I went to my husband's work party and he is part of management team. He had to give a presentation, but kept praising one of his female coworkers - around 3 times! My question is should I be mad????
2007-12-11 17:04:27 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
-that she is the best employee, and that she is modest
-she is a temp, but he wants her to stay longer
-praised her presentations
2007-12-11 17:08:31 · update #1
i don't think you should be. i would just bring in up in kind of a joking manner...and if he gets all serious then i would start to worry and take the conversation to a deeper level. hopefully its nothing, just a good co worker. good luck.
2007-12-11 17:08:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Angry no jealous a little but with a cool head on my shoulders and I would realize where MY jealousy came from.
Anyway, perhaps she is a good worker and he was actually trying to inspire others to work harder or be as efficient as she was. Sometimes people over praise others to highlight what the other workers need to work on.
For example, I remember I had trouble cutting my grass. I worked and had 2 kids and was always tired. So I was lax in cutting it. My neighbor would notice when I did and he would praise me to high heaven. OH it looks so nice, doesn't it smell good, you did a great job etc... on and on. It was for a purpose.
If you notice other things or other signs then I would be wary but at the moment it seems as if nothing is really wrong.
2007-12-12 01:15:55 · answer #2 · answered by bssd12000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it hurt your feelings more than anything to hear him speak highly of another woman. You love him a lot and that would be hard to sit through. It sounds like he is a team player and willing to give credit where credit is due. Don't let your hurt feelings overcloud a work situation. If he continues this praising at home and gives you a warranted reason to be suspicious it's another thing. Be proud of him as a woman for recognizing another female for a job well done otherwise.
2007-12-12 01:14:26 · answer #3 · answered by Teresa S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends. If he was focusing solely on how well she contributed as a professional then you have no reason to be mad. Ask yourself if he could have praised a male coworker in the same way. If so, you are reading too much into it. If not, I would tell him you didn't feel it was appropriate. Communication is key.
2007-12-12 01:09:08 · answer #4 · answered by J.M. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is probably nothing to be worried about and its not reasonable to be angry at him for praising a co-worker.
However emotions are not reasonable things and dont follow logic - I would probably be annoyed too in your situation although there isnt really a very big cause.
2007-12-12 07:10:24 · answer #5 · answered by katie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it would depend on what he said? i work with all males i am the only female in a work place of 37 trades men and i have a very good realtionship with many, at my work xmas party my husband was there and i spoke with one of the guys i am pretty good friends with we get along well, when walking past the dance floor with my husband he grabbed me and pulled me to the dance floor my husband knows nothing will happen we are friends! so i would say look back and see if it were encouragement, a friend to friend or a "thing" they have?? dont jump to conclusoins
2007-12-12 01:11:34 · answer #6 · answered by ella bieracki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats' not that bad...she must have been attractive and you found something innocent a threat. You were probably thinking if he does this in person, what kind of compliments he gives behind closed doors? He's probably professional.
Maybe you wish you were doing something praiseworthy or if you are that he noticed and praised you more. Tell him!
2007-12-12 01:26:22 · answer #7 · answered by Lil Blousou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, Unless you supect something going on. Maybe she did all the work on it. You need to know what is going on, before you judge. I got a wife like you and it sucks, sorry. I get judged and accused a lot cause one of my very good friends is a female
2007-12-12 01:10:48 · answer #8 · answered by PHP 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you be mad if he praised her professional performance? If this is all you have to go on, it sounds more like your insecurity is a problem, not his behavior.
2007-12-12 01:09:51 · answer #9 · answered by fdm215 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are mad about this, i assume you have insecurity issues and/or don't trust your husband.
I don't get why you'd be mad... doesn't make sense, unless he is coming home late, making excuses why he has to go out, etc. otherwise, i don't see sufficient reason, except irrational ones
2007-12-12 01:09:58 · answer #10 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋