ok, im 6 mos. preg. and I'm so tired of the baby's father's excuses for why he cant see or be with me as much. we see eachother about 1-2 every one or 2 weeks and we talk on the phone every now and then. Hes excuses are that he's always stressed out because hes been trying to find a job for almost 3 mos. and worries that he wont be able to help me with the baby, and also because hes having a hard time trying to sell his house because hes not able to make the payments, etc. hes 31 n im 20, and he told me that i need to stop acting like a lil kid because i always call/text him telling him that i'm tired of him because he ignores me, leaves me hanging, doesnt want to be with me, etc but he gets on my nerves because when we see each other is only for about 1-2 hrs or so, and dont even seem like he wants sex with me anymore. I also get mad cause i feel like he doesnt understand or care about me because he gets mad when i complain about the way he is with me because he's always stressed out
2007-12-11 17:27:24 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Let him go. File for child support and come up with a plan for supporting yourself and this child that does not involve welfare.
2007-12-11 17:30:16 · answer #1 · answered by Mole Shooz Babii 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't be mad. Be annoyed and completely over him. He is 31 years old and should be able to make his mortgage payments. He doesn't care about your feelings. You are about to experience the biggest and most wonderful, emotional, stressful time in your life. You do not need extra drama from a 31 year child who sounds to me to be a selfish, want-to-be player. You are very young. You and that darling baby have a beautiful bright future. Start getting your life together right now. Also, if you think you are in love with this so-called man, just wait until that baby is put upon your chest for the very first time, you haven't even scratched the surface of love. Good luck and don't chase him. His loss. God Bless You.
2007-12-11 17:38:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say it but I would suggest speaking with someone about alimony and such, sounds like he is not gonna be around for you or the baby so make sure your financial situation for you and baby are gonna be OK. As for being mad, hell I would probably throw things, specially while I was pregnant, either that or cry for 8 hours or so (after the first 2hrs I would forget what I was crying about abut then continue for a few more hours). The fun of pregnancy, and post pregnancy. Look out for you and the baby, if this guy is being such a jerk get ready to stand on your own feet and I wouldn't rely on him too much, if you get dependent upon him and then he jumps ship it will be twice as hard for you and baby.
If you want to make it work with him then sit his **** down, explain to him that he was responsible for making this child with you and he better wake up and smell the roses and get his act together, he is soon to have a new life rely upon him plus you are in a fragile stage of your life that if you rely on him he HAS to commit otherwise he will be more of a hinder the help.
2007-12-11 17:36:54 · answer #3 · answered by Moonrize 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't want to be in a relationship with you. It sucks big time, but you need to focus your energy on how you will raise this baby and let him go. Make sure you have court ordered child support to help with the costs. Your life is about to change enormously so there is no more time to run after Mr. Don't Wanna be a Daddy, sex is not a priority,,,,,,,, get moving on health care, baby items, daycare and thinking about how you will support this new person that you are bringing into the world. You are going to be a mom and that MUST take priority over everything else. One thing he got right, you are no longer a little kid and need to get on track with it.
2007-12-11 17:42:13 · answer #4 · answered by dizzkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is either a jerk..or maybe he is depressed!
Maybe you should just quit calling him all of the time and quit texting him.
Set up a romantic dinner somewhere...get him a cute little baby gift (like a onesie that says "worlds greatest dad"), and have a nice serious talk. Dont nag at him, and try not to get angry with him because that will only cause him to get angry as well! Tell him how you are feeling and tell him not to worry about stuff anymore! Let him know things will be okay, and that if he supports you with this pregnancy than you will support him!
Try working together, and if he still seems like he is distancing himself from you than just break it off with him!
At least you know you tried!
Good luck!
Hope it goes well!
By the way- CONGRADULATIONS!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-12-11 17:57:28 · answer #5 · answered by mr.t'smom 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sweetie, to me it sounds like he was using you and now that your pregnant, he is feeding you all the excuses he can think of to throw you to the side. I would just move on...you can do it. Do you have family that will help you? There is a lot of women that do it with out the dead beat fathers. If he cared I think you would be seeing and talking to him alot more....by his choice. And the no more sex thing...yea... move on and forget about that jerk! You and your baby deserve better. Good Luck!
2007-12-11 17:34:16 · answer #6 · answered by jenha1005 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get mad at a fool and a liar. Start trying to find someone who will care for and support you and your baby and it will be time worth spent. If you show you can function without him, he'll probably come running back one day and that's when you tell him how childish he has been.
2007-12-11 17:45:27 · answer #7 · answered by pozitive thinking 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there done that girl. I'm 22 now. One thing you need to think about....if he act this way once the baby is here, you don't need that in your life. I would just be up front and tell him....Look if you cant step up and be with me then leave me alone. You dont need any added stress, pregnancy is stressfull as it is. YOU DONT NEED ANYONE IN YOUR LIFE THAT DONT NEED YOU IN THEIRS!!!
Congrats on the baby and best of luck to you, keep your head up you deserve better!
2007-12-11 17:34:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave him.
it's not worth putting yourself through this for someone who couldn't care less.
He's 31 and doesn't even have a job.
Your better off without him, he sounds like a loser.
You absolutely have the right to be mad, but don't be because he is not worth it.
2007-12-11 17:37:44 · answer #9 · answered by j.d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋