I have never cheated , never abused her , always paid for everything . She has tons of hatred in her about my family , now me .We are still in the same house , but I worry mostly about our 2 young sons .We are in councelling , but she says she can not change her mind .No other guy but she has said she wants to neck with someone else?
2007-12-11 17:04:52 · 22 answers · asked by royalcres 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What is the question?
You do know that the only person that can help you is yourself, right?
Be brave. Dare to help yourself.
Good luck.
2007-12-11 17:09:03 · answer #1 · answered by box of rain 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You're right, marital counselling and having elders talk to her isn't gonna resolve the situation. Correctly, the predicament is beyond repair and that i feel divorce is the excellent method out. Hire a legal professional and take a look at to file a case on grounds of- 1. Cruelty 2. Forget about three. Sexual forget I also feel she possibly having affairs outside and that attitude would ought to be investigated. If established so, adultery will be the fourth cost. I failed to realise two things - 1. Did she leave you and the youngsters at the time of your surgical procedure or did she take the children along with her? And a pair of. What were the surgeries in regard with? You don't have to suffer such forget about, harassment and torture. Attempt to contact the guys's rights activist. Google the internet site and ship them an electronic mail and get some aid. And speak sternly to her about the cellphone calls and affairs and get straighten matters out. Be a man!!!
2016-08-06 11:13:28 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she has fallen out of love with you, she feels guilty for falling out of love with you so she has to "hate" you and your family to make herself feel better and she already has sexual (not romantic) feelings for some other guy.
1. Why are you in marriage counseling if she says she doesn't want to be with you?
2. You should be in family counseling with your 2 sons to learn the BEST way to care for your 2 sons as a broken family. For example, the therapist should tell her that she should NEVER bad mouth you or your family to your sons - same goes for you.
3. You can use her guilt against her. Tell her if she wants to neck with someone else, that she cannot stay married and stay in the home with you and the boys. She might just run off which would be nice if you could keep custody of the boys.
4. Don't file for divorce, see a mediator - it's much cheaper and much more "guy" friendly way of divorcing.
2007-12-11 17:09:26 · answer #3 · answered by Dina K 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you're maximum appropriate, marital counselling and having elders communicate over along with her isn't gonna confirm the placement. in certainty, the undertaking is previous restoration and that i've got faith divorce is the appropriate way out. hire a lawyer and attempt to document a case on grounds of- a million. Cruelty 2. overlook 3. Sexual overlook I additionally think of she may be having affairs outdoors and that attitude might prefer to be investigated. If shown so, adultery may be the fourth value. i did no longer understand 2 issues - a million. Did she leave you and the toddlers on the time of your surgical technique or did she take the toddlers along with her? and a pair of. What have been the surgical procedures in regard with? you do no longer could desire to go through such overlook, harassment and torture. attempt to touch the adult males's rights activist. Google the information superhighway web site and deliver them an e mail and get some help. And communicate sternly to her on the subject of the telephone calls and affairs and get straighten issues out. Be a guy!!!
2016-11-25 23:54:12 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't mention if you were both Christians, but I would first suggest speaking with your Pastor. If your church does not have a Family Pastor, you may be referred to a Christian Counsellor or Therapist. Don't be ashamed although it is hard not to feel that way during this time. Having gone through this myself, I do know the pain and hurt you are feeling. The feelings of not being in control. I do have one suggestion. Go to the website of Dr. James Dobson at http://www.family.org and I am sure you will find some answers there. If not, I have several other good places you can check out. Please get back to me if you need additional information.
2007-12-11 17:12:44 · answer #5 · answered by Radar4925 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're here asking for advice you must really love this woman....show her that. Women love to be showered with love and attention..trust me. The only way this wont work is if you did her something that you didn't mention. However if this anger that she had towards your family turns to you simply means that she might want you to choose between her and your family. Maybe a couple days away from your current environment would help you both. Too much space between you guys will make things worse. Think about what i have said and if you think its worth the extra effort....pamper your wife and make her see what a good thing you guys have.
Good Luck....I'll be praying for you OK
2007-12-11 17:15:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact is, you cannot control anyone else's behavior. You can only control yourself. If your wife has decided to leave, there's nothing you can do about it. I'm sorry for you, because it sounds like this is causing you a lot of pain. All I can say is, if she wants to leave, and despite your best efforts she still wants to leave, all you can do is let her go. Trying to hold on or get her to stay will only further push her away.
You never know, once she's gone you may find yourself relieved.
Best wishes to you.
2007-12-11 17:12:30 · answer #7 · answered by kyeri y 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK did you get married young if so this could be what it is she is now feeling that she did not have much of wow type of life party's going out and having fun. At the time she may have thought that she was ready but now feels she has missed out on something. First things first sort this out and figure out what it is that is really going on tell her if this is the case then you will seek custody of the boys. Good luck
2007-12-11 17:11:11 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs Magoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't change her, you can only change yourself. I'm sorry she feels so badly about your family, but again, you can't control that. You are right to be concerned about your sons. I'm glad you're in counseling, you might want to bring up that concern in counseling. If you do wind up divorcing (and I'm sorry to say it sounds like you will), then she needs to understand that badmouthing you or your family to your children is simply not acceptable behavior. I hope she would never do that, but I've seen many children turned against their fathers by vindictive mothers, in situations where I knew both parties, and knew the father was a very decent guy, who maybe made a massive error in judgement. Good luck to you both, and especially to your children.
2007-12-11 17:10:19 · answer #9 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since I am not privy to your sessions, I can't figure out what is exactly the problem, or how you can or IF you can resolve this. Sounds like the bloom has really gone from the roses. Maybe some "time off" may be a viable answer.
2007-12-11 17:13:56 · answer #10 · answered by cattbarf 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to live life. There are going to be some hard times, you just have to roll with the punches.
Your going through a very tough time, you'll find a way. There is always someone better you could love.
Just concentrate on your kids, and make sure they will have good futures ahead of them.
2007-12-11 17:09:07 · answer #11 · answered by Queen Neferetiri 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋