Is Golfing with a female co-worker concidered cheating?

Question

My wife tells me that I cheated on her cuase I went golfing with a female co-worker? Is this correct, we did nothing, I mean nothing! We had a good time talking, but again nothing happened.

She she know before hand. But it took 4 hours to play 18 holes, My co woker wants to play and she is still learning the game. I told her I would help her, nothing more. Friends Help.

Answer 1

Technically it is not adultery. However your wife may feel as betrayed as if you actually had sex with the woman. She is probably wondering why you had to spend an entire afternoon or day with another woman alone and not her. Not even in a group of co-workers, that would have been more acceptable. It is always best to err on the side of prudence in family matters. When in doubt do without.

Answer 2

Sorry, your playing with fire here. First, did your wife know a head of time that you were going to go golfing with her? If not, why not?
Second, even if your wife does not like to golf and co-worker does, you should have invited your wife, made sure SHE was comfortable with this outing.
Look, it is like this, honestly, would you appreciate your wife going golfing with a male co-worker? reverse the situation, and remember women act on more emotions, not as men do, they rationalize and appear more logical..
were you cheating as in an affair, well from what you said, no, unless it is something you purposely or subconsciously KEPT from your wife.
This type of situation can only lead to negative things and feelings for someone, and it has already started, with your wife. Even if your wife knew before hand, time frame is causing her concern, back off,what is more important here, your wife and her feelings, or how kind you are to a co-worker who don't know how to golf?. You could get out of that gracefully if you wanted to.

Answer 3

Wow, no I wouldn't call that cheating at all. I'd say the issue has most likely come up because you possibly didn't consult with her first? She might have thought you were trying to be secretive about your golf game with your female colleague, which would therefore lead to her raising suspicions about your fidelity.

I guess all you can do is reassure her that you love her, you would never dream of being unfailthful, and that the golf was purely a social outing and not a romantic one. It would be a good idea in the future though to let her know beforehand of any work-related get-togethers you might have coming up. That way she'll know for sure you're not trying to be secretive.

Good luck.

Answer 4

Who else was with you guys? I mean, if you played 18 holes with this co-worker, that takes a quick golfer about 2 1/2 hours (and I'm thinking of my dad who can do that--but he's a golf pro who regularly golfs in the low 70's). What was the purpose of the golf game--I understand business can be conducted on the golf course, but I also know monkey business happens on a golf course (remember, my dad's a golf pro--I've heard his stories of catching couples in the rough, so to speak). I would be angry if I were your wife as well, unless you had a darned good explanation. If you were doing that just for fun, that's too much time spent with someone of the opposite sex, period. You shouldn't be having a good time doing anything with another woman, period. Business is business, and most wives understand that, but playing a round of golf together is basically a date.

Edit: If your wife knew you were teaching her beforehand, then she honestly has no call to be upset. HOWEVER, you might want to suggest your friend simply take some lessons--put her in touch with your favorite golf pro and let him/her do the teaching.

Answer 5

No of course it isn't cheating and I'm sure deep down your wife knows it isn't cheating. She is just probably feeling jealous that her husband was out for the afternoon with another woman. I know some men would feel very un easy with their wife going out with a man from work for four hours. Its not that she doesn't trust you its just women know how persuasive other women can be. I'm sure if you sit her down and tell her how sorry you are that you hurt her and if you had knowin she would have been so hurt you wouldn't have gone, it should be ok. Just remember in the future how touchy spending time alone with another female is to your wife. Good luck.

Answer 6

Did you tell your wife that you were going golfing beforehand?? If not.....think about the reason why you didn't. Was the golfing planned?? Maybe your wife does not golf, but enjoys dancing. If she planned a night out dancing with a new male friend that you have no relationship with, and didn't tell you, how would you feel?? Would it make you feel better if she told you that they just danced, talked, and had a really great time?? CUT THE CRAP

Answer 7

Well, let me ask you, how would you feel if your wife went and played tennis with a male co-worker and they laughed, talked all day, acted like old buddies and told you.....wouldn't you be concerned that she might want to keep doing things with him??? As long as you play golf with more than one female co-worker, meaning, you have witnesses that you acted like a gentleman, then go ahead, play as much as you want....besides, there are always cameras everywhere and can be the judge of yours and your co-worker's behavior on the greens LOL!

Answer 8

I know that if my husband made plans with another woman, then went with her alone, I would consider it a date. How would you feel if your wife made plans to go do something with another man, that you do not know, that she sees every day at work and enjoys talking to, and went out with him alone, doing that certain thing that she enjoys doing with another man that she enjoys talking to, for a number of hours, just him and her alone. How would that make you feel? It would have been different if there were other co-workers there. But it sounds like a pre-made plan that you two made together, to go together, alone. Sounds like a date, and going on a date with a woman that is not your wife...is considered cheating.

Answer 9

Trying to argue this point is futile. If she thinks you are cheating, you ARE cheating. Anyway, an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure in matter of the heart.

PS: If she want's to learn golf, she can take lessons from the "pro".

Answer 10

Why wouldnt you take your wife golfing? Would you mind if your wife went out with another guy and "did nothing"? I might get thumbs down from all the guys answering, but I personally wouldn't like it, i understand your wife being mad completley.