My husband and I have been seperated for almost a year now. I left him because he has a drinking problem and it wasn't fair to let my daughters see it anymore. It was up to him to get better for us. Anyway to make a long story short he ended up finding someone else and now they are having a baby in a month. He calls like once a week to talk to the kids and I don't mind that at all but sometimes he calls me late at night to talk about the kids and I don't have a word to say to him. I guess you could say I can't stand him. Do I have to talk to him? Is it wrong for me to ignore him? He stopped paying me any money a few months ago for the kids and that is why I don't want to talk to him at all. What would you do? Do I have to talk to him even if the conversation is going nowhere? He says it is making him mad that I don't answer the phone anymore. He says I need to answer the phone when he calls.
2007-12-12 00:05:35 · 13 answers · asked by lvbrdy4vr 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
stop talking to him he is only spying on you and finding out if your with a man or not. best thing to start to do is not answer after a good time and still talk to him but, on your time. men do these things to try to keep you and there new wife or g/f just talk when you feel like it. when time goes on he will more then likely treat the new kids better then his first they always do....good luck
2007-12-12 01:06:44 · answer #1 · answered by daisy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he wants to talk about the kids, tell him to call at a decent time of day not late at night. And since he's not paying for the kids anymore I suggest you get a lawyer & sue for child support, He has a responsibility to his children, Whether he is with someone new & having a child with her or not, That has nothing to do with the children he already has. Let the lawyer do all the talking for you, you donot have to have contact with him if you don't wish to. Good Luck
2007-12-12 00:20:24 · answer #2 · answered by Blu 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It always cracks me up up when people can not act like adults and talk to each other like normal. Not saying you have to like each other but really dont you think it benefits children when parents can at least have a civil relationship.
Me and my ex get together for dinner once a month to discuss issues with our daughter. I know in a lot of circumstances this is impossible due to one or both parents, but a lot of times people do not try, they just let the failed relationship dictate what they do with the kids.
2007-12-12 00:19:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Like i told my exwife, "if it's not about the kids, it's not anything I want to talk to you about" After that make it short and to the point discussion, not a visit. I eventually had to get a restraining order issued by a Judge to stop the harassing biotch from calling me about other nonsense. I think she got the point when I went that far. By the way, I was the custodial parent and she went as far as feining disability to get out of paying support for her kids.
2007-12-12 00:59:23 · answer #4 · answered by nottwoshort 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the age of the kids. Staying on the same page when it comes to activities and school is a good thing for parents. My Ex and I called it the united front. We did not chit chat about yourselves, only about what the concerned the kids. After our child graduated, we had nothing to say to each other.
2007-12-12 00:21:18 · answer #5 · answered by bootsontheroad 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has every right to speak to his kids. But, you don't have any reason to talk to him, and if you don't want to, don't. Since he isn't paying child support, treat him as subhuman deadbeat scum. Cuz, that IS how he's acting. Pursue child support via the court or friend of court. Happy or mad, he IS responsible to financially contribute to support his kids. If and when he begins to act like a responsible human being- treat him as such. Until then, let him speak to his kids, and have NOTHING more to do with him.
2007-12-12 00:52:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first you need to get an attorney and get him to pay child support, As far as talking to him goes, YES, when it involves your kids you need to talk to him. I cannot stand my ex, but I deal with her on a daily basis. The kids should come first not your feeling towards him. If he sobers up he needs to be apart of their lives, he is their father.
2007-12-12 00:22:33 · answer #7 · answered by puglyparker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Number one rule: Let your daughters come to their own conclusions about their father. Encourage them to tell their father to get help (he WILL eventually listen to them). Support your daughters through this. Never, never ever badmouth your ex in front of your daughters. This is their father and they love him no matter what. Trust me, if you do this, in the end your daughters will not only love you too but they will respect you as well. What do you stand to lose but set an example for them?
2007-12-12 00:20:46 · answer #8 · answered by TCBgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you don't.No it is not wrong for you to ignore him.
I don't talk to mine cause he doesn't give a crap and doesn't call so i have no problem with mine . Besides most of the time he is hiding from the cops,but now he is in jail and going to prison.
I would talk to your lawyer if he is supposed to be paying support.
2007-12-12 00:32:26 · answer #9 · answered by lollypop 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He stopped paying for his children??? Deadbeat dad. You need to report him...especially if you have a separation agreement... if you don't, you need to get one to protect yourself and your children. He has no right to "divorce" his children financially. As far as talking to him?? Nope... you certainly don't have too. If he has any issues concerning the children??...then you can talk to him. Other than that??... p*ss on him. Do not let him bully you into thinking you need to answer the phone anytime he calls.... he's just trying to control you. Stay strong sweetie... but you seriously need to take this deadbeat to court.
2007-12-12 00:16:34 · answer #10 · answered by Racer 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋