Hi,
I am typically a t-shirt and jeans kind of girl. I ALWAYS do my hair and I more often than not wear make-up, but I feel I can do all this and still look beautiful with a cute t-shirt and jeans on.
Now, my boyfriend is like this, no matter what I'm doing, if I'm going to the gas station, or even if we're just going to Wal-Mart 12 in the morning, he expects me to look the same way I do when going to school or work. This means I have to wear a fancy top with my jeans or a dress, with jewelry, make-up and have my hair done. What's wrong with me wanting to be comfortable every now and then. I went to the store with my hair in a ponytail and well, jeans and a t-shirt on the other day and it really bothered him. Now, let me make this side note. I hate dresses and his ex always wears them, he has done everything in his power to make me wear them even when I say I'm not comfortable in them he still tries. Also, his ex is ALWAYS dolled up. Is he trying to turn me into her?
2007-12-11 15:34:02 · 19 answers · asked by Tnisha 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
What's funny is that these dumbass chicks telling you to dump him are the same ones who nag and b*tch at their boyfriends nonstop. Bunch of loser hypocrites.
2007-12-13 19:22:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay first of all if it is true love or even worth your time he should allow you to be your self. Second, if that is how is ex is than of course he is plainly not over her at all because there is no reason for a guy to do that. He is so controlling you and you do not need that at all that only leads you down a horrible road and just get out before you bring a child or marriage into this picture not only is he going to ruin you but your child and your marraige, and not to mention there are way more men out there way worth your time and your sexiness. Don't let one man keep you from being happy especially when there are no strings attached like a child or a ring.
2007-12-11 15:42:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is "a cross dresser" but hasn't come out of the closet at this stage. Well he does seem to be fascinated with dresses doesn't he. Next time he dictates that you wear a dress say to him "You have an unhealthy fascination with female attire - sure you don't want to try one on yourself????" I am wondering if he is the same about lingerie and if so well I would have serious doubts about this guy and plus yes as others have said he is a control freak and if you are going to continue with him you should start telling him what to wear and see how he takes it.
2007-12-11 20:11:22 · answer #3 · answered by veraswanee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may be trying to turn you into her, but I tend to think more that he is a controlling person. Maybe his ex wife dresses like that now because of him and she just got use to it. My husband tried that before we got married. He told me that if I was going to wear what I had on (which was just a short dress, not to short but it was the 70's) that he would not go up the road with me. At first I went to change and then realized what I was doing. I came back in the room with the same clothes on and said that if he wanted to go with me then he had to except me the way I was, if not he could leave. He didn't like it, but we went on up the road. And he hasn't said any thing about how I dress since, and we have been married for 33 years now. Stand your ground, if he cares more for you then for the way you dress, then he may not like it, but he will except it. Oh and tell him you are not his ex wife and don't dress the way she does, that you are your own person with your own tastes, take it or leave it.
2007-12-11 15:45:23 · answer #4 · answered by jenx 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First play the same game with him, by making him dress his best when going out with you . Then push him to the limit then dump his behind and find someone who will except you for who you are.
2007-12-11 21:33:34 · answer #5 · answered by yani 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to **** off. Or say I'll be dress nice all the time if you wear a suit all the time. But really if he is telling you what to wear, I would talk to him about it and if he isn't willing to stopping being so controlling then get out of the relationship.
2007-12-11 15:39:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymity 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like he thinks of you as a reflection on him personally. Try talking to him about it and let him know what realistic expectations are for you. If he loves you, he wouldn't want you stressed out like that all the time.
2007-12-11 15:37:10 · answer #7 · answered by sublime 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm Just Like You!!..only my Boyfriend doesnt care how i look.
I think he is tryng to make you like her in some sort of way.
You have to tell him your not like her and you dont like getting all dressed up All The Time..and you Hate dresses.
If he loves you he will understand.
2007-12-11 15:40:59 · answer #8 · answered by James Dean Girl <3 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok I am sorry but he is too controlling either he is fine with how you want to dress or you leave him. simple as that. you can't let a man or anyone else tell you what you should look like and when and where you should do it. you know? dump him if he doesn't back off.
2007-12-11 15:38:18 · answer #9 · answered by brighteyesjfk 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The question should be how long are you going to put up with this bull crap, Tell him no more, if you don't like me in anything other than what you think I should wear you can leave.
2007-12-11 15:37:26 · answer #10 · answered by Tiger by the Tail 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋