I have temporary full custody, my ex only has "SUpervised visits"
I'm not required to tell him anything about the kid's right since i have full custody right?
Like his doctor stuff and about his report cards etc? I know if you have joint custody you have to send this stuff but not sure about this.
2007-12-12 00:45:41 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you dont have to tell him but you should keep him informed because they are his kids and that is soame things he should know about
2007-12-12 00:50:30 · answer #1 · answered by Sam T 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
yes, you should... he can take custody away if you do not communicate this information, my brother got custody of his daughter from the mother who had full custody because of this (he should not have custody but that's another story) ... just because you have full custody does not mean he is not allowed to know anything... it only means you get to make the major decisions... if you do not communicate, you can be held in contempt of court...
my brother's ex refused to let him know the doctor stuff and it affected how he was supposed to care for the child because she did not tell him! supervised visits, by you? or someone from his family? either way, he needs to know... as far as the school stuff, he needs to know that, too... how can he be a better father if you don't let him?
2007-12-12 01:18:16 · answer #2 · answered by elvlayarvvi fEisty wife and mom 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Depending on your state and the wording of your decree... it would be better light on you to photocopy the report cards, or email him with an update about the doctor and be the 'better man', you willing to co-parent.
My husband's ex tried this (had full custody and wouldn't communicate); it backfired- she lost custody and had to pay support and was only entitled to visitation-- the judge saw she was being spiteful and he wanted an adult to be responsible.
Besides-- if you don't tell the ex, they can contact school, doctors, etc and be entitled to any information-- all he needs to do is say he biological parent (may have to prove it by birth certificate or custody decree)
Why wouldn't you want him informed?
2007-12-12 00:53:31 · answer #3 · answered by Brandee 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Why would you not want to share these things? It would be in the best interest of the childs wellbeing that Dad know whats going on in his life. It is wrong to not share as some sort of punishment to the childs father. You should want to help nuture a bond between father and child.
If the father is a petifile or pervert it would make since, but you don't say why he has supervised visits.
2007-12-12 00:52:03 · answer #4 · answered by Gayle L 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It would say in your custody order if you had to. Take a look at the court documents. I am supposed to by court order, and my ex "could" have supervised visits if I allow. Unfortunately, he split 4yrs. ago and doesn't contact me, so I couldn't tell him anything even if I wanted to.
2007-12-12 01:09:51 · answer #5 · answered by StephiPets 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Unless you feel that he would use the information to hurt the child or get back at you, then why wouldn't you want to keep the lines of communication open? What if something happened to you, wouldn't you want the person who will be caring for your child to know as much as possible? Seems counter productive...unless of course you are protecting your child from harm, say kidnapping or abuse.
2007-12-12 01:02:53 · answer #6 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
While I don't believe you have to legally. If he is showing an interest in this stuff why wouldn't you share the information w/ him? He is the father after all. If the situtation was reversed I'm sure you'd want him to keep you informed.
2007-12-12 00:53:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't know about the legal aspect but why would you keep important medical and educational info from your ex? Your ex is STILL their dad, you chose to to have him as the father of your kids, he deserves to know about their lives so that he is more connected to them. You may not like that but your kids will benefit from their dad being informed and it's about the kids now.
2007-12-12 01:19:01 · answer #8 · answered by laura1977 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
if there is good reason not to tell don't, but if this parent is good to the kids and not a threat then no tell and try to have a good relationship cause it will make the kids hate you when they grow up and find out all the hiding was done.....think of kids not yourself and all things will be better...good luck
2007-12-12 00:51:39 · answer #9 · answered by daisy 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Unless you're a hate-full person I don't see any thing wrong with letting him know if he want to know! :--#)
2007-12-12 00:52:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋