what do u do when u feel?

Question

sometimes unlucky and frustrated?

Just curious ,
Thank u.

Answer 1

I somehow manage to do nothing under such circumstances. I mean, what else would you do if not restrain yourself and refrain from doing things haphazardly, and thus running a risk of making even more mistakes, and ending up more frustrated or feeling ever so more unlucky. But, I suspect by doing just that I allow myself a valuable chance to think, to reassemble my sense and recompose. Instead of acting out of desperation or duress in a bid to get rid to that cumbersome state of mind that is going to pass, I choose to do at least the least that I could. I know all things pass. But I have seldom seen other people trying to do what I manage to successfully do under these circumstances, and this approach of mine so far is working … and again I might be just a lucky person. :)

Answer 2

Emotions are reactions of your system, triggered by situations or happenings. When this reaction produces the feeling of frustration then it tells that there is a conflict between reality and what your wish or expectation is. You are aware of your feelings and you are identified with them, so it might be that you are not aware why you are feeling like this. So then you need to do several steps. First is to observe your feelings. To do so it will be necessary to do one little step and stand beside your feelings, otherwise you wouldn't be able to observe them. Then you can ask why you are frustrated and probably the answer will show up, giving you the understanding of your position and that you have a certain concept or self image and out of this you have an expectation how things should be. Mostly you can't change the outside conditions so you might come to the conclusion that you need to change your expectation and so your concept. Doing so you will be able to accept the reality you are encountering and you will not feel unlucky or frustrated. There are more benefits coming out of this, but you will experience these by yourself...
BeiYin

Answer 3

You need to get in training. So, try these exercises. Run down an escalator that is going up. Or fill a leaky bucket. That will give you a taste of what's in store. Not that you need one. You can already tell how frustrating a particular situation is becoming. Here's how to avoid exasperation. Quit while you are ahead. And if you can't do that - quit while you are behind. Just quit. If something is supposed to happen, it will. It is one thing to give fate a gentle nudge and another to drag it in a direction it does not want to go.

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Answer 4

I understand the emotion of frustration to come when my attempt to try to do something is blocked or thwarted. It's like you put so much into something or someone, then things don't turn out the way we want them to. It makes sense then that the feeling of frustration would also feel like being unlucky.

When this feeling arises for me then I look closer at what I was trying to do, and how this didn't turn out the way I wanted. I try to look behind the happening and look inside of myself and see my base desire that came before the feedback coming from life on the outside. I don't necessarily blame anybody for blocking my attempts, or blame life for not responding in the way I wanted. It's not necessarily my fault or theirs. It can be that what I wanted was a good thing, but in whatever way I presented it, I know I did it in a way that wasn't inviting to the other. This might be because the other person wasn't ready for what I was offering, meaning I gave them something they didn't ask for. I've learned that trying to help people who aren't asking for help, is a total waste of time, exactly for this reason. For this reason then I try to put my energy into things or person's that are asking for help, knowing then that the conditions are right, the door is open, there is not already a wall of resistance in front of me.

So then after I've looked closer at myself and the happening to find out the causes behind it, then I just accept the happening and my feelings. I know that if I keep pushing or putting energy into something that's already 'failed', then the result is likely to be 'more blocked energy'. So then to continue on in this same way for myself, I will end up with more frustration. The harder I push, the more frustrated I will get. It then becomes a waste of my energy, thinking I can force things to change or be the way I want, if only I try harder.

To continue on the same path or in the same way, it's like amassing all one's energy and trying to break down a brick wall with it. Frustration means the energy I've put out there has been met with resistance. So then what I do is 'I give up', i let the emotions recede and use this 'down time' to contemplate the happening, seeing what I can learn about myself, others and the world from it. Learning to meditate is very helpful for being better able to query oneself (thoughts and feelings) and outside happenings.

Betsy

Answer 5

Fret a little, Fume a little, Cry a little, Rest a little, think a little, (and then get up, wash my face) and, ACT a little...finally (if things don't change), Forget a little.

This is exactly the pattern I've observed myself following over the years...I move on from there, happy as can be.

Answer 6

Go to bed and try and sleep it off. Otherwise, watch the Jeremy Kyle show and realise that no matter how bad it gets, I'll never end up like some those sad people.

Answer 7

I pray. Its sound trivial and so simple, yes I know. But faith has this incredible sense of goodness and truth that it can't be denied that He really is listening to me. Its not blind or naive or wishful thinking. There is a One True God and He occurs to all of us in real tangible as well as intangible ways. It hard to explain but once you've felt His presence, you know without question.

Answer 8

Your body contracts from the spine it's an instinctive action which reflects the foetal position. It's a fact.

Answer 9

Think of a happy time, and get over it quick as poss

Answer 10

Swear, it lets the tension out