · answer #9 · answered by elvlayarvvi fEisty wife and mom 6 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Sadly that's the real world. Men and women are doing it every day. It's disgusting.
2007-12-12 04:03:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋