I'd like to know what yahoo community feels about arranged marriages. People who have not heard of, have experience, or just would like to offer their opinion are all welcome. But please sensible answers only.
2007-12-12 03:57:53 · 32 answers · asked by "*♥*Nafisa*♥*" 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
that Arranged Marriages, pardon me.
2007-12-12 03:58:51 · update #1
To Brightside: if you hate 'these kind of questions' you're not forced to answer them. so feel free not to.
2007-12-12 04:18:44 · update #2
i dont think it is right or wrong. my parents had an arranged marriage and have 5 kids. and yes, they did not share the same views and goals in life so they're separated now. BUT my mum loves my dad more than anyone, so really- you can love someone who you have been arranged to be married to...it just might not work out..
2007-12-12 09:58:57 · answer #1 · answered by ThePoloHole 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Personally I think it's horrible! I mean marriage is based on knowing the person and sharing some, if not all interests with one an other. How can a person be happy with some one they know nothing of? It's like putting oil in water they just don't go together! I mean no disrespect for cultures that do this, but that's my opinion.
2007-12-12 04:06:21 · answer #2 · answered by fh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think only very few people should marry at all, anyway. From the looks of what is being asked in these questions in yahoo..seems to me the people asking do not even care enough about themselves to arrange things first in their minds and hearts as to who they want to marry.
In many countries marriages are "arranged" by the older family members ..often without even consulting the woman.. so ... since I am a woman.. i think arranged marriages are horrible because I do know myself ..and one of my limitations as an adult ..is to NOT allow other adults to tell me who I shall love and who I shall not love.
2007-12-12 04:13:46 · answer #3 · answered by BelieverinGod 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Im not sure about it, I mean how do you know if u have found your soul mate? Is it fate that someone arranges a marriage for you? But then again if you can learn to love. What a hard question. If you are bought up and thats natural, what else would you know?
2007-12-12 05:07:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
They are ridiculous. My sister's best friend has been on the run from her family for 10 years because she refused to return home (from the US to mid-east) because her father had arranged a marriage for her that she did not want. She wants nothing more than to be able to see her family again, but her father has sworn to kill her if he ever finds her because she disgraced her family. He even sends people over here to try and drag her back. (luckily she was able to get him banned from the US because of his actions).
She is now happily married with two kids that will never get to know their cousins or grandparents.
2007-12-12 04:05:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
In some cultures thats what is accepted. Who are we to tell them they are wrong? really?
Personally, i couldnt do it, but i live in a country (the US) where arranged marriages are not widely accepted. I may never even end up getting married, let alone being part of an arranged marriage.
2007-12-12 04:02:07 · answer #6 · answered by melissa 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It cant be any worse then the shape we're in with our own choices. Parents would certainly have more knowledge and experience than youth....+ they'd want only the best for their children. The only downfall would be if the youth couldnt stand each other at all, in the first place.
2007-12-12 05:48:05 · answer #7 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For me, I don't like the idea of being told who I am supposed to love and spend the rest of my life with. Sure, you may say that you'll learn to care about the person you're with but it doesn't seem right because you were forced into that situation.
I don't think it's right or wrong but it's just not something I would want myself or anyone in my family to go through.
2007-12-12 04:01:40 · answer #8 · answered by frozenpancake582 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is practical, in the same way a date web site can bring people together, so, if family get involved, the more help, the better.
However, to just arrange the meeting is something, to force someone to marry another is absurd, disgusting, sad, wrong.
2007-12-12 04:03:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't agree with it. One of my friends had to marry this girl that he didn't like or his family would disown him. I think it's wrong to force two people who don't like each other together. I think it's ok if the family find a partner and give them both a choice such as if they don't like that person then they don't have to marry them and the family just find someone else etc.
2007-12-12 04:07:49 · answer #10 · answered by xoɟ ʍous 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋