Why am I GAY?

Question

I am 15 and I am gay but I don't want to be. I feel really bad about being gay because it's not normal.
SOMEONE HELP ME!

Answer 1

If you don't want to be gay then don't be don't listen to those idiots who say you can't change because you can. Change is a part of life so go straight and be happy. Don't hate yourself and let your self be trapped in a corner; there is always a way out.


Bad ratings geeze.

Aw come on lol this is ridiculous it used to be people were ridiculed for being gay just like people now days are ridiculed for being racist.

Keep it up I wanna see how many thumbs down it is possible to get. Joking don't give me more thumbs down please lol.

Answer 2

The best answer I can give you, is because it's the way the genetics worked out. I base that on a friend's family, in which 6 of 10 children are gay. With ten children, the parents obviously weren't.

A lot of people have been born thing they didn't want to be that are discriminated against. Blacks for example never begged to be enslaved and deprived of human rights. Homosexuals never asked to be the subject of scorn, derision and descrimination. It's no more a choice than your hair or eye color, how tall you are or the coloring of your skin. (Michael Jackson notwithstanding.)

What to do now? Some decent websites have been suggested. If you have your own computer, it's private and secure, go to some of the sites. If you're worried about the computer make a trip to a pay phone. [phone] is the first phone number that popped up when I googled "gay teen hotlines."

You don't have to come out right now to anyone. When you're secure and confident in who you are, then you can start letting people know. Until then, it's nobody's business but yours.

Whatever you do, remember to love yourself for who you are, protect yourself and make the most of life.

You haven't done anything wrong, leopards can't change their spots, and you never have to be anything more than who you are.

Be ready for the repurcussions when you come out. There aren't many people that are thrilled by the idea of having a gay child, friends might react to you differently.

Call the number I scrounged for you, they'll be more help than this forum.

Answer 3

You know what some of these people are right you do not have to act on your sexual preference (if you are 15 you should not be acting on gay or straight sex by the way) but will you be happy? You have to be who you are, and if that is a gay man then you are a gay man. If you are sexually and emotionally attracted to men then you can have a wife and 6 kids, you will still be gay. You cannot change who you are. Whether you act on it or not, you know yourself. Good luck an maybe get some counseling when you are ready.

Answer 4

If it wasn't natural (normal is a wishy-washy term), you wouldn't be gay. The hardest part is probably the belief that you're all alone. You aren't, believe me. If only you could know how many of your classmates are gay, too. Hang in there, guy, it gets easier in college where nobody cares if you're gay or not, so more people who are gay are more willing to let you know. Meanwhile, if you need to talk to someone who understands, check out the website below. It also has a toll-free number to call for someone to talk to.

Best wishes, and God bless.

Answer 5

I didn't bother reading everyone else's anwsers.. Instead I am going to wing it. I am Zach, been gay since I was 15 and am currently loving it. 18 now by the by, but the thing is this. I was first ashamed, scared, and terrified about being something people have been killed for being, and not saying this to scare you. The thing is, have you ever just said out loud to yourself "I am gay and proud"? I mean, if you do it'll show if you are truely feeling bad about it.

It could be the things of being gay that might make you not want to be, but those things can be over looked or avoided such as visiting gay friendly area's of your city, talking with friends who accept you, and learning from other gay guys about their stories and what they have been through. Just for the hell of it, I shall be adding you to my contact list and would be more than willing to tell you about myself of course this is if YOU wish to. Other wish, I simply need more people on my list ^.^

Have a safe day kid, heh I finally get to call someone kid, and get good sleep..... Yes.... Good sleep... *Falls asleep.* -.-..z...z..z

Answer 6

You can be confused about your sexuality. First of all why feel really bad about being gay. There is nothing wrong with it. God made us all different. Some will learn to accept you and some wont. Its a part of life. Remember your not alone. I hope this helped.

Answer 7

You are normal to be gay. There is nothing wrong with you. I think you are comparing yourself with straight kids. Don't turn yourself straight , just because the society thinks being gay is wrong. True to yourself. Find support groups and talk with them.

Answer 8

You are gay because that is the way God made you. What you do with that knowledge is up to you. Either accept God's gift of homosexuality, or reject it.... but the attractions that you have towards others of the same sex will never go away.

Answer 9

Gay is fine! It is becoming more acceptable everyday! I am straight, but I do have gay friends and relatives. I love them to death! Haha, except one of my gay male friends is quite the drama queen, but also my best friend;) Don't worry about it, it will get easier as time goes on, especially once you are out of school. Be proud of who you are and don't ever deny your true self. People are far more understanding - it isn't something you choose, just like you don't choose to be a boy or a girl, short or tall, etc. Live and love the life God gave you! Never be ashamed.

Answer 10

it's okay! and it is normal! it happens, just because it's not the majority doesn't mean it's bad.

you need some support. go sign up at www.youth-guard.org. it's an email group for gay, lesbian, bisexual, transsexual, pansexual, or just plain confused young adults, and there's a 13-17 email group so you can talk to people who are your age or close to it, people who are going through the same things as you.

and maybe go talk to a counselor at school about it, or the school shrink, if you have one. there's no shame in that, and there's no shame in being gay. you can TRY to change if you want, but i suspect that you won't be happy, that your heart will always be pulled towards a person of your sex. try to accept and love yourself for who you are! you'll be okay!

Answer 11

No one wants to be gay,it's a very hard life.You have to make the best of it,focus on the good things in life,you'll be o.k!!!You are not alone,that's for sure.