Have you ever tried?

Question

Have you ever tried to get along with or tried to like someone that is just NOT likable?

Answer 1

sure have in my workplace and social life. Sometimes its just not possible for too long as they can be quite draining on your energy...take a look at these persons personality traits and think about whether its worth your time and effort if you want to get to know them and be there friend....make sure they are trying to be nice too...friendship goes both ways

good luck :-)

Answer 2

Sometimes first impressions are what we judge people by and unfortunately when there is someone that isn't likable it has a lot to do with that first impression we had of them. That first impression is implanted very deeply and it takes a lot to overcome it.

Everyone has some redeeming value to them, even the worse kind of personality. I try to find that one positive thing in a person and attempt to develop some sort of relationship around that positive thing.

There are times when someone is just so obnoxious that no matter how hard you try, that one redeeming quality just isn't strong enough to overpower the rest and no matter how hard we try we just can't seem to get it to develop into anything.

When it gets to that point, it is probably best to just leave things well enough alone and only deal with that person when absolutely necessary.

When I was in highschool, my first real girlfriend was the girl that everyone else avoided because she wasn't attractive or popular like a lot of the other girls. She wasn't what most would call a pretty girl. She wore horn rimmed glasses, was always making pretty good grades, and was just an all around loner. Her name wasn't a big help either, I mean after all, what could a "Quinette" really be like, after all.

The more I talked with her and spent time with her, the more and more I found that there was really a very nice and very "pretty" girl under that not so presentable surface that was shown to everyone. We dated for close to a year, a typical highschool romance. As our class schedules drifted apart, so did our relationship. I learned a very good lesson though, from then on, I tried to look past the surface to see what was underneath, after all, you find all kinds of interesting things under ugly rocks.

Good Luck.

Answer 3

Oh yeah....for the past four years I have butted heads on the message boards with this one woman.....she can say that she doesn't like to eat tomatoes, and if I say ohhh me too because of the time my Grandma force-fed me stewed tomatoes, she'll go off on this tangent that its not the same thing.....So many different things.....

No matter how I've tried to get along with this woman, we just can't....

Answer 4

I have tried a person accepts the fact not everyone will like you. So sometimes the best thing to do isw move on.

Answer 5

I am the kind of person that always tries to find the good or positive in another. Sometimes it is very hard to find that needle in the haystack!

Answer 6

Yeah... Usually I would not waste my time, ever... But in a work situation, it's kind of mandatory to keep the peace....

Answer 7

yes, and after a while I actually found out I liked the person after all.

Answer 8

Sure.

It happens to everyone with a job....except maybe lighthouse keepers.

Answer 9

Honestly Suzi, i am a lovable person & all my friends love me !

Answer 10

yup, and sometimes it just isn't possible, some people just don't "click"
try and if it doesn't work, don't waist you time, trying to become something your not...... MOVE ON