Daily after work he will have his dinner in front of the computer and will be surfin the net till bedtime. That's it. Everyday can pass by without us talking to each other......After 13 years, he does not even bother to remember or celebrate our wedding anniversary anymore. Everything is mundane & monotonous.... I am bored. I don't yearn for sexual intimacy anymore so whenever he asks for it, I cringed. How to spice up the marriage when he does not seem to bother to make any effort of his part?
2007-12-12 02:30:49 · 12 answers · asked by Hira 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You don't sound like you're much fun to be with either.
2007-12-12 02:40:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you making an effort on your part? You don't yearn for sexual intimacy anymore. Is this because of the problem or maybe the root of the problem. Bottom line is you need to talk. Find out what's going on with him. Be prepared to make changes. Good luck.
2007-12-12 10:42:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Oh no. Poor you. You stay at home, while you treat your husband like a field hand. Go to work and make me money and oh ya... Don't ask for sex!! It seems that the taking for granted goes both ways in this relationship. You are just as bad to him as he is to you. So don't expect too much sympathy.
Now for an answer... Some people will tell you to cheat on him, some will tell you to talk to him, most will say they wouldn't take it. I will tell you this, Men are easy to understand. Try to join him on the net. At first go to the web pages he likes, then ( and this is the important part ) ask him for his help to find something you like because you don't know how. Let him help you. Men are protectors when you get down to it, and it will make him feel good that you needed his help.
Oh ya, one other thing. Ask HIM for sex. You keep telling him no, and that has bruised his masculinity. Just do it and things just might turn around.
If not....Then climb off that high horse of yours and remember that a failed relationship is both peoples fault. Not just his.
Good luck!!
Semper Fi!!!
2007-12-12 10:45:36 · answer #3 · answered by Lucius Vorenus 3 · 5⤊ 1⤋
You can make a difference. You know you can right?,,,Change things around. Don't put his dinner in front of the computer. Demmand change. Go get a ladies night out. Change your apperance. Focus on you then. He will come around. But if you sit there being so PREDICTABLE, it's nobodys elses fault but yours for accepting this situation quo....Make the change. Now,,,Today,,,Don't wait,,U are worth a lot,,Life is short. Have a life!!! trust me,,,it will work.
2007-12-12 10:49:45 · answer #4 · answered by KingDavid 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well as long as you're married you should not fall into temptation If you feel so bad you want to throw yourself at some stranger then divorce and then do as you please. Don't use your husbands behavior (not saying that it's OK) that's just a lame excuse to be promiscuous and get more trouble.
2007-12-12 11:29:26 · answer #5 · answered by BitterSweet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to ask him on a date or even book a cruise for just the two of you. Plan something for just the two of you.
2007-12-12 10:52:33 · answer #6 · answered by Cherri 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, having an affair won't spice up your marriage, but it will end it. Perhaps that's what you want anyway.
2007-12-12 13:53:52 · answer #7 · answered by Sondra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a lover. It's really exciting
2007-12-12 10:55:20 · answer #8 · answered by wacky weed 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most of the time it is a two way street...you need to talk to a marriage counselor...and quick
2007-12-12 10:44:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Join the "married" club.
Dump him!
Then have some fun!
2007-12-12 10:36:23 · answer #10 · answered by Gyspy Soul 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋